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In reply to the discussion: Leashed kids in the mall. [View all]uppityperson
(116,020 posts)220. You continue to judge without knowledge of the facts and what toddler could perceive
"quiet humiliation" from overly judgmental people?
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usually the ones on leashes are the same ones that will not stay in a stroller
lunasun
Jul 2014
#105
You convince an energetic 2 or 3 year old they want to ride in a stroller.
dflprincess
Jul 2014
#211
Like any tool, they can be used well or misused. It drives me nuts to see kids in strollers
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#3
And I put a bark collar on my kid so when they yelled, they'd get a zap and learn to shut up
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#188
I had to change out the chain choke collar for a leather one in the library because of the noise
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#198
ya. especially if you are older. true that. got a puppy. first time out, without leash,
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#10
Sadly, I don't have that photo in digital form. But here's another one, when I was six
MineralMan
Jul 2014
#74
I recall one from way back then. I can't remember it being used much, but now I remember it, as I
RKP5637
Jul 2014
#84
Wouldn't it be something if every small child had the same temperament and impulse control?
Tikki
Jul 2014
#11
Big international airports--OMG.... I can CERTAINLY see why parents might want to use leashes
hlthe2b
Jul 2014
#37
I saw a little kid about three take off sprinting for the door at a hospital awhile back. His mom
brewens
Jul 2014
#13
All the "local" clothing stores here sell size 00 twee dresses and 70 dollar t shirts.
LeftyMom
Jul 2014
#201
why not? it is cheap entertainment for a little one. acitivty. stimulation. social interacting.
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#23
seriously? saying to the person that hates shopping and hates spending more. right.
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#164
activity. stimulation. social interacting. yes. a world of listening, seeing, learning and having
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#169
Taking a young child to the mall for entertainment is barely a notch above parking them in
retread
Jul 2014
#174
you do not know what you are talking about or just looking for a fight. either way, not interested
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#175
For many places, the mall has been comparable to town square. People go there to socialize,
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#208
The mall is the only place mom can shop? What happened to locally owned stores. What a strange,
retread
Jul 2014
#158
You may be correct. I don't go to malls. I wonder how they can afford the monthly nut? Malls
retread
Jul 2014
#181
Would you also unstrap and remove kids from strollers, so they can also roam free? (nt)
Nye Bevan
Jul 2014
#26
Oh, I don't know. Putting in an invisible fence and shock collar on my kids worked wonders for
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#61
or heard the screams and wails of a child whose foot is caught in an escalator?
hlthe2b
Jul 2014
#39
I guess we all just have to admit you are a superior parent to the rest of us.
CBGLuthier
Jul 2014
#114
And who are YOU to question a DUer's desire to return? Your post ought to be self-deleted. Shame
hlthe2b
Jul 2014
#40
I would rather see leashed kids (as long as they aren't dragged by said leash) than...
moriah
Jul 2014
#36
So much depends on the individual kid. I had a friend who, at 3 y.o., caught a ferry ride
Hekate
Jul 2014
#62
I'm OK with leashes. All it takes is a brief moment of inattention and the kid(s) could be gone. nt
RKP5637
Jul 2014
#80
pet peeve> kids running around unattended or worse just ignored (The Unleashed)
lunasun
Jul 2014
#106
I think people need to worry less about how others parent their kids, so long as the children are
MADem
Jul 2014
#108
Pretty much my thought. The video of that mom dragging her kid by a leash, though....
moriah
Jul 2014
#116
There are always dumb parents--and sometimes, kids can be irritating and young parents
MADem
Jul 2014
#120
Yeah, I used to sit there and judge people's parenting choices without knowing their situation too.
Butterbean
Jul 2014
#122
My grandson has high-functioning autism & I got him a backpack leash after the 1st trip out in ...
ebayfool
Jul 2014
#189
I always watched my son like a hawk when I went out, except for the one time I did not...
steve2470
Jul 2014
#129
My two were, and with proper skills that burden was removed and the children will benefit later on.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#140
It requires about 2-3 weeks of change, to all family members. Simple tricks and methods.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#148
I am glad you learned how to manage your children without continuing to verbally abuse them. However
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#150
What worked for me are industry standard best practices and works in most every home.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#154
And I see everyone's situation as unique. It may have similarities, but still is unique.
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#160
I've seen a first grader sporting a harness at my mall a couple of years back.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#270
They are almost unheard of in Metro NY/Philly. What makes this area different?
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#185
As a general rule 'leashes' should not be used in congested areas.
Boudica the Lyoness
Jul 2014
#141
With adaptive parenting skills, the easy way out is without having to use a leash or a stroller. nt
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#142
Folks up my way don't use leashes. I maintained complete control using...
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#262
when a kid starts pulling too hard on a leash do you give it a little tug tug?
snooper2
Jul 2014
#287
Thanks Pintobean. I knew it would get flagged since I challenged parental behavior.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#146
Having a toddler connected to a parent by a strap is not "quiet humiliation" in most cases.
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#200
You continue to judge without knowledge of the facts and what toddler could perceive
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#220
Which facts are they? I have seen NO justification for them, other than parent's needs.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#222
Use of a leash isn't humiliating, brow beating, or being told they're stupid or lazy
gollygee
Jul 2014
#239
The kid is 'happier' on the leash, because that's the alternate option presented to them. nt
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#224
Our second challenged us. The youngest challenged authority at all levels - all the time.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#243
You act like you are helpless and have no control over your kids at all.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#249
I'm sorry. I would have bent down, redirected her anger, and if that failed picked her up.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#257
Our toddler was happy free range too, even as cars SCREECHED TO A STOP to save her life
Faryn Balyncd
Jul 2014
#283
There are several categories of child behavior, each requires slightly different methods, but..
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#240
Oh, the Quiet Humiliation of toddlers in diapers. If only the parents went to a coach and counseling
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#232
A toddler is between one and three. Many kids are in leashes until they are well past 5.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#246
Because in NY/NJ/Eastern PA, they aren't used. What's different in less congested areas?
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#252
I am talking about toddlers. Stop telling me I am pretending, stop insulting me and assuming
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#250
I see more than toddlers using them, so it's not just toddlers that have leashes.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#256
The vast majority, including me, are writing about toddlers. If you want to include older kids,
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#267
trumad was referring to 4 & 5 year-olds too. Also, toddlers congesting the floor of a busy mall?
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#272
You didn't what age Trumad was referring to until right before your last post.
Live and Learn
Jul 2014
#276
My daughter was a toddler when James Bulger was abducted and murdered...
Violet_Crumble
Jul 2014
#147
Both are abjections of parental responsibility, whatever is easier for the 'adult'.
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#227
I've been there too, as a single parent. Stop making parenting so difficult. It isn't. nt
TheBlackAdder
Jul 2014
#309
I usually hope the parents are doing the correct thing. I mean, some children...
BlueJazz
Jul 2014
#295
Oh yeah.. security. never know when some "stand your ground" nut job will decide to
2banon
Jul 2014
#304
I think I was among the first generation if parents using leashes (my kirks are both in their )30s
left is right
Jul 2014
#310