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In reply to the discussion: Rogen, Apatow surprisingly unsympathetic to accusation that their movies caused IV killings. [View all]Sissyk
(12,665 posts)I read they tried several ways to get him to take his medication. I read they even notified the police themselves. That had to be very hard to do. So, no. I don't blame the parents.
Personally, I've known a family that has done every possible thing they can for a child for 18 years of her life. At 18, she moved out and has refused to take her medication or get further medical help. I worry constantly about what she might do to herself or others. But, it's not the parents fault. Nothing they did in raising this girl made her have severe mental problems. There are four other children that try to help but their sibling will have nothing to do with them. In this case, I do not blame the parents. I do not even blame the child because I'm not sure she is even aware, or has empathy, to change things.
With that said, I also know parents that the children were raised by the television, video games, very little interaction outside of school. In that case, I do blame the parents.
Parenting is hard work. Sometimes you do the best job possible and things still turn out heartbreaking. Sometimes you do a shitty job and they turn out fine.