my friend said, "it is never, ever okay for white people to say (n-word)."

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75. Where did you get this idea?

"So, you have black black friend who have been using that epithet since they were toddlers "?

I never said anything remotely close to that.

In fact, I've been fairly clear that while "the N word" is the topic of the discussion at hand, I'm talking about all words, and all language.

I said, clear as day, that "every word any of us black or white has ever spoken has only ever meant exactly what we, the speaker, meant it to mean. ".



BTW, are you seriously trying to tell me that you aren't aware that many black people don't give that word the power you give it? No, my girlfriend does not have a problem with me saying it, but then again, I would never say it to hurt anyone, so why would she? In the interest of full disclosure, she's French (racism is a serious problem there, but they don't have the same history with the N word). My previous girlfriend was Black too, and was of the same mind on the matter. In the interest of full disclosure, she's Canadian. My ex wife was half Black, and all American. She too was not offended by the word used in good humor. As you should have noticed (but didn't because you aren't really reading my words) I'm not cavalier about using the word, so it's not like they heard it more than a couple of times from me.

It's nice you are in an interracial relationship, but frankly I think you and your husband need to grow up. Sticks and stones can break your bones, but words can never hurt you - and all that. Tonight, when the kids are asleep, you two should text each other from across the couch the most filthy, racist words you can imagine. Google 'em if you have to. Then make angry grown up love to each other. Eighteen months from now, I'd love to do ya'll some baby pictures.