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41. Mine was a friend of my ex boyfriend. When the ex-b and I broke up I guess he thought he was due?

Sun May 25, 2014, 11:42 PM

May 2014

He made really clumsy efforts to talk about things that I liked, he brought me a few small presents relating to my cooking hobby. It became clear that he was keeping tabs on my web presence for things to discuss with me. When I wasn't interested he started telling my ex-boyfriend what a whore I am, and he was so fucking creepy about it that my ex told him to stay the fuck away from me.

That was years ago and the chances that he's reading this post aren't half bad. I wouldn't have mentioned it if he hadn't moved away.

I'd never shown any romantic interest in him (he wasn't my type in any way) but I was nice to him, I don't know if he misinterpreted that or my utter lack of interest wasn't a signal he was willing to receive.

But he was creepy and entitled and had an overly inflated view of himself. He wanted me, and my lack of interest in him was not an acceptable response.

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Why Elliot Rodger�s misogyny matters [View all] LeftyMom May 2014 OP

See also this: Spider Jerusalem May 2014 #1

this. this is what my men, boys, that have listened to me for years... this... this is what they seabeyond May 2014 #5

This sounds really familiar. LeftyMom May 2014 #19

A graphic for your excellent post REP May 2014 #20

Excellent. Thank you for posting this. nt redqueen May 2014 #40

Afuckingmen. He was VERY clear about his specific hatred of women. PeaceNikki May 2014 #2

i do not have it in me to read this tonight. and i need to read it. it is all so much more lefty. seabeyond May 2014 #3

Anyone who researches the MRA movement Egnever May 2014 #4

you are wrong. you have been wrong for a while and many people have taken the time to explain why seabeyond May 2014 #6

I could say the same of you. Egnever May 2014 #8

except we listen to a mans words of hate, toward women, and you are in thread after thread to seabeyond May 2014 #10

And you are in thread after thread blaming all the ills of the world on men Egnever May 2014 #12

"you are in thread after thread blaming all the ills of the world on men" wrong. tired, empty seabeyond May 2014 #14

LOL Egnever May 2014 #27

talking about violence toward women is man hating and discussing this specific situation is blaming seabeyond May 2014 #29

No. That accusation about Seabeyond is a falsehood intaglio May 2014 #69

Remember when VAWA was up for renewal? LeftyMom May 2014 #7

What in the world does one have to do with the other? Egnever May 2014 #9

Go read about what MRAs did to with regard to VAWA and then get back to me. LeftyMom May 2014 #13

another case, local to me, was the Azana Spa shooting in 2012, PeaceNikki May 2014 #17

+++!! n/t BlancheSplanchnik May 2014 #22

Who gives a flying fuck what some loons on the internet are saying Egnever May 2014 #23

Thanks for making my point for me. LeftyMom May 2014 #26

Always here to help Egnever May 2014 #28

Loons on the internet? intaglio May 2014 #70

They're declaring him their hero. Starry Messenger May 2014 #75

What does VAWA have to do awoke_in_2003 May 2014 #61

first ask his opinion on vawa, without assuming support. lol. nt seabeyond May 2014 #11

MRA's are their own personal Bengazi...it's behind everything. Katashi_itto May 2014 #16

What we need... TDale313 May 2014 #21

Well said. +1 spooky3 May 2014 #79

source for the claim? magical thyme May 2014 #81

I bet these guys rail about how women refuse to take responsibility too. Spitfire of ATJ May 2014 #15

or how women use it as their own benghazi or it proves how they really hate all men, seabeyond May 2014 #18

I guess it's an insecurity thing. Spitfire of ATJ May 2014 #68

KnR Hekate May 2014 #24

In talking to other women it's becoming clear that we have all known a guy like this. LeftyMom May 2014 #25

Mine whacked me on the back so hard, my face hit his gearshift in the car. Starry Messenger May 2014 #39

Mine was a friend of my ex boyfriend. When the ex-b and I broke up I guess he thought he was due? LeftyMom May 2014 #41

Felicia Day did a tumblr post on the #yesallwomen hashtag KitSileya May 2014 #51

Ugh Felicia Day gets a lot of crap in general just for being a women. white_wolf May 2014 #62

I quit going to the local game store because of creepy behavior. LeftyMom May 2014 #63

That infuriates me. white_wolf May 2014 #65

Yeah, it sucks. LeftyMom May 2014 #66

My fianc� is a comic fan and does cosplay Codeine May 2014 #72

One followed me everywhere. bravenak May 2014 #52

when i was in college, i awoke to a guy standing over my bed noiretextatique May 2014 #80

K and R. thucythucy May 2014 #30

All men are evil...yeah, yeah...we know... davidn3600 May 2014 #31

You think someone is blaming ALL men? That's just silly. PeaceNikki May 2014 #33

Go read the articles upthread, you don't know what the hell you're talking about. LeftyMom May 2014 #34

No One Said That! TDale313 May 2014 #36

Please go find something XemaSab May 2014 #37

But you know, there was that one lady like 50 years ago, who was mentally ill, and probably nomorenomore08 May 2014 #47

Bingo. TDale313 May 2014 #48

I'm not really one to quote the Bible, but I do recall one verse about swallowing camels and nomorenomore08 May 2014 #53

Problem is, the "Men's Rights" movement is largely built on fear and resentment of an entire gender. nomorenomore08 May 2014 #46

No one is blaming all men . Gormy Cuss May 2014 #50

But self-martyrdom is so much *fun*! nomorenomore08 May 2014 #55

well she didn't say that CreekDog May 2014 #78

Wow, this post hit a nerve. TDale313 May 2014 #32

I have a bit of a fan club. LeftyMom May 2014 #35

Someone here once put it so well... redqueen May 2014 #42

Because everything in the world revolves around them, don'cha know. nomorenomore08 May 2014 #56

K&R /nt myrna minx May 2014 #38

Does the writer remember Trayvon Martin? Bad Thoughts May 2014 #43

These are all massive, deep-seated cultural issues (racism, homophobia, misogyny). nomorenomore08 May 2014 #49

, blkmusclmachine May 2014 #44

K&R ismnotwasm May 2014 #45

Frankly, I think the fact that he was insane is more meaningful . . . MrModerate May 2014 #54

That hatred of other men is actually fairly normal in those circles. LeftyMom May 2014 #57

"White knight"/"mangina" = "ni**er lover." It's the same damn thing. n/t nomorenomore08 May 2014 #59

Yep. LeftyMom May 2014 #60

Thing is, his "rants" weren't too far removed from a lot of comments you see online. nomorenomore08 May 2014 #58

Dave has put out some really good stuff in the past. AverageJoe90 May 2014 #64

I read this kid was in therapy since he was 8 yrs old. southerncrone May 2014 #67

Here is the Valenti article that is referenced TBF May 2014 #71

It matters a great deal. Laelth May 2014 #73

Marc Lepine targeted women at L'�cole Polytechnique 25 years ago... SidDithers May 2014 #74

+1 Starry Messenger May 2014 #77

Tons of proof in this very thread that the OP is absolutely accurate. Squinch May 2014 #76

And that's a sad truth. Gormy Cuss May 2014 #82