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davidpdx

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86. Don't give up on what you are doing to improve yourself

Reply to Drunken Irishman (Original post)

Fri Jun 27, 2014, 11:40 PM

Jun 2014

That is what is making you feel better about yourself. If you hate the picture on your badge, do yourself a HUGE favor...go ask to have it retaken. Tell them if you have to you'll pay for the new one. Be honest and say "hey I lost weight and this picture really doesn't represent who I am and I'd appreciate if you could change it". Chances are they will do it and for free.

We all have work to do on ourselves. I am also working on losing weight right now. Doing something about it is what matters.

Edit: By the way my Korean driver's license picture makes me look like a criminal. I happened to not bring a picture with me when I went in to get my license and had to use one of those booths. I've thought about "losing" it and going in and getting a new one. lol

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I had the most humiliating experience of my life today at work. [View all] Drunken Irishman Jun 2014 OP

Don't worry about it! polly7 Jun 2014 #1

"Some people are shallow." Enthusiast Jun 2014 #180

And with manners from the gutter to boot! Cal33 Jun 2014 #182

Sorry you had to deal with that. NaturalHigh Jun 2014 #2

Exactly... ReRe Jun 2014 #61

+1 n/t IL Lib Jun 2014 #87

Yep. She's the one who needs to be embarrassed by her ugly behavior, not you. raccoon Jun 2014 #131

/\ THIS ChairmanAgnostic Jun 2014 #142

This is so true. liberalmuse Jun 2014 #179

Well said! nt Mojorabbit Jun 2014 #181

assholes do ass-holey things madokie Jun 2014 #3

+1000 nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #27

plus one. she's nobody to u. forget it. she's ugly on the inside Liberal_in_LA Jun 2014 #59

and damned ugly on the outside madokie Jun 2014 #62

So sorry you had that terrible experience, but it is more about "her" than you. MoonRiver Jun 2014 #4

I agree. She's a crappy person, not you. n/t FSogol Jun 2014 #19

Hell, mine looks like circa-1969 Charles Manson! nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #29

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jun 2014 #122

I'd made an appointment days in advance, so the wait was very short. nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #126

I completely agree. It's more about her. I mean, who does something like that? FourScore Jun 2014 #36

Turn around is fair play homegirl Jun 2014 #153

Wow, really? ladyVet Jun 2014 #200

+1 troublesome_mind Jun 2014 #205

She was so wrong to do that to you. CaliforniaPeggy Jun 2014 #5

I'm so sorry to hear that A Little Weird Jun 2014 #6

Oh, fuck her and the horse she rode in on. Sheldon Cooper Jun 2014 #7

... nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #38

I'm thinking the horse would be a better lover, though. Ken Burch Jun 2014 #108

But in which order? It matters. ChairmanAgnostic Jun 2014 #143

What you said wryter2000 Jun 2014 #162

I accepted long ago that true beauty is below the surface. Kaleva Jun 2014 #8

You're over thinking this Cali_Democrat Jun 2014 #9

yeah, it's a lame pickup type line similar to "is that your daughter, i thought you were sisters" JI7 Jun 2014 #14

He said she looked repulsed at the photo while she was looking at it. woolldog Jun 2014 #31

+1 Brisk Jun 2014 #47

she was exaggerating as a way to compliment or come on to your friend JI7 Jun 2014 #10

So, the opinion of these shallow women matters to you? Xipe Totec Jun 2014 #11

That occurred to me gratuitous Jun 2014 #116

It's easy to do that in the abstract. Ken Burch Jun 2014 #190

Some of us have had a lot of practice... Xipe Totec Jun 2014 #210

She's a cruel woman JustAnotherGen Jun 2014 #12

I agree with JustAnotherGen! nt Mojorabbit Jun 2014 #57

Sounds like she was trying to flirt with your coworker, in a clumsy and thoughtless way. winter is coming Jun 2014 #13

Maybe, just maybe she will realize what a shallow based judgment she made. Jefferson23 Jun 2014 #15

I'm sorry, that totally sucks - what a shallow person petronius Jun 2014 #16

Well said, petronius ailsagirl Jun 2014 #35

Please, please, please don't perserverate over this. She's not worth it. cali Jun 2014 #17

It is only humiliating if you accept her thoughtless judgment as true. kwassa Jun 2014 #18

Exactly right. GoCubsGo Jun 2014 #54

Please don't let this get to you, DI. sheshe2 Jun 2014 #20

That's horrible and soul sucking. I am sorry that happened to you, and I hope you msanthrope Jun 2014 #21

Let it go. GentryDixon Jun 2014 #22

Don't let her affect you or your gym habits steve2470 Jun 2014 #23

What a jerk she is. She wasn't even looking at your photo, she would have made LiberalLoner Jun 2014 #24

Dude. Really? R. Daneel Olivaw Jun 2014 #25

She sounds very superficial and not a nice person.... SummerSnow Jun 2014 #26

For men, as well as for women, beauty is largely on the inside bhikkhu Jun 2014 #28

Hard to see now, DI.. but it was totally the girl's problem. Too bad when Cha Jun 2014 #30

Can't help you here. I'm 64, and I still feel crappy over remarks made to and about me from decades WinkyDink Jun 2014 #32

That spiteful feeling? Leverage it. flvegan Jun 2014 #33

lol redqueen Jun 2014 #41

Anything else? flvegan Jun 2014 #49

Be careful what you pray for. IrishAyes Jun 2014 #71

LOL flvegan Jun 2014 #94

Seriously. The Red Queen can pretty much mop up the floor with anyone. I've seen her do it. IrishAyes Jun 2014 #101

LOL flvegan Jun 2014 #109

"I could say more here about the subject female" redqueen Jun 2014 #93

Posts 39 and 69 covered it. flvegan Jun 2014 #96

Riiiiiiight. redqueen Jun 2014 #100

"the subject female"??? cwydro Jun 2014 #189

Yes? flvegan Jun 2014 #201

All I can say is . . . Brigid Jun 2014 #34

Right there with you BrotherIvan Jun 2014 #124

You can not let others define you emsimon33 Jun 2014 #37

Like R. Daneel Olivaw said, it's just stupid high school bullshit. redqueen Jun 2014 #39

I'm Sorry That It Happened to You Leith Jun 2014 #40

I know that exact feeling - the overwhelming sense of being some grotesque, hideous freak. nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #42

If that's the most humiliating experience of your life, woo me with science Jun 2014 #43

I wouldn't be so literal. Seems like he was using deliberate hyperbole. nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #70

A general Irish cultural tradition. We don't expect to be taken literally, IrishAyes Jun 2014 #76

says nothing about you Skittles Jun 2014 #44

Amen! nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #73

a good friend recently gave me this advice (he heard it from a navy seal) Justice Jun 2014 #45

The only *troll* in this story is her. I've only had such an experience once or twice, and I know it freshwest Jun 2014 #46

I like that: raccoon Jun 2014 #132

This may be a consolation. Chan790 Jun 2014 #48

I have had more days like that than I can recall. blogslut Jun 2014 #50

This is not a *you* problem. It's a HER problem. Triana Jun 2014 #51

People are not alike all over rebe303 Jun 2014 #52

Hi DI, I am so sorry this happened to you. smirkymonkey Jun 2014 #53

Slim men never turned me off; but then neither did heavier ones. IrishAyes Jun 2014 #84

There are a LOT of sexy heavier men around. smirkymonkey Jun 2014 #216

And of course the snappy comeback Lifelong Protester Jun 2014 #55

"no one can make you feel inferior without your consent" pleinair Jun 2014 #82

Looks like she just showed you two good folks what Ilsa Jun 2014 #56

Albert Ellis' REBT helped me a lot with these kind of issues phil89 Jun 2014 #58

REBT? elucidate, my dear Watson. nt raccoon Jun 2014 #133

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy steve2470 Jun 2014 #137

That's not trivial at all. She's repulsively ugly, imo... Violet_Crumble Jun 2014 #60

Dear heart, IrishAyes Jun 2014 #63

Don't let them take power over you... PasadenaTrudy Jun 2014 #64

My partner works for a "mean girl" yellerpup Jun 2014 #65

I'm pretty old. babylonsister Jun 2014 #66

Some people are just jerks - TBF Jun 2014 #67

Crappy junior high school behavior. She was one of the Mean Girls in hi school, too Hekate Jun 2014 #68

fuck her.... seabeyond Jun 2014 #69

May I add that your friends here at DU LOVE you - Marie Marie Jun 2014 #72

Desperately wicked. That girl. raging moderate Jun 2014 #74

Hey, Drunken Irishman, don't let someone else's bad behavior cause you to feel badly Samantha Jun 2014 #75

I am a substitute teacher. My badge photo is LibDemAlways Jun 2014 #77

Do not give her that kind of power in your life.. abakan Jun 2014 #78

+10000. polly7 Jun 2014 #81

That quote from Maya Angelou is priceless Hekate Jun 2014 #106

Thanks.. abakan Jun 2014 #140

So called 'attractive' people customerserviceguy Jun 2014 #79

Look at this thread-you are loved, and you did that. Go with it! nt babylonsister Jun 2014 #80

Dear Drunken Irishman madaboutharry Jun 2014 #83

I've met physically beautiful people Unknown Beatle Jun 2014 #85

Well said BainsBane Jun 2014 #115

Don't give up on what you are doing to improve yourself davidpdx Jun 2014 #86

Okay. Can we assume that you're over 40? GoneOffShore Jun 2014 #88

Aw damn. So sorry for this, Drunken Irishman. calimary Jun 2014 #89

Please don't tell me you go to the gym to please shallow little twits in their early 20s. Warpy Jun 2014 #90

You've been sexually harrassed and might want to consider going after those coworkers... JVS Jun 2014 #91

No, he was not. former9thward Jun 2014 #193

Thanks, everyone! Drunken Irishman Jun 2014 #92

I've put on more and more weight the last few years davidpdx Jun 2014 #207

"I actually had people openly complimenting my looks" Shankapotomus Jun 2014 #214

At least you don't have a big bro clowning on your hairline Jamaal510 Jun 2014 #95

�Beauty is nothing, beauty won�t stay." bluedigger Jun 2014 #97

I felt your story in my gut Union Scribe Jun 2014 #98

So what? doug1105 Jun 2014 #99

Laaaaaaaame. ZombieHorde Jun 2014 #102

Sorry you had to go through that, DI. Ken Burch Jun 2014 #103

Mean girls BainsBane Jun 2014 #104

Some people get a rush out of making someone else feel shitty. Rhiannon12866 Jun 2014 #105

You're among friends here. Say what you need to say. Ken Burch Jun 2014 #107

Sounds like you didn't receive approbation from a very nasty person. Aristus Jun 2014 #110

I would have said something about my mug shots. Spitfire of ATJ Jun 2014 #111

Don't sweat it, Drunken Irishman = Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #112

Please do not let this bother you. SheilaT Jun 2014 #113

Dearest Drunken Irishman, liberalmuse Jun 2014 #114

She's an idiot and a jerk, so her opinion is worth NOTHING. pnwmom Jun 2014 #117

OMG dude, women DO NOT CARE ABOUT LOOKS like guys do grahamhgreen Jun 2014 #118

She was just hitting on the other guy. pamela Jun 2014 #119

Maybe DI should leave a note on her desk about it...something like this: Ken Burch Jun 2014 #184

One, sorry you went through that. Warren DeMontague Jun 2014 #120

A thoughtful response BainsBane Jun 2014 #129

had a similar experience and it also hurt....but spanone Jun 2014 #121

I like the advice implied here Shankapotomus Jun 2014 #202

Use this pain. Notafraidtoo Jun 2014 #123

Looksism--not just about women anymore n/t eridani Jun 2014 #125

What a vapid thing to do! MADem Jun 2014 #127

Someone with the emotional maturity of an 8th grader is controlling your thoughts? alphafemale Jun 2014 #128

We all have self doubt within us..... bobGandolf Jun 2014 #130

I really think that ID photographers seek out... ananda Jun 2014 #134

Don't let that skank rob you of your motivation to take care of you, Irish. TheKentuckian Jun 2014 #135

Aw, hon, that sucks elehhhhna Jun 2014 #136

Keep up the hard work and have a new badge made. ileus Jun 2014 #138

I personally don't understand why people are bashing this woman Harmony Blue Jun 2014 #139

It's not bashing her-it's empathy with him. Ken Burch Jun 2014 #191

She knew it was someone at work and made a superficial and unnecessary judgement about them to stevenleser Jun 2014 #208

Yo, why do you think the Irish drink? ChairmanAgnostic Jun 2014 #141

I've had things like that happen dozens of times in my life hfojvt Jun 2014 #144

As both a photographer and a horribly un-photogenic person Schema Thing Jun 2014 #145

You aren't the one who should feel embarrassed. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2014 #146

She'll be dead someday like everyone else... Tom_Foolery Jun 2014 #147

r u a guy or a girl? Laura PourMeADrink Jun 2014 #148

I've learned even very attractive people can look terrible in photos, so don't worry! I'm an actress DesertDiamond Jun 2014 #149

She's the repulsive one. davidthegnome Jun 2014 #150

Looks Scarsdale Jun 2014 #151

Don't let an incidental character in your life control it by what stupid comments they make. Rex Jun 2014 #152

DI ------ DO NOT let this affect your gym regimen! pablo_marmol Jun 2014 #154

My ID photo story Fortinbras Armstrong Jun 2014 #155

Some people are just fucking jerks. It's nothing you did to deserve that. Quantess Jun 2014 #156

Sorry it happened. StoneCarver Jun 2014 #157

Were these girls or women? LeftyMom Jun 2014 #158

The reason they call it self esteem is because it doesn't require anyone's permission. lumberjack_jeff Jun 2014 #159

What a twisted brain! Man, that sounds like a script right out of a Disney high school bully scene. C Moon Jun 2014 #160

Don't let that superficial idiot bother you Erda Jun 2014 #161

All bullies are scared little kids inside. That goes for the Kochs, too. And fascists. McCamy Taylor Jun 2014 #163

Petty people, etc... Bobbie Jo Jun 2014 #164

Cheer up. I look drunk in my driver's license photo. Vinca Jun 2014 #165

I had a similar experience at a Hollywood party maybe 20 years ago yurbud Jun 2014 #166

So, what? Nothing happened, really. Helen Borg Jun 2014 #167

Hi DI...honest truth..this young lady was poorly raised...and odds are she will continue.. Tikki Jun 2014 #168

I had that in spades happen to me at the worst possible age. Done to me by my peers, and in print DFW Jun 2014 #169

Actually... In an odd backhanded way, she has shown you that your efforts paid off. Xyzse Jun 2014 #170

I feel for you as well. kchamberlin25 Jun 2014 #171

Water. Duck's back. matt819 Jun 2014 #172

Don't let assholes like that get you down. Iggo Jun 2014 #173

"Anyway, sorry to vent. I just hit rock bottom on something that maybe you'll all find trivial; greiner3 Jun 2014 #174

That's ok ybbor Jun 2014 #175

The hideous one is the girl lunatica Jun 2014 #176

she probably gets the same look when she finds out the clothes you are wearing JI7 Jun 2014 #186

I'm so sorry that happened to you, but remember this-- she has a problem, not you! ColesCountyDem Jun 2014 #177

dude, do NOT play her game!! ellennelle Jun 2014 #178

Don't let it get you down. People are just mean. JDPriestly Jun 2014 #183

It would have been nice had your friend ejbr Jun 2014 #185

I've gone pictures of myself that I'd NEVER show, but after working out Babel_17 Jun 2014 #187

Lots of assholes out there... FiggyJay Jun 2014 #188

My bet is... PosterChild Jun 2014 #192

For openers, Drunken Irishman Iwillnevergiveup Jun 2014 #194

Accept what you can't change, Change what you can, & Get wiser at telling the difference. Bernardo de La Paz Jun 2014 #195

this one helped me get through a whole lot of nasty: hopemountain Jun 2014 #196

Worse case scenario Shankapotomus Jun 2014 #197

Post your pic and age, and then tell us his Reter Jun 2014 #198

When I was 16 my father apologized to me because it was his fault my face was "so ugly." magical thyme Jun 2014 #199

Hi MT...where do these people come from? My mother used to ask me to walk ten steps behind her... Tikki Jun 2014 #204

I don't get them at all.... magical thyme Jun 2014 #215

Sounds like she was just trying to flirt with the other guy. LisaL Jun 2014 #203

I do hope you're feeling better about yourself now. herding cats Jun 2014 #206

Think about it this way, we all get old and much less attractive eventually... stevenleser Jun 2014 #209

Don't know if you saw this downthread, but in response to someone else's post Ken Burch Jun 2014 #211

Have you seen this, DI? This OP was precepitated by yours and it's very Awesome! top of Greatest Cha Jun 2014 #212

Are you trying to lose weight? Marr Jun 2014 #213