my friend said, "it is never, ever okay for white people to say (n-word)."

[Ecumenist]

62. that's a cheeky thing to say to someone like me. I'm a BLACK WOMAN MARRIED to a SOUTHERN

WHITE MAN who heard it used routinely as hate speech and was disgusted by it. So, you have black black friend who have been using that epithet since they were toddlers and so have you and I'm supposed to just believe that that makes perfect sense on any planet in any reality? What black family just allows their small child to use that word on the regular? I have NEVER seen or known of a black family that wasn't seriously dysfunctional use that word with their small children and when I say dysfunctional, I'm talking drugs, domestic violence etc.

YOUR BLACK GIRLFRIEND HAS NO PROBLEM WITH YOU USING THAT WORD, PLAYFULLY OR OTHERWISE??!! Are you seriously trying to tell me that you have a black girlfriend who thinks it's perfectly alright for a man who supposedly is fond of her to use a word that has been historically used to denigrate her people? Wow, I knew I was different but not that different. Where'd you find this woman and why is she away from the Treatment Facility without permission?