Here Are 4 Ways We’re Accidentally Teaching Kids That Consent Doesn't Matter

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23. Yep.

Reminds me of parents I know who say, "They have to learn about the REAL world!"

dude, your kid is 4. Give them a break. They have many years to learn about the 'real' world, and it will come in time. They will learn how to work and how to be diplomatic and how to interact as they grow up, no need to push them too early as that can be equally as damaging as not teaching them anything at all. Teach them (without forcing them) as the opportunity comes up and they will learn just fine.

Also, if one is worried about social interaction and how that makes others feel, then it's the perfect opportunity to teach empathy. You don't have to force your kid to hug or even say hi, but as kids get older you can say things like, "Grandma hasn't seen you for awhile and I know how excited she was to see you. She loves you a lot. I know it would mean a lot to her if you acknowledge her. You can decide how you want to do that." No forcing needed, and a good opportunity to teach empathy. I did this with my kids when they met my grandfather (who was nearly 100 at the time) and they decided to draw him a picture that said, "we love you great-grandpa" on it. My aunt put it on the wall of his room at the home he was in and he treasured it and showed it off to his friends. No forcing of anything needed and everyone felt respected and heard.