If a man is good looking enough, is it okay if he sleeps with a minor?

[ithinkmyliverhurts]

8. For a man, no, of course not.

This is a good post and a good discussion starter as long as we can approach it with good will.

I'm not so sure your question really states where you wish to go with this line of inquiry. You want to know if there is equality amongst the sexes. I will oblige and become your sacrificial lamb

If a 14-17 year-old male (I use 14 because it seems to be the age of advanced puberty, but I'm not stuck on this age) is invited to have sex with an older woman and agrees, then one could argue that there is nothing coercive. This position is blatantly sexist because it admits a biological/psychological difference between men and women. Men, not all!!!!!!!, are predatory and desire via libido to bed women. Women, not all!!!!!!!!, tend to seek relationships and tend to seek out the approval of men. So when a young man has sex with an older woman, he truly gets what he physically desires. It's like eating pizza for him. When a young woman sleeps with an older man (and then is ultimately rejected, which is often the case), she is seeking fulfillment beyond the physical and is therefore psychologically harmed.

So when we see a woman acting as a man, as in this case, we automatically desire to put the male in the position of the female, but this is most often not the case; i.e., we desire to see him as a victim (which may be the case, but most likely is not).

By the way, this is the argument put forward by NAMBLA and many gay advocates for erasing certain sex laws in this country. The argument is that men have different sexual urges than women (SHOCK!!!!!!!!) and so ought to reflected in the laws. Two men engaging in sex, no matter the age difference, ought to be treated differently than heterosexual relations.

O.K., I think I answered your implied questions rather directly. I'm now ready to be flayed.