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haele

(15,258 posts)
7. Depends. Maybe if there's a doctor's note?
Fri May 16, 2014, 04:42 PM
May 2014

Every woman has a different experience at different times in their lives; while one woman can have an "uncomfortable" period that downing half a glass of cranberry juice every four hours can take care of, another woman might be bedridden with crippling cramps, nausea, and migraines for the 8 to 24 hours while it might be at peak flow no matter what OTC meds she might be taking.
Some women can control their period through exercise, diet, or birth control while others can't - and more than a few women are driven to accept "religious" moral controls over the comfort of their bodies and the ability to function every possible day they may otherwise need to.
If you don't experience the crippling periods, or know someone who is unable to hold a regular job due to a physical incapacity that is frankly considered a crude offhand joke in society, then it's easy to think this is a stupid little regulation for the benefit of crybaby wimminfolk or chicks who "just need to quit whining and man up".
I heard that from a new female manager tell a woman working on the cable floor who fainted about five minutes later from the pain. She was asking for an hour off the clock to lay down quietly on the couch in the women's room until her cramps passed and she could get back to work.
I suppose it was partly my fault (as the other female manager) and that of the other male managers who would just give in whenever "women's health issues" were mentioned; the woman was a good worker, but she suffered terribly one out of every 28 days. Whenever she worked on my crew, I'd let her take one or two extended breaks off the clock so she wouldn't have to take all her sick days off but she's still be able to work at least a partial day that day. I'd do the same for any person on my crew that suffered from migraines or allergies.

The other manager thought we were all being too soft because she took care of her periods by using birth control, and they weren't that bad anyway. She couldn't imagine why another woman wouldn't just do the same thing if they wanted to work.

Haele

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Wow... Rex May 2014 #1
Mine needs more butter ... 1000words May 2014 #3
The FMLA protects workers from termination due to illness, maggiesfarmer May 2014 #2
There should be paid sick days upaloopa May 2014 #4
Monthly. TexasTowelie May 2014 #6
... madinmaryland May 2014 #13
That comes from experience. TexasTowelie May 2014 #15
All for it as long as pipi_k May 2014 #5
Depends. Maybe if there's a doctor's note? haele May 2014 #7
I get pissed off at other women who have easy periods, Jamastiene May 2014 #33
I'm sure you care deeply. Starry Messenger May 2014 #8
I can't believe I'd ever talk about my period on a message board but here goes... justiceischeap May 2014 #9
Migraines have been a real problem for me. winter is coming May 2014 #16
My 40s are being vicious too. Jamastiene May 2014 #36
If they're that bad, you might want to speak to your doctor about whether an abortive med winter is coming May 2014 #39
I was never given the abortive pill at all. Jamastiene May 2014 #41
Hmm. The high blood pressure might be why you haven't been given an abortive. winter is coming May 2014 #42
I would definitely look into Botox... 2theleft May 2014 #55
Ugh...the 40s pipi_k May 2014 #53
I was just going to speak to PMDD (obviously not from experience) stevenleser May 2014 #59
I had that monthly migrane BainsBane May 2014 #29
This message was self-deleted by its author AngryAmish May 2014 #66
What gets me is I'm still having super painful periods, but going through early Jamastiene May 2014 #34
My first college roommate had problems like that. Skidmore May 2014 #62
I just found it interesting that Japan has had it for so long. zappaman May 2014 #10
Yes, it can be debilitating. blogslut May 2014 #18
Good question. zappaman May 2014 #19
That's kind of what came to my mind... Wounded Bear May 2014 #24
I'll bet that women would love to broadcast their menstrual cycles to their coworkers this way Orrex May 2014 #11
Only if they vaginally knit through it. RiffRandell May 2014 #12
Props for the reference 1000words May 2014 #25
so many things spanone May 2014 #14
No, it's not widespread enough for that treestar May 2014 #17
Meanwhile, I should get a holiday in Bermuda for all the unintentionablbe rudolph the red May 2014 #20
Yes. cherokeeprogressive May 2014 #21
I've always thought so TorchTheWitch May 2014 #22
+1000000 Jamastiene May 2014 #37
In the US, it would be seen as another excuse for not hiring women jmowreader May 2014 #23
Beat me to it Retrograde May 2014 #26
With a doctor's note, sure, like any other debilitating condition LadyHawkAZ May 2014 #27
+1. Most women wouldn't need it but I've known a few who would. n/t winter is coming May 2014 #35
No BainsBane May 2014 #28
If menstruation is that much of a problem for you, you need medical help ASAP n/t eridani May 2014 #30
I for one have terrible OwnedByCats May 2014 #31
Exactly. Jamastiene May 2014 #38
You are so right! OwnedByCats May 2014 #43
That makes a different point. LWolf May 2014 #56
Completely OwnedByCats May 2014 #57
^^this!^^ Medicare for All, now. And paid sick leave for all. n/t eridani May 2014 #71
Sounds like there is a medical solution here eridani May 2014 #70
I just wish the fuck they offered better pain medicines for women that are not an insult. Jamastiene May 2014 #32
You might want to look into Chinese medicene davidpdx May 2014 #45
Yep, OTC for periods is a joke OwnedByCats May 2014 #46
Vicodin is the only relief. PassingFair May 2014 #47
My daughter has a rough time laundry_queen May 2014 #58
If you're done having kids, ablation and uterine artery embolization are also options. winter is coming May 2014 #61
Thanks, I did consider that laundry_queen May 2014 #64
Ah. I can see how you'd rather just get it all out. winter is coming May 2014 #65
Have you tried med mj? RainDog May 2014 #68
Very true. zappaman May 2014 #73
that very thing makes me think about moving RainDog May 2014 #74
Huh ismnotwasm May 2014 #40
My perspective comes from three different areas davidpdx May 2014 #44
So they have paid menstrual leave in SK OwnedByCats May 2014 #48
Basically if I allowed that I would have to allow all reasons for sickness davidpdx May 2014 #67
Lets get workers of all gender a mandatory number of paid sick-days. Kurska May 2014 #49
I have severe endometriosis... Neoma May 2014 #50
All I can say is Jackpine Radical May 2014 #51
Boss complained about me using the bathroom too much, HockeyMom May 2014 #52
No. LWolf May 2014 #54
Agree 100%. nt stevenleser May 2014 #60
I'm down with that. I had to take at least 1 day/mo off due to extreme pain catbyte May 2014 #63
I think adequate sick time should be a "thing." GreenEyedLefty May 2014 #69
. Iggo May 2014 #72
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