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58. My daughter has a rough time

Sat May 17, 2014, 12:19 PM

May 2014

and she finds a lot of otc meds useless, until she tried Aleve, it seems to work for her most of the time. Still, she usually stays home from school the first day of her period, with her Aleve and a hot water bottle. I never had it that bad when I was her age (I think I took a painkiller once for cramps, ever). I really feel bad for her. My second daughter doesn't have the same problem. She's more like how I was. My period, as a teen, never stopped me from anything.

After baby #4, however, I started having issues - not with pain but with, um, 'heavy flow'. Like can't leave the house heavy. So, now I'm on continuous BC pills. I go off for a week every 6 months. It's been a total lifesaver (since I also get hormone triggered migraines) but I can't stay on them forever - I'm not getting any younger. There is basically no other treatment for me except a total hysterectomy. Frustrating. I'm going to be entering the workforce soon and wondering if I should just go get everything taken out (I'm done having kids) so I can function in the workplace. God knows, as a single parent I'll probably looked down on for taking time off for sick kids - I should probably avoid taking time off for a period too.

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Should Paid 'Menstrual Leave' Be a Thing? [View all] zappaman May 2014 OP

Wow... Rex May 2014 #1

Mine needs more butter ... 1000words May 2014 #3

The FMLA protects workers from termination due to illness, maggiesfarmer May 2014 #2

There should be paid sick days upaloopa May 2014 #4

Monthly. TexasTowelie May 2014 #6

... madinmaryland May 2014 #13

That comes from experience. TexasTowelie May 2014 #15

All for it as long as pipi_k May 2014 #5

Depends. Maybe if there's a doctor's note? haele May 2014 #7

I get pissed off at other women who have easy periods, Jamastiene May 2014 #33

I'm sure you care deeply. Starry Messenger May 2014 #8

I can't believe I'd ever talk about my period on a message board but here goes... justiceischeap May 2014 #9

Migraines have been a real problem for me. winter is coming May 2014 #16

My 40s are being vicious too. Jamastiene May 2014 #36

If they're that bad, you might want to speak to your doctor about whether an abortive med winter is coming May 2014 #39

I was never given the abortive pill at all. Jamastiene May 2014 #41

Hmm. The high blood pressure might be why you haven't been given an abortive. winter is coming May 2014 #42

I would definitely look into Botox... 2theleft May 2014 #55

Ugh...the 40s pipi_k May 2014 #53

I was just going to speak to PMDD (obviously not from experience) stevenleser May 2014 #59

I had that monthly migrane BainsBane May 2014 #29

This message was self-deleted by its author AngryAmish May 2014 #66

What gets me is I'm still having super painful periods, but going through early Jamastiene May 2014 #34

My first college roommate had problems like that. Skidmore May 2014 #62

I just found it interesting that Japan has had it for so long. zappaman May 2014 #10

Yes, it can be debilitating. blogslut May 2014 #18

Good question. zappaman May 2014 #19

That's kind of what came to my mind... Wounded Bear May 2014 #24

I'll bet that women would love to broadcast their menstrual cycles to their coworkers this way Orrex May 2014 #11

Only if they vaginally knit through it. RiffRandell May 2014 #12

Props for the reference 1000words May 2014 #25

so many things spanone May 2014 #14

No, it's not widespread enough for that treestar May 2014 #17

Meanwhile, I should get a holiday in Bermuda for all the unintentionablbe rudolph the red May 2014 #20

Yes. cherokeeprogressive May 2014 #21

I've always thought so TorchTheWitch May 2014 #22

+1000000 Jamastiene May 2014 #37

In the US, it would be seen as another excuse for not hiring women jmowreader May 2014 #23

Beat me to it Retrograde May 2014 #26

With a doctor's note, sure, like any other debilitating condition LadyHawkAZ May 2014 #27

+1. Most women wouldn't need it but I've known a few who would. n/t winter is coming May 2014 #35

No BainsBane May 2014 #28

If menstruation is that much of a problem for you, you need medical help ASAP n/t eridani May 2014 #30

I for one have terrible OwnedByCats May 2014 #31

Exactly. Jamastiene May 2014 #38

You are so right! OwnedByCats May 2014 #43

That makes a different point. LWolf May 2014 #56

Completely OwnedByCats May 2014 #57

^^this!^^ Medicare for All, now. And paid sick leave for all. n/t eridani May 2014 #71

Sounds like there is a medical solution here eridani May 2014 #70

I just wish the fuck they offered better pain medicines for women that are not an insult. Jamastiene May 2014 #32

You might want to look into Chinese medicene davidpdx May 2014 #45

Yep, OTC for periods is a joke OwnedByCats May 2014 #46

Vicodin is the only relief. PassingFair May 2014 #47

My daughter has a rough time laundry_queen May 2014 #58

If you're done having kids, ablation and uterine artery embolization are also options. winter is coming May 2014 #61

Thanks, I did consider that laundry_queen May 2014 #64

Ah. I can see how you'd rather just get it all out. winter is coming May 2014 #65

Have you tried med mj? RainDog May 2014 #68

Very true. zappaman May 2014 #73

that very thing makes me think about moving RainDog May 2014 #74

Huh ismnotwasm May 2014 #40

My perspective comes from three different areas davidpdx May 2014 #44

So they have paid menstrual leave in SK OwnedByCats May 2014 #48

Basically if I allowed that I would have to allow all reasons for sickness davidpdx May 2014 #67

Lets get workers of all gender a mandatory number of paid sick-days. Kurska May 2014 #49

I have severe endometriosis... Neoma May 2014 #50

All I can say is Jackpine Radical May 2014 #51

Boss complained about me using the bathroom too much, HockeyMom May 2014 #52

No. LWolf May 2014 #54

Agree 100%. nt stevenleser May 2014 #60

I'm down with that. I had to take at least 1 day/mo off due to extreme pain catbyte May 2014 #63

I think adequate sick time should be a "thing." GreenEyedLefty May 2014 #69

. Iggo May 2014 #72