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40. Because it's her job to correct his behavior - or not fuss about rude treatment

Sun Jun 8, 2014, 01:37 PM

Jun 2014

Women are supposed to enjoy being condescended to by being called "princessa" and if they don't, well, they need to keep quiet for fear they hurt someone's feelings.

I wish this were sarcasm.

I very much dislike this trend of over-familiarity that some businesses are trying out, such as having cashiers thank customers by first name for spending money and CSRs using first names instead of Title Lastname. I think women have always gotten more of this; ask women middle aged and older how many times they've been addressed as "young lady" and ask any woman how many times service workers have used an inappropriate diminutive to address her.

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an open letter to my waiter from your "princessa" [View all] niyad Jun 2014 OP

No tip, and report him to the manager (nt) Nye Bevan Jun 2014 #1

Well that's sad. I'd have to see how the waiter was actually acting, but it's sad. nolabear Jun 2014 #2

I am old and come from a culture of manners REP Jun 2014 #8

Perhaps. But you and I are both assuming. We just assume differently. nolabear Jun 2014 #13

I was just at a place where the motto is, "We Choke Our Own Chickens" REP Jun 2014 #18

What you describe sounds creepy to this northerner. To each his own, I guess. nt pnwmom Jun 2014 #10

Midwesterner, and co-signed REP Jun 2014 #19

Another Midwesterner here. Brigid Jun 2014 #21

good post smackd Jun 2014 #22

Maybe she just wanted a burger, and didn't want to have to come up with nice ways to tell Squinch Jun 2014 #24

Yeah, I know. And she could have mentioned that. nolabear Jun 2014 #31

Or maybe she just wanted to share the experience because she knows it's a common one. Squinch Jun 2014 #32

She wrote about her feelings and her experience - an experience that will resonate with many women. redqueen Jun 2014 #38

Because it's her job to correct his behavior - or not fuss about rude treatment REP Jun 2014 #40

Well said Packerowner740 Jun 2014 #29

You Drink DIET COKE? ChairmanAgnostic Jun 2014 #3

Dear Meagan, enlightenment Jun 2014 #4

And how do you know that saying something won't result in an act of retribution pnwmom Jun 2014 #9

I don't live my life in fear, or enlightenment Jun 2014 #11

Well, that's nice for you. pnwmom Jun 2014 #14

Yes, it is nice, thank you. enlightenment Jun 2014 #16

You wait until the meal is done Packerowner740 Jun 2014 #30

You and me both. Say something, kindly, and take the power. nolabear Jun 2014 #15

Well said LeafsFan17 Jun 2014 #20

It works both ways 1000words Jun 2014 #5

Flirting wasn't the problem A Little Weird Jun 2014 #6

I agree. This guy's flirtation attempt was clumsy and inappropriate. 1000words Jun 2014 #7

Friendlys is alcohol-free, BTW. So it would have to be his own personal tequila supply. (nt) Nye Bevan Jun 2014 #12

I was not there. Brigid Jun 2014 #17

Being a man, and not having been there SomethingFishy Jun 2014 #23

To all those saying, "If she was so bothered, she should have just said something to make him stop!" Squinch Jun 2014 #25

Good gods. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #26

There are some sickos out there. I saw it happen. Squinch Jun 2014 #27

And you did nothing about it? woolldog Jun 2014 #42

It comes down to simple math, based on years of experience. KitSileya Jun 2014 #33

Yes exactly. And the women here all seem to understand perfectly that the next step to Squinch Jun 2014 #34

exactly. the irritating thing with this thread is total obtuseness or gamesmanship. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #37

Exactly, thank you - they are victim blaming and they are enabling this crap. redqueen Jun 2014 #39

I don't like guns but Packerowner740 Jun 2014 #28

When I was young betsuni Jun 2014 #35

Should have talked to his manager. davidthegnome Jun 2014 #36

Many men don�t see what women experience. G_j Jun 2014 #41