If a man is good looking enough, is it okay if he sleeps with a minor?

[ithinkmyliverhurts]

45. Thanks for your response, seabeyond.

Let's grant that there will be anecdotal evidence negating all statements. That's how anecdotes work. So I grant you everything above. I have three daughters and a son, and none of them are alike.

Nevertheless, you and I will both agree that there are simply biological differences. Hormones create certain reactions. It's pretty basic biology. So this means that, in general, men and women have different biological dispositions to both the opposite and same sex. We both agree on this, I think. O.K., well, a certain disposition is simply going to be more prevalent among each sex. This is neither good nor mad, but it gives a normative (quantitatively speaking) baseline. So my only point, and forgive me for being crude, is that young men desire getting laid with no strings attached more so than young women do. Therefore, if some sort of sexual liaison happened between an older woman and a younger man, I don't think, in general, he'd be as harmed.

Nevertheless, if it happened to my son, I would ask about how he felt. If he felt violated, coerced, etc., you can be sure as hell I'd press charges. If it happened to one of my daughters, and she said she was fine with it (even if the guy wanted nothing to do with her) and that she enjoyed her time, well, then, that's that.

My thesis: men and women are biologically different; biology is a factor (not the only one) in our response to sexual relationships; our response to age-different relationships should be different according, in general, to sex. There are no doubt many cases in which the general, normative roles will be reversed.