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tymorial

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23. True.

Fri Jul 4, 2014, 05:37 PM

Jul 2014

This is very true I was raped by two men and I felt tremendous shame that I remained silent. I can't imagine the shame a man feels if he is raped by a woman given that we live in a society where a significant portion believe this to be an impossibility. We have other portions who have minimized the suffering of those men by changing what happened to them from rape to "made to penetrate." Anyway, I have been reading for a long time but this subject is one that I feel strongly about (for obvious reasons) and felt the need to contribute. As for the person who said I felt save posting here: I believe that most of the posters here are honest and good people. that being said if I was forced to use my facebook account to use my real name, I probably would not have posted this. Just like most people, I too am a prisoner to expectations of gender.

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21 Men Holding Signs Quoting Their Rapists [View all] ZombieHorde Jul 2014 OP

I wish them all the best they can find. I have a struggle with violence against everyone roguevalley Jul 2014 #1

thanking these men Skittles Jul 2014 #2

Agree LoisB Jul 2014 #3

Yes they are PumpkinAle Jul 2014 #18

k&r thanks for posting. nm rhett o rick Jul 2014 #4

Thank you to these men for speaking out! pleinair Jul 2014 #5

Very courageous onecaliberal Jul 2014 #6

Brave men... I wish that I were so brave. tymorial Jul 2014 #7

I am sorry that this happened to you Rhiannon12866 Jul 2014 #12

I know it was difficult to share this. Thanks for YOUR bravery. n/t Tess49 Jul 2014 #13

Very sorry this happened to you. Agschmid Jul 2014 #15

I am so sorry. yardwork Jul 2014 #16

Welcome to DU wryter2000 Jul 2014 #17

You ARE that brave. You just proved it. Jackpine Radical Jul 2014 #19

... IronLionZion Jul 2014 #27

Betrayal in any form is always heinous, but rape is one of the worst. Very brave of you IrishAyes Jul 2014 #33

You are brave now. Thanks. nilram Jul 2014 #39

heartbreaking. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2014 #8

This makes me so sad. n/t FourScore Jul 2014 #9

Rape is wrong no matter who. uppityperson Jul 2014 #10

I applaud anybody who can find the strength to do this mythology Jul 2014 #11

Years Ago Children Obeyed grilled onions Jul 2014 #14

Rape is such a horrific crime. liberalmuse Jul 2014 #20

k&r LeftishBrit Jul 2014 #21

True. tymorial Jul 2014 #23

((gentle hug)) Be well brave tymorial! riderinthestorm Jul 2014 #25

Sad. They are definitely brave. cyberswede Jul 2014 #22

Heartbreaking and also incredibly brave riderinthestorm Jul 2014 #24

Mercy shenmue Jul 2014 #26

I shudder to think of the RW comments on an article like this. It does take guts to say Dark n Stormy Knight Jul 2014 #28

Sadly its not just the rw. tymorial Jul 2014 #29

True. We are all socialized and unconsciously are burdened with unnecessary, unhelpful Dark n Stormy Knight Jul 2014 #55

The article says 1 in 3 women have been or will be sexually assaulted elias49 Jul 2014 #30

Whenever I see this subject, I try to recommend an excellent movie about IrishAyes Jul 2014 #31

I remember seeing at the time. You're right; it was excellent. n/t winter is coming Jul 2014 #32

I understand that movie is used in therapy groups, it was so good. IrishAyes Jul 2014 #34

Here it is, 1985, starred Richard Crenna and Meredith Baxter, impressive cast: Rhiannon12866 Jul 2014 #38

"Deliverance" is another one. bananas Jul 2014 #42

Full movie on Youtube: IronLionZion Jul 2014 #44

The victims' fear and guilt is the predators' secret weapon McCamy Taylor Jul 2014 #35

We have a violent society. Healing to these and all victims of rape. AllyCat Jul 2014 #36

This^^^^^^ JNelson6563 Jul 2014 #53

I wish I could rec the responses to this thread. ZombieHorde Jul 2014 #37

Mine said: It's like I raped you. HAHA! You know you wanted it. Behind the Aegis Jul 2014 #40

"what were they wearing?" guys are such sluts you know. pansypoo53219 Jul 2014 #41

Incredibly brave. MerryBlooms Jul 2014 #43

Thanks to those who provided links to the movie I mentioned. IrishAyes Jul 2014 #45

Regardless of who is the victim, people need to remember that Skidmore Jul 2014 #46

Speaks volumes that certain voices are absent in this thread. nt DRoseDARs Jul 2014 #47

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #48

Right. Thanks for kicking it. redqueen Jul 2014 #49

Not everyone sees every thread. ZombieHorde Jul 2014 #50

Rape is a vicious heinous crime etherealtruth Jul 2014 #51

It is. And it's long past time men started speaking up redqueen Jul 2014 #52

Exactly etherealtruth Jul 2014 #54