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alcibiades_mystery

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41. They know it...you'd have to be stupid beyond description not to understand this feature of culture

Sun Jun 8, 2014, 10:00 PM

Jun 2014

and language.

"Oh, Jimmy next door calls his brother 'Hey, asshole," but they all get mad when I call him asshole! Where's the consistency???"

Everybody knows how this works. People pretending not to are racist scumbags, pure and simple.

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If I hear one more white person say "Black folk us the N word why cant I?" [View all] randys1 Jun 2014 OP

It is an odd thing to complain about BainsBane Jun 2014 #1

I think you've got it right. n/t nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #46

Is it really used as a term of endearment ? Autumn Jun 2014 #2

It's an in-group language thing gollygee Jun 2014 #3

Then using it to defuse it's horrible meaning Autumn Jun 2014 #7

yes gollygee Jun 2014 #8

A lot like family might call a ... 1StrongBlackMan Jun 2014 #11

Yes. that's what I was asking. A person close to someone might use it but Autumn Jun 2014 #17

girls use "bitch" in the same way sometimes JI7 Jun 2014 #35

How is it possible to live in the United States and not know that? Gravitycollapse Jun 2014 #9

Quite possible. I've just never considered it to be used as a term of endearment. Autumn Jun 2014 #14

have you heard of "fag hag" ? JI7 Jun 2014 #34

That too is a term of endearment in some settings. morningfog Jun 2014 #50

Amazing the power that words have. Autumn Jun 2014 #52

... Number23 Jun 2014 #38

They know it...you'd have to be stupid beyond description not to understand this feature of culture alcibiades_mystery Jun 2014 #41

How would you compare this to the Gay Community's reclaiming the word "Queer"? LeafsFan17 Jun 2014 #4

The situations are different. The way in which queer was reappropriated was different. Gravitycollapse Jun 2014 #13

oh, whitesplainin' KG Jun 2014 #5

As a Black man ... 1StrongBlackMan Jun 2014 #19

Yes. bravenak Jun 2014 #28

"Because you're not black, asshole!" Warpy Jun 2014 #6

Its not being "thick" ... 1StrongBlackMan Jun 2014 #22

One leads to the other Warpy Jun 2014 #29

You realize I am not the one wanting to use the word, right? randys1 Jun 2014 #57

Nope Warpy Jun 2014 #66

Exactly right...people pretending not to understand this go on my Racist list that second alcibiades_mystery Jun 2014 #42

Petulant assholes. Sheldon Cooper Jun 2014 #10

You must be hanging around with the wrong white people. Nobody I know ever says that. Comrade Grumpy Jun 2014 #12

Are you stalking me? No, I dont hang around with the wrong people, do you have nothing better randys1 Jun 2014 #25

Yes. bravenak Jun 2014 #27

It's a discussion board. I discuss. Maybe you would prefer a protected group? Comrade Grumpy Jun 2014 #44

I have never heard a white person pleading to use the word. former9thward Jun 2014 #15

It's Like the W word, the C word or the K and H words Wolf Frankula Jun 2014 #16

A pretty good article about this very issue... JazzFanInTX Jun 2014 #18

Thanks for posting this article... LeafsFan17 Jun 2014 #40

And I always have to ask such white people bluestateguy Jun 2014 #20

1000+ Tom Ripley Jun 2014 #33

+2000 nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #47

My opinion is that blacks should let that word die. Curmudgeoness Jun 2014 #21

You may have a point. But I wouldn't blame black people for white people's disingenuousness, myself. nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #48

I have heard whites use the n word Michigander_Life Jun 2014 #23

Is it ok to tell a joke? Rhinodawg Jun 2014 #24

Preach my ninja, preach!! bravenak Jun 2014 #26

I am actually on record asking how to do the 3 stage handshake randys1 Jun 2014 #30

You need to meet my husband! bravenak Jun 2014 #31

it's called context Skittles Jun 2014 #32

The investment some white men seem to have to hold onto racist and sexist slurs seabeyond Jun 2014 #36

+1 alcibiades_mystery Jun 2014 #43

you are right. there is no other interpretation, yet they think they can camouflage it seabeyond Jun 2014 #45

So true white person whining they cannot use the N word treestar Jun 2014 #37

I have never heard a white person say that in real life quinnox Jun 2014 #39

I have maybe a half-dozen times left is right Jun 2014 #55

I live in a blindingly white community and I have never heard a white person say that. Throd Jun 2014 #58

sigh randys1 Jun 2014 #63

Why is it so damned important for some white people to use the word? nyquil_man Jun 2014 #49

No one should use it. The history and the background of the word are shameful. lostincalifornia Jun 2014 #51

At the age of four or so Dyedinthewoolliberal Jun 2014 #53

If it hurts them that badly they should go ahead and do it. JoeyT Jun 2014 #54

AMEN!! I've been saying this for almost 2 years... go ahead... do it... see how it turns out for yah uponit7771 Jun 2014 #59

One day these clueless people may use the word and end up in a world of hurt. nt raccoon Jun 2014 #56

You know some f-ed up white people joeglow3 Jun 2014 #60

Yeah, just me, nobody else has heard this...sigh sigh sigh randys1 Jun 2014 #64

Oh, I have heard the idea floated. It just tends to be over-reported joeglow3 Jun 2014 #65

"The practice of hinting by single letters those expletives with which profane and violent persons Donald Ian Rankin Jun 2014 #61

Makes me cringe... pipi_k Jun 2014 #62