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In reply to the discussion: This Woman Filmed Her Abortion to Show Other People it Doesn't Have to be Scary. [View all]PeaceNikki
(27,985 posts)134. Exactly the point of the article in the OP. MOST women don't regret it. It's a fact.
It may not fit with your narrative, but it's a fact.
I know there are women who feel great remorse. I have seen the tears. Grieving is an important part of a womans process, but what I really wanted to address in my video is guilt, Letts writes. Our society breeds this guilt. We inhale it from all directions. Even women who come to the clinic completely solid in their decision to have an abortion say they feel guilty for not feeling guilty
They pressure themselves to feel bad about it.
Studies have found that those negative emotions typically stem from a deeply ingrained stigma surrounding abortion that teaches women its supposed to be secretive and shameful. Reproductive rights advocates are attempting to get rid of that stigma by encouraging more women to tell their stories. Storytelling efforts like the 1 in 3 Campaign which draws its name from the fact that one in three U.S. women will have an abortion in her lifetime intend to help Americans understand that this is an issue affecting a wide range of people across the country. Just like young women like Letts have important stories about how relatively painless and easy having a surgical abortion can be, older women have their own stories about what it was like to have an illegal and dangerous abortion before Roe v. Wade.
Studies have found that those negative emotions typically stem from a deeply ingrained stigma surrounding abortion that teaches women its supposed to be secretive and shameful. Reproductive rights advocates are attempting to get rid of that stigma by encouraging more women to tell their stories. Storytelling efforts like the 1 in 3 Campaign which draws its name from the fact that one in three U.S. women will have an abortion in her lifetime intend to help Americans understand that this is an issue affecting a wide range of people across the country. Just like young women like Letts have important stories about how relatively painless and easy having a surgical abortion can be, older women have their own stories about what it was like to have an illegal and dangerous abortion before Roe v. Wade.
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This Woman Filmed Her Abortion to Show Other People it Doesn't Have to be Scary. [View all]
Agschmid
May 2014
OP
this is wonderful, if for no other reason than to show a reasonable standard of care
nashville_brook
May 2014
#2
I know, right. When I was 6 weeks preggers with my son I had to have a sonogram done
all american girl
May 2014
#57
Yes, she is brave and I'm sure she will be harassed by anti-abortion whackos
BrotherIvan
May 2014
#4
Most of the women I helped had relief, not emotionally eventful beyond that.
uppityperson
May 2014
#65
For some, it was quite emotional. For most, not so much. And now, 30 yrs after working with the
uppityperson
May 2014
#67
this is a discussion board. i'm allowed to "jump in" without your permission.
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#114
the fact that you brought it up on a discussion about emotional impact on the woman.
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#123
Agreed. I am also a bit appalled at the idea that a HIGH SCHOOL GIRL should carry the weight of this
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#154
My sib looks back with no regrets. There is no one right way to feel or be, no expectations should
uppityperson
May 2014
#136
exactly. it's about one in three women. for many it is a relief or non eventful
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#98
Exactly the point of the article in the OP. MOST women don't regret it. It's a fact.
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#134
I read her essay or up till the part where she gave the reasons for not using BC.
dilby
May 2014
#26
She said she didn't want the side effect of depression either. Why have you omitted that?
Squinch
May 2014
#35
A friend of mine works at a clinic and needed an abortion when her IUD failed.
LeftyMom
May 2014
#13
As offended as I am about the post, I'm WAY more offended at LEAVE IT ALONE voters #1 and 4.
eggplant
May 2014
#15
This doesn't surprise me at all. The real DU members have begun to listen raptly to the socks.
Squinch
May 2014
#29
You know....you can alert on the results--take a look the bottom of the email. GOes right to admin.
msanthrope
May 2014
#38
So you think that gives you a pass to post insulting crap about a woman who needs an abortion?
Squinch
May 2014
#30
You are replying to yourself, telling yourself you can cheer yourself up by posting insulting stuff?
uppityperson
May 2014
#50
Rather like a mechanic needing his oil changed, or a dentist needing teeth cleaned?
uppityperson
May 2014
#55
There is nothing "cool" about a woman having an abortion. It's a legal procedure I support.
Beausoir
May 2014
#22
Its not a big deal. Its just a procedure and once the stigma goes away its pretty cool to see
951-Riverside
May 2014
#23
So feel free not to call it cool. Others feel differently. I'd suggest you stop chastising, but I
Squinch
May 2014
#31
Your opinion, not mine. Having control of my reproduction and the right/ability to terminate IS
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#44
Whoosh. It is cool there is a video showing what happens to counter misconceptions and lies about
uppityperson
May 2014
#51
There's is a different approach to medicine, sexuality, fertility and life--so follows the language
Supersedeas
May 2014
#160
Similarly, it's horrible and wrong to imply that women MUST agonize, feel sad and guilty.
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#85
Your sanctimony only helps make the case for the anti-choicers. Yeah, I said it. n/t
nomorenomore08
May 2014
#168
I wonder how many death threats she's gotten from the "pro-life" crowd.
Spitfire of ATJ
May 2014
#11
The social stigma is worse than the pelvic procedure although a Mifepristone (or RU-486) pill is
Sunlei
May 2014
#33
It's important that people know that not all women experience guilty, sadness, etc.
hamsterjill
May 2014
#52
I don't think so. It's a procedure that takes longer than a swab. Fine, you don't get it. I do.
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#71
To her. You don't get how she felt it was. It's ok. Nobody said you must agree with her.
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#74
One of my Catholic school mates has already posted this on FB, stating how disgusting
blueamy66
May 2014
#63
If I were to choose a public face for reproductive rights, this woman would not have been it.
Nine
May 2014
#75
We prochoicers have to stop being so sensitive to the other side. They don't care and never will.
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#76
This woman is a woman. Therefore she is a perfectly acceptable poster child. Period.
Squinch
May 2014
#131
For some it's a a solemn and difficult choice, not all. Not most. That's the whole point.
PeaceNikki
May 2014
#152
It would be so COOL if she was getting a pedicure WHILE having an abortion WHILE YouTubing it!
Beausoir
May 2014
#172