How Patriarchy affects men, a self perpetuating cycle of denial and excuses.

[davidn3600]

35. The core is the belief that anything "feminine" is weak

That's really all you need to do to perpetuate a patriarchy culture.

And even a lot of women who are die-hard feminists fall victim to it when they feel they have to act like a man or feel forced to do male activities in order to feel equal....which unintentionally perpetuates the idea that masculinity is superior. In other words....When women simply act like men, it doesn't raise femininity to the masculine level. When a woman does this, she leaves femininity behind and simply takes on masculine traits (ie: a tomboy). This is acceptable to most in our society because society views this as an upgrade, for lack of a better word.
Now when you go the other way (a male takes on a feminine trait), society views that as a downgrade. If a boy for example plays with girls toys or wants to do ballet, he faces social ridicule. Some may even question his sexual orientation.

And that's where feminism loses me. Because I don't really feel like it's attacking what needs to be attacked. The focus seems to be simply to put women into male roles and then call that equality. That strategy will not crush the patriarchy. The only way to crush the patriarchy is to make femininity equal to masculinity. And when you look at JUST THAT...we really haven't moved much from the 1950s. But in the future, if we make femininity and masculinity equal...the categories cease to exist. That's when you have true gender equality.