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Legender75

(6 posts)
6. Boarding School damage
Sun Jun 15, 2014, 11:43 AM
Jun 2014

I went to boarding school at age 5 - a decision that my father's family thought was the most optional given that my father had no home and my mother was not allowed to have anything to do with me (!!!)
And I can attest that that experience scarred me for life. It wasn't being bombed or being moved around from home to home for 2-3 years, it was being incarcerated, for six years, together with 9 other little girls, in a large house that was converted into a boarding school. I can look at pictures of me before that time when I am laughing and obviously at ease with myself, and then look at the few pictures I have afterwards when I am standing and taking up the smallest space I can in the world. And yes, being in a relationship has never worked. I tried, many times. Now, in my 70s I can look back on many deep and enduring friendships, but no intimate relationship.
I agree. Boarding School is immensely and permanently damaging.

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K&R treestar Jun 2014 #1
du rec. xchrom Jun 2014 #2
I was going to argue against this... Chan790 Jun 2014 #3
FDR went to boarding school. Nye Bevan Jun 2014 #4
He also had polio. sulphurdunn Jun 2014 #7
It hit him in 1921, when he was 39 years old. JHB Jun 2014 #18
He also had Eleanor. Downwinder Jun 2014 #23
Some general exceptions probably apply Bibliovore Jun 2014 #5
Boarding School damage Legender75 Jun 2014 #6
of course. You were 5. cali Jun 2014 #10
The article in the OP is about sending young children to boarding school. Gormy Cuss Jun 2014 #16
the article title does NOT say that it's about young children and most people cali Jun 2014 #22
Subtitle: "The elite tradition is to send children away at a young age to be educated." csziggy Jun 2014 #28
Surely you read beyond the title before responding. Gormy Cuss Jun 2014 #29
Thanks for sharing your insight Kber Jun 2014 #17
Emotionally damaged, parentally rejected children grow to be bad leaders? Generic Brad Jun 2014 #8
sure- if you send a kid away at age 7 to 12 or 14, but beyond that? cali Jun 2014 #9
Not to mention the smaller boys get raped a lot. AngryAmish Jun 2014 #11
Welcome to DU, Legender 75 ~ Love that old time wisdom toby jo Jun 2014 #12
Interesting. Romney and Bush also seem to spooky3 Jun 2014 #13
JFK went to Choate cali Jun 2014 #14
There are always exceptions and statistically, spooky3 Jun 2014 #19
uh, how do you know these are the exceptions. it's nonsense to make that claim cali Jun 2014 #20
The author has been studying and working with spooky3 Jun 2014 #24
yes, children who are sent away to school at a very young age. not the same thing as cali Jun 2014 #30
John Kennedy, Franklin Roosevelt and John Kerry went to boarding schools. former9thward Jun 2014 #15
K&R woo me with science Jun 2014 #21
The true problem is the idea that the wealthy and privileged are born to rule BrotherIvan Jun 2014 #25
...and to have as little as possible to do with their offspring Warpy Jun 2014 #31
I think there is a huge difference between a 7 year old being sent off pnwmom Jun 2014 #26
Exactly. The article and the documentry linked- which I watched as well, detail the vanlassie Jun 2014 #27
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