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elias7

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48. I don't get the hostility or condescension

Reply to Squinch (Reply #46)

Sun Jun 8, 2014, 08:58 AM

Jun 2014

Perhaps if you reread my posts, my point would come across better. Perhaps you need to listen better, too.

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Smile, Baby! A New Study Shows How Often Women and Gay Men Are Sexually Harassed on the Street. [View all] Agschmid Jun 2014 OP

Good article intaglio Jun 2014 #1

Love Slate! Agschmid Jun 2014 #2

Great article ismnotwasm Jun 2014 #3

Thanks. MadrasT Jun 2014 #4

Well it clearly is! Agschmid Jun 2014 #5

.. MadrasT Jun 2014 #7

:thumbsup: BlancheSplanchnik Jun 2014 #9

Great article. Squinch Jun 2014 #6

Ugh, the city was the worst. MadrasT Jun 2014 #8

I went to the 12th street gym... Agschmid Jun 2014 #15

And yet, there are those here who insist that entitlement doesn't exist. Squinch Jun 2014 #18

I had a similar experience, in the early '80s. I was smoking at my desk (in those days you could) raccoon Jun 2014 #24

I live in a small, rural town and I get it regularly, but it isn't as threatening and not vulgar. redqueen Jun 2014 #25

The "smile" always seems like Squinch Jun 2014 #31

Not that I've noticed. redqueen Jun 2014 #34

Because it is someplace where your income and success depends on being respected, and it's a Squinch Jun 2014 #36

Kicked and recommended. Uncle Joe Jun 2014 #10

No problem! Agschmid Jun 2014 #14

I would wager that almost 100 percent of women could tell you at least one harassment story Arugula Latte Jun 2014 #11

5% of men have someone flash their genitals at them? Spitfire of ATJ Jun 2014 #12

k and r niyad Jun 2014 #13

And it starts as soon as girls enter puberty -- by age 11 or 12. pnwmom Jun 2014 #16

Yep. Arugula Latte Jun 2014 #26

Sexual harassment by peers our own age starts even earlier. nt redqueen Jun 2014 #30

It doesn't really define how often people are harassed, just if harassment ever happened. elias7 Jun 2014 #17

You could easily get a feel for the answer to that question by listening to the women Squinch Jun 2014 #19

It is kind of funny how many of these discussions go like this KitSileya Jun 2014 #22

Exactly. Or another response: Squinch Jun 2014 #23

I'll never forget the time in college when my boyfriend was visiting me in pnwmom Jun 2014 #28

I understand that, but that's why the study is weak elias7 Jun 2014 #37

So you need a study to tell you how often women get hassled. Got it. Squinch Jun 2014 #40

And you applaud this study that tells you even less? Got it. elias7 Jun 2014 #41

If you are truly curious, start by reading this thread. But I know, I know. You need a study. Squinch Jun 2014 #46

I don't get the hostility or condescension elias7 Jun 2014 #48

I don't get why you are presenting a brick wall. Squinch Jun 2014 #49

I am not insisting on a study, you are misunderstanding me elias7 Jun 2014 #50

I wonder if some men figure this out when they have daughters. pnwmom Jun 2014 #44

I agree: are the 18% men and 51% women harassed once/year or 12/times/day? zazen Jun 2014 #51

Too fucking often. winter is coming Jun 2014 #21

When I was a pre-teen I had to walk a mile or so every day -- and it happened every day. pnwmom Jun 2014 #27

This is what men need to know elias7 Jun 2014 #38

And men don't get that it's not perceived as flattering. pnwmom Jun 2014 #39

I don't know what they are thinking, intending or expecting elias7 Jun 2014 #42

We talk about it often, told we talk about it too much some say. Another thread an old man seabeyond Jun 2014 #43

I don't think you talk about it too much elias7 Jun 2014 #45

It is embarassing and humiliating. Behind the Aegis Jun 2014 #20

I remember in my 20s, walking down a street in New Haven magical thyme Jun 2014 #29

These must have been some terrifying experiences. Squinch Jun 2014 #32

I was pissed as hell, not scared, magical thyme Jun 2014 #33

It seems to work for you. Squinch Jun 2014 #35

I am a man who has suffered Vattel Jun 2014 #47