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In reply to the discussion: The CORRECT rules for dating my daughter [View all]LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)23. Recommended reading:
http://www.amazon.com/Not-Under-My-Roof-Parents/dp/0226736199
It's not just the one issue. Once a teen is old enough to date, they are old enough to (theoretically) start using their own judgement on consent (theoretically, because parents tend to do their damndest to make sure their daughters don't know how). We do the same with all the other things you mentioned: once they are old enough to earn their own money, they get to decide how it's spent, for good or ill; once they buy their own car, they get to drive when and where they please, as well as facing the responsibilities of insurance, gas and maintenance; curfews tend to get later as the teen gts older and more responsible, etc. The main difference is that parents will generally encourage a teen girl to learn responsibility with things like money and cars and curfews, but not with sexuality and consent; that's treated as a decision best controlled by Daddy till there's a hubby to take over. That's not the treatment you give a thinking human being, it's what you do with a small child or a possession. A piece of flesh, iow.
It's not just the one issue. Once a teen is old enough to date, they are old enough to (theoretically) start using their own judgement on consent (theoretically, because parents tend to do their damndest to make sure their daughters don't know how). We do the same with all the other things you mentioned: once they are old enough to earn their own money, they get to decide how it's spent, for good or ill; once they buy their own car, they get to drive when and where they please, as well as facing the responsibilities of insurance, gas and maintenance; curfews tend to get later as the teen gts older and more responsible, etc. The main difference is that parents will generally encourage a teen girl to learn responsibility with things like money and cars and curfews, but not with sexuality and consent; that's treated as a decision best controlled by Daddy till there's a hubby to take over. That's not the treatment you give a thinking human being, it's what you do with a small child or a possession. A piece of flesh, iow.
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