Are you an enabler of hate?

[el_bryanto]

20. May I ask why you pause ?

Is it more because you are curious why I think that way? Or because you are surprised to see an enabler of hate at DU?

At any rate like I said there are a variety of cases in which you might here a racists slur (or any of the other slurs you mentioned) - if you are present where it's directed to a person than you have a responsibility to stand up and say that's not acceptable - you need to protect the wounded party - i.e. the person towards whom the slur or joke was aimed at.

If on the other hand it's a conversation between you and a person without it being aimed at someone directly but just in general - as in most racist jokes for example than you decide what the best approach it is. If the person you are talking to is an asshole than you should say whatever you think is best - but if you are talking to someone who is a friend or a family member you generally think of as a good person than you decide what approach is best. Because the goal should be to turn your friend (someone who presumably you think has many good qualities) from a someone who says those racist things without thinking to someone who is a bit more aware of what they are saying and what kind of world we live in. And in that case you figure out the best approach and go from there. And the best approach might not always be the confrontational one.

Bryant