I notice a lot of umbrage about privilege, and I honestly think it's off base a little.

[Dragonfli]

27. I am afraid that since what can be done with social services is very dependent on location

I don't think I could help you navigate it anywhere but here, I have some understanding of the options available in Erie County, but I doubt that will help you much.

I would call Hospice and see what assistance they can offer when you take him home, I was able to obtain a hospice nurse to help take care of my wife while I was at work during her ordeal, the name is scary, but they help with more than just dying, they help people to maintain quality of life as well, so don't let the name dissuade you from seeing if they can help.

I also found that Catholic Charities often have councilors whose specific job is to help one navigate the twists and turns of the system that is designed for the opposite of inclusion, the social services departments are set up more to keep you from obtaining needed help in most places with rules designed to throw you off and deny help whenever possible, you don'y have to be catholic for their councilors to help you, in fact, when they helped me religion was not mentioned at all.

I will raise and send you as much energy as I can, I have already called some people to join in and help and I will set things up for tomorrow, I wish I could do more, but I will do what I can.