my friend said, "it is never, ever okay for white people to say (n-word)."

[tkmorris]

137. Sorry, but no you don't

I won't pick a side in the little argument you two are having, but the fact is you have repeatedly misunderstood what the other poster is saying. You have argued against what you appear to think he said several times now, each time misunderstanding what it was he actually said.

I suggest you slow down just a tad and read what he is posting more carefully. You can still make the same base argument if you wish (to wit: no white people should ever use that word), but when finding fault with what he says it pays to actually understand what he said first. When you, again and again, argue against something he didn't even say the objective observer can easily begin to think you are doing so on purpose.

Here's a starting point. He said, on his way to making a point a few posts back, that he is like his black friends in the sense that they have both been using words since they were toddlers. Note that he did NOT say he or his friend had been using THAT word since being toddlers (which you claimed he did). NOR did he claim that he thus deserves the status of "honorary inclusion as a black man", or anything remotely like it. Again, something you are claiming he has said.

A newcomer to this conversation could easily get the impression that you are deliberately twisting his words to better make your point. That is NOT a reputation you want to cultivate. Once people get that impression they are unlikely to pay much heed to anything you say, regardless of merit.