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Brickbat

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32. But it's not talking about verbal greetings.

Tue Jul 15, 2014, 09:19 AM

Jul 2014

It's about forcing a four-year-old to be quiet and polite when people touch and embrace them, when they don't want to be touched or embraced,. A better analogy would be adults having to submit to hugs and kisses from their bosses when they get to work every morning.

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Here Are 4 Ways We�re Accidentally Teaching Kids That Consent Doesn't Matter [View all] eridani Jul 2014 OP

My mother's great-grand-daughter didn't want to kiss her. delrem Jul 2014 #1

So, are you saying consent doesn't really matter? n/t eridani Jul 2014 #2

how could you possibly imagine that? delrem Jul 2014 #3

what you related Skittles Jul 2014 #4

Oh. delrem Jul 2014 #5

it's just easily misunderstood Skittles Jul 2014 #6

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #7

"you guys", as in critical thinkers Skittles Jul 2014 #9

Then alert me for calling it. Skittles. delrem Jul 2014 #11

oh I don't alert Skittles Jul 2014 #12

and your point is? delrem Jul 2014 #15

LOL....done here Skittles Jul 2014 #16

you were "done" awhile ago, Skittles. delrem Jul 2014 #17

delrem, seriously, back down. I couldn't figure out what your post was saying either. Squinch Jul 2014 #26

I figured it out in the first reading joeglow3 Jul 2014 #41

That's nice but I didn't and neither did eridani, who very civilly asked him what he meant. Squinch Jul 2014 #46

I was lucky as I never experienced those messages. Behind the Aegis Jul 2014 #8

Good for her! eridani Jul 2014 #10

It likely is and may have something to do with her own abuse by a family member. Behind the Aegis Jul 2014 #13

That's very insightful. nt pinboy3niner Jul 2014 #14

I agree with you. Bonobo Jul 2014 #18

How would this non-greeting philosophy play out in RL? Shankapotomus Jul 2014 #19

Adults are capable of understanding diplomatic protocols eridani Jul 2014 #20

Yep. laundry_queen Jul 2014 #23

I agree Shankapotomus Jul 2014 #24

It is entirely possible gollygee Jul 2014 #36

Absolutely Shankapotomus Jul 2014 #39

But it's not talking about verbal greetings. Brickbat Jul 2014 #32

She did include simple greetings Shankapotomus Jul 2014 #37

Nice post. "Trauma projection" is a nice, useful phrase. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #43

Children generally learn from what adults DO not from what they say or order. ananda Jul 2014 #21

EXCELLENT link (I read the transcript) laundry_queen Jul 2014 #22

My first thought was too dismiss this piece but I see it resonated with others so I'll reconsider aikoaiko Jul 2014 #25

If an adult insists that a child clean his room, are there a lot of precedents for children later Squinch Jul 2014 #27

Apples and oranges. Quantess Jul 2014 #28

I don't believe that date rape is the issue. I think the issues is with children while they are Squinch Jul 2014 #29

Okay, I'll buy that. Quantess Jul 2014 #30

It is often an issue with developmentally delayed kids, both giving hugs and not saying, "I don't Squinch Jul 2014 #31

Yes, hugging appropriately takes social skills! We sometimes take this for granted. Quantess Jul 2014 #35

The other messages kids get about hygiene and labor are generally pretty consistent, though. Brickbat Jul 2014 #33

Kids are shy by nature. talkguy365 Jul 2014 #34

All things in moderation, absolutely. Quantess Jul 2014 #38

Ah ha. Moderation is key. talkguy365 Jul 2014 #40

What do you imply by that? Quantess Jul 2014 #42

No implications. talkguy365 Jul 2014 #45

Which is exactly my point! Nobody should be forced to hug anyone. Quantess Jul 2014 #47

As a kid, I had to hug smelly old aunts. It was gross. Then I got over it. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #44