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107. If she forbade me, I'd go just to spite her.

Tue May 20, 2014, 04:54 PM

May 2014

And I'd be miserable.

If she didn't forbid me, but I knew it really bothered her for me to be going to a party with strippers, I wouldn't do it. I'd be miserable knowing that she felt disrespected.

If it didn't bother her at all, I'd still try to weasel out of it. Watching naked women that I'm not going to have sex with seems like a waste of time to me. I'd rather just have a few drinks and a meal with friends, and then go home and see if I can charm myself into getting a private dance that I'd really enjoy.

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What would you do if your SO forbade you from going to a bachelorette party? [View all] AngryAmish May 2014 OP

that would never happen to me, ever Skittles May 2014 #1

I figured that you'd kick their would-be-forbidding asses. Orrex May 2014 #25

. Guy Whitey Corngood May 2014 #47

I'd whale on his ass so badly he'd never make such a silly suggestion again Skittles May 2014 #48

depends on the situation BUT elehhhhna May 2014 #2

"forbade" TBF May 2014 #3

Mine would force me to go Generic Other May 2014 #4

Go to the bachelor party bigwillq May 2014 #5

Tell him to go pound sand, of course Warpy May 2014 #6

Laugh. Wait Wut May 2014 #7

In many years of marriage neither I nor my wife have ever "forbade" one another Nye Bevan May 2014 #8

Get a new SO. snot May 2014 #9

^^^ This. Iggo May 2014 #14

+1 LadyHawkAZ May 2014 #55

"Only the Goddess may forbid me anything." -- Tyrande Whisperwind <n/t> Shandris May 2014 #10

"Malfurion, I broke a heel! SAVE ME!" - also Tyrande Whisperwind Scootaloo May 2014 #33

GAH! So sad, but so true. Shandris May 2014 #37

I heed the voice of Elune. NuclearDem May 2014 #96

I must have missed the part where bachelorette parties were expected to have strippers. LeftyMom May 2014 #11

Male strippers are now de rigeur. WinkyDink May 2014 #16

Seems like everybody here goes to the gay bar LeftyMom May 2014 #40

Bachelorette parties are routinely kicked out of gay bars around here AngryAmish May 2014 #44

One of the bars here has a note on the door about it LeftyMom May 2014 #45

Nevertheless... pipi_k May 2014 #72

+1 R B Garr May 2014 #76

I wish he would forbid me from doing something.... giftedgirl77 May 2014 #12

Forbade? Iggo May 2014 #13

I wouldn't go. WinkyDink May 2014 #15

Who are you in a relationship with that they would "forbid" you to go anywhere? Hissyspit May 2014 #29

Nobody. I have all the freedom in the world, as my beloved husband died last month. Now I can go WinkyDink May 2014 #100

Me either KentuckyWoman May 2014 #71

if it really Niceguy1 May 2014 #17

I think the word "forbid" does not belong in a healthy relationship. alarimer May 2014 #18

Tell him we need the money? winter is coming May 2014 #19

applauds Lucinda May 2014 #39

For the win! Le Taz Hot May 2014 #43

DUzy nt okaawhatever May 2014 #63

Find another SO. n/t zappaman May 2014 #20

My thought exactly. WillowTree May 2014 #74

That wouldn't be a problem. Spider Jerusalem May 2014 #21

Give it a try, it's not too bad. AngryAmish May 2014 #27

�5 notes? You've been to some upscale places. aikoaiko May 2014 #91

Upscale Brit places. kwassa May 2014 #99

I'm the same way davidpdx May 2014 #101

Agree. Neither my wife nor I would attend such an event. MattBaggins May 2014 #108

warning sign of an abusive, control freak>>> demands you not do this, go there, see her KittyWampus May 2014 #22

I wouldn't have an SO that thought they could forbid me anything TorchTheWitch May 2014 #23

Forbid you to murder someone? Rob a bank? Do crack? nt Logical May 2014 #24

No. If for some ridiculous reason I wanted to do any of those things TorchTheWitch May 2014 #38

Your Post and Screenname Do Not Go Together ProfessorGAC May 2014 #118

That would be some arrogant presumption of rule over my free will, wouldn't it. Only those who ancianita May 2014 #26

I would never tell her she couldn't go upaloopa May 2014 #28

She'd end up making me go. Codeine May 2014 #30

You are living a very interesting life!!! alittlelark May 2014 #82

If he asked nicely and gave good, logical reasons OKNancy May 2014 #31

this. nt geek tragedy May 2014 #51

Well I think Separation May 2014 #32

Neither I nor my husband, of almost 23 years, ever has made that kind of request. MoonRiver May 2014 #34

On our wedding invitation cover I printed Donna's immortal words hobbit709 May 2014 #35

Go n/t arcane1 May 2014 #36

"normal party"? sorry it's not a "normal marriage" if one of the spouses "forbids" anything. Sunlei May 2014 #41

"Forbade?" Le Taz Hot May 2014 #42

Find a new SO. MadrasT May 2014 #46

She'd probably drive me there flvegan May 2014 #49

God no, the drinks are expensive and watery. LeftyMom May 2014 #52

If my wife were to make her wish that I not geek tragedy May 2014 #50

um, that is the definition of forbidding someone from doing something AngryAmish May 2014 #57

Not really. It's more like a sharing of deal-breakers. We all have deal-breakers. R B Garr May 2014 #67

That is nutty, by any objective standard. AngryAmish May 2014 #69

Okay, I don't think you're serious now. I agree with LeftyMom and call bullshit. R B Garr May 2014 #75

No, it's called being in an healthy, adult relationship geek tragedy May 2014 #110

If he got in my way, he wouldn't be my significant other anymore. Cleita May 2014 #53

My first husband (now divorced from 29 years) was really upset my friends wanted to have a male kimbutgar May 2014 #54

I would certainly talk to my SO about why my SO didn't want me to go to the party. Tikki May 2014 #56

Forbade? Uh uh LittleBlue May 2014 #58

It's the thought that counts. lolz. nt okaawhatever May 2014 #64

Hahaha!!!! He never would adigal May 2014 #59

I'd say "But They Hired Me To Entertain " jberryhill May 2014 #60

I wouldn't really care sakabatou May 2014 #61

Tell him to find another fiancee. Controlling behavior is not a good sign. boston bean May 2014 #62

I wouldn't be with someone who forbade me from anything. Dorian Gray May 2014 #65

I would not.. Notafraidtoo May 2014 #66

Why would your SO be upset? AngryAmish May 2014 #68

I had a surprise for Lover Boy's bachelor party but he almost ruined it by Nuclear Unicorn May 2014 #70

Thank him for giving me an excuse not to go. eShirl May 2014 #73

Dump the insecure, controlling bastard. southerncrone May 2014 #77

I couldn't get past your handle. Spitfire of ATJ May 2014 #78

I've never been in a relationship where "forbidding" really came into play fishwax May 2014 #79

Find a new one, already had this conversation with my SO... Humanist_Activist May 2014 #80

Ah, this is the kind of shite that got me divorced. Go to the party. nt msanthrope May 2014 #81

My insecure ex forbad me continuing in grad school Divernan May 2014 #83

Run Egnever May 2014 #84

I'd ask myself: DeSwiss May 2014 #85

honor the request. nt La Lioness Priyanka May 2014 #86

Forbidding Dorian Gray May 2014 #90

its an issue of semantics. i thnk its perfectly reasonable for a spouse to ask another La Lioness Priyanka May 2014 #106

Okay Dorian Gray May 2014 #116

I would not go, out of respect. n/t Jamastiene May 2014 #87

Respect is a two-way street. Divernan May 2014 #93

I see the demand itself as disrespectful. chrisa May 2014 #95

Out of respect for someone who treats you like a child? Iggo May 2014 #97

I cannot imagine Call Me Wesley ever forbidding me to do anything. Heidi May 2014 #88

Get a new SO, if they did not trust me to go then I would not want them to be my SO. Exposethefrauds May 2014 #89

Since I don't drink and have a phobia/mild-revulsion of strippers? Chan790 May 2014 #92

Laugh at the attempt to control me like a child, and then go. chrisa May 2014 #94

"You WHAT? You FORBID me?" frogmarch May 2014 #98

Lie and say I'm taking out the trash... KansDem May 2014 #102

I notice that many people have a justifiably negative reaction to the word "forbade", but... Silent3 May 2014 #103

It is a power play either way. AngryAmish May 2014 #105

yes. it does make all the difference. geek tragedy May 2014 #109

Yes, there is a difference... Silent3 May 2014 #111

Sure, relationships are complex and diverse. nt geek tragedy May 2014 #113

Is Prince Harry going to be there too? B Calm May 2014 #104

If she forbade me, I'd go just to spite her. dawg May 2014 #107

Allow me to turn this around a little.... Llewlladdwr May 2014 #112

The week before my bachelor party the best man took me on a tour Nevernose May 2014 #114

I read this and had to grin a little bit... Mother Of Four May 2014 #115

Interesting Question ProfessorGAC May 2014 #117