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In reply to the discussion: Seen on Facebook; An extraordinarily well written response to an anti-choice post [View all]ljm2002
(10,751 posts)...and that seems to be the source of your fundamental misunderstanding here.
All of us (probably) agree that, in an ideal situation, say a married couple and the woman becomes pregnant -- in the ideal situation, they would discuss it and come to a decision that both of them agree upon and are happy with.
But we also all (probably) know that there's theory, and then there's reality. In the Real World (TM), things are not always so simple. That is one reason we need laws -- so we can be clear on where certain lines are drawn, and know when not to cross them.
In the case of pregnancy, the courts have decreed that it is between a woman and her doctor, up to about the third trimester usually. After that the state asserts more control of the situation legally.
In the Real World, where we all agree to follow the laws (modulo civil disobedience), you have this much say in whether she carries that fetus to term: ZIP, ZERO, NADA.