Wow... The Slut Shaming On Monica Lewinsky... Is Eye Opening...

[RainDog]

31. Sadly, I've seen this a lot too

It's what first put me off some, well, mostly someone here at DU who thought she was slut shaming someone but had the wrong person... and saw this repeatedly.

not to get into it in any real way - but that happened to me here when talking about the reason some feminists opposed the MacKinnon/Dworkin attempt to censor via civil rights. Nothing I said had anything to do with me. It was all about the issue of feminism's past history of combatting censorship (for birth control information in the 1800s till the 1900s, for instance), and someone snarked that I only wanted to wear fuck me shoes.

yeah.

That's why I generally avoid certain people/issues - and have put those who did these things back on ignore.

So, yeah, I know this from my experience here. I didn't start it - but I will give it back if they go there.

I also have had quite a few male friends in my life but it's because we're often interested in some of the same things. When I find a female that shares those interests, I'm thrilled.

But, knowing quite a few guy friends - they also gossip. They just don't try to cut down women when they do, around me, because they know I won't put up with it.

I always heard the expression that small minds discuss people. Great minds discuss ideas. So, when I see that sort of thing - I just remember that expression (and, yes, I have hidden posts/ignored people who seemed to only want to discuss people or slogans and not issues.)

If you want to discuss issues, however, you have to be willing to not insult others if you want them to hear you - tho I have insulted others, no doubt- but that's not my sop.