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397. Cali, I want to thank you so much for posting this OP.

Tue Jul 15, 2014, 07:26 PM

Jul 2014

As a rape survivor, it's so empowering for me to see how you handled this!

What happened to you was abuse, sexual abuse, and that's a fact. To say, as some here have, that in responding to that abuse you should have first used "the proper channels" -- rather than gone public with the evidence of what happened -- is just so fucking typical of how abuse survivors are expected to "make nice" in the face of the most vile attacks. And then, to cap it off, we often also then get blamed for "not resisting"--not making a big ENOUGH stink about it. It's a vortex of contradictory, mutually exclusive, mind-bending social bullshit around sexual violence that has helped to perpetuate the same evil shit for millennia.

Kudos to you for having the guts, the insight, the clarity of thought to do precisely the right thing here--expose the perpetrator, hold him accountable, and then, also, to educate the community, and thus make at least this little corner of the net a better and (hopefully) safer place for all of us.

You represent absolutely the best DU has to offer. Carry on, and my sympathy and condolences for the abuse you were forced to endure.

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Let's talk about sexism on DU [View all] cali Jul 2014 OP

I hope you reported it and I would expect that person banned within the hour. CBGLuthier Jul 2014 #1

I have not reported it. I will cali Jul 2014 #3

I have to say, I'm shocked. Enthusiast Jul 2014 #346

Thanks, E. It's more than just this extreme example and it's directed at other cali Jul 2014 #369

it does not go away either. not that it takes you down or anything, not even close. seabeyond Jul 2014 #371

Yes, whathehell Jul 2014 #407

Like woah Capt. Obvious Jul 2014 #2

Here's the email from me to AAO that he responded to with this vile shit: cali Jul 2014 #4

Your message was completely reasonable. cyberswede Jul 2014 #8

thanks. cali Jul 2014 #10

He's one sick fuck, cali. Glad to see he's been PPR'd. Sorry you had to deal with that shit. Scuba Jul 2014 #419

Geez, the bickering from both sides here should stop. cbdo2007 Jul 2014 #5

excuse me???? You think one person vilely attacking another, calling cali Jul 2014 #7

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #28

I think you need to go. That person will be banned immediately cali Jul 2014 #30

+1 Enthusiast Jul 2014 #349

+2 Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #433

Hatred and Threats against Women is not "bickering" . those who dismiss it as such are part of the JI7 Jul 2014 #36

Um, no. TDale313 Jul 2014 #54

AUTOMATED MESSAGE: Results of your Jury Service Orrex Jul 2014 #55

Good jury. nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #64

user got another hide here, now is flagged for review! nt alp227 Jul 2014 #345

Are you fucking kidding? cyberswede Jul 2014 #11

A false equivalency worthy of CNN BainsBane Jul 2014 #177

Happily, a jury agreed that one of his posts was insensitive. cyberswede Jul 2014 #185

+1 Enthusiast Jul 2014 #351

Really? Bickering? Both sides? That's how such horrors persist. polichick Jul 2014 #26

frankly, on the strength of that posters two posts in this thread, he/she should cali Jul 2014 #31

True! polichick Jul 2014 #38

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #41

threat of rape is funny to you ? JI7 Jul 2014 #45

A fellow poster being threatened in the most vile way is a joke? LexVegas Jul 2014 #195

You are way way out of line. Enthusiast Jul 2014 #354

I agree. kcr Jul 2014 #46

Agree. nt. NCTraveler Jul 2014 #49

Agree. Sheldon Cooper Jul 2014 #51

i think he should be as well. m-lekktor Jul 2014 #114

Yep. I agree. City Lights Jul 2014 #174

i agree. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #182

agreed nt steve2470 Jul 2014 #186

I don't know about that BainsBane Jul 2014 #231

I would have to agree. smirkymonkey Jul 2014 #338

"bickering from both sides" ? really ? did you even read her post ? JI7 Jul 2014 #33

He is threatening her with bodily harm. Anal rape. CTyankee Jul 2014 #34

This message was self-deleted by its author Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #58

And insisting that he's our "ally." It always seems that the ones who insist "You better not Squinch Jul 2014 #257

oh, is that what he said? I guess I didn't get to it before it was gone... CTyankee Jul 2014 #264

Oh, it's still there, all over the "woman scorned" thread. He thinks feminists are doing it wrong, Squinch Jul 2014 #266

"He's shown little bits of his sick ass self pretty regularly." yes. he did. no surprise and good seabeyond Jul 2014 #272

I'm waiting for the Discussionist thread blaming his banning BainsBane Jul 2014 #284

hey... were you around? i wasnt around? any hof around? yelling about those hyperfeminists and seabeyond Jul 2014 #288

I saw the thread when it was brand new BainsBane Jul 2014 #294

lol. well. if i had seen the woman scorned, bullshit, i would have stood right beside cali. seabeyond Jul 2014 #295

That was before she commented BainsBane Jul 2014 #296

i see. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #304

that person said cali is always causing trouble by attacking men JI7 Jul 2014 #310

i was surprised by the whole attack. i think so much hyperbole on hof has been allowed that seabeyond Jul 2014 #314

You know what? If that kind of person likes to blame us for the percieved injustices that they Squinch Jul 2014 #382

it is funny in that. but no. because it takes way from all the many many diverse voice and compiles seabeyond Jul 2014 #386

But doesn't that mean they are lumping EVERYONE into HoF? Or at least everyone reasonable? Squinch Jul 2014 #388

i think more people are seeing, yes, that hof is interesting and welcoming. open. seabeyond Jul 2014 #389

Yes. That is interesting. I wonder if today's events will make some more able to hear Squinch Jul 2014 #392

LOL!!! polly7 Jul 2014 #404

it really bothered me with the quinnox issue. i was really bothered, not replying, just listening seabeyond Jul 2014 #391

With quinnox, I imagine many were like me and had him on ignore. Though there Squinch Jul 2014 #395

ya. this is a good post to conclude with. yes. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #396

. Squinch Jul 2014 #401

When we talk about language BainsBane Jul 2014 #424

except the denigrating and degrading language we use on women conditions all to do the big stuff. seabeyond Jul 2014 #425

Of course it is related BainsBane Jul 2014 #426

lol lol seabeyond Jul 2014 #428

Fair enough BainsBane Jul 2014 #402

Yeah, I saw his profile and everything...but CTyankee Jul 2014 #279

Oh, CTyankee! I hope all turns out well for you both. Hang in there. Squinch Jul 2014 #283

Oh, we're all fine...don't worry...I just can't... CTyankee Jul 2014 #289

I'll look for it. Squinch Jul 2014 #297

well, thanks...nothing much, just a little analysis of a couple of works I liked... CTyankee Jul 2014 #377

Fair and balanced reaction Capt. Obvious Jul 2014 #43

That's your response after reading that vile crap? WhollyHeretic Jul 2014 #61

I can only guess AgingAmerican Jul 2014 #422

this goes WELL beyond bickering steve2470 Jul 2014 #127

false equivalency is highly dishonest. you should try to be marginally more honest La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2014 #158

And herein lies the problem. City Lights Jul 2014 #169

That wasn't bickering. It was a vile threat. MineralMan Jul 2014 #209

That isn't "bickering." Cali was exposing someone who shouldn't be allowed pnwmom Jul 2014 #243

Bickering? nt msanthrope Jul 2014 #249

Bwah! Both sides? Iggo Jul 2014 #253

This wins the Stupidest Post of the Day Award. Squinch Jul 2014 #403

Bickering?...Are you KIDDING?...His response could be compared to whathehell Jul 2014 #408

Did you read the OP? AgingAmerican Jul 2014 #421

This message was self-deleted by its author cyberswede Jul 2014 #6

It has gotten out of control imo laundry_queen Jul 2014 #9

well said. and essentially the reason why I posted it publicly. cali Jul 2014 #13

Note the support that vile poster was getting in the thread kcr Jul 2014 #50

another reason why I posted this. That thread, the reactions of posters and jury. cali Jul 2014 #133

+1 nt Zorra Jul 2014 #67

This. Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #117

I completely agree with you. City Lights Jul 2014 #180

Amen. Emboldened assholes are the WORST kind. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #200

+ a million! boston bean Jul 2014 #259

the person needs to be banned if they haven't already JI7 Jul 2014 #12

a few minutes ago. cali Jul 2014 #15

appalling. I just can't understand how this man can call himself a progressive. CTyankee Jul 2014 #14

I think people on the jury just didn't know the context of that idiom cali Jul 2014 #18

hell hath no fury hfojvt Jul 2014 #327

I honestly do not agree with a lot of your post on here. newcriminal Jul 2014 #16

thanks. as you note, that had nothing to do with honest disagreement cali Jul 2014 #23

And it comes out most dramatically redqueen Jul 2014 #37

yes. and this brings that point into sharp focus cali Jul 2014 #42

i jsut went to check what started it. i hate woman scorned. more men murder partner cause of scorn seabeyond Jul 2014 #199

exactly right. it is a VERY sexist notion and yet look at the posters in that thread defending cali Jul 2014 #221

one consistently claims.... i am woman, no sexism here. i stopped reading after that. seabeyond Jul 2014 #248

...and the escalation to a nasty PM - as if he was harmed by her pointing that out. cyberswede Jul 2014 #52

Freaking wow malaise Jul 2014 #17

Wow, that message is beyond disgusting... Spazito Jul 2014 #19

...^ that 840high Jul 2014 #254

The email was from AAO? You seem to be clear I just want to make sure. Thanks. nt. NCTraveler Jul 2014 #20

Yes. cali Jul 2014 #24

We can't see email in your inbox, so the link won't work. MineralMan Jul 2014 #21

last time I checked his status, he hadn't been ppr'd. CTyankee Jul 2014 #60

MIRT can't just ban people with that many posts. MineralMan Jul 2014 #69

Only admin can ban him maddezmom Jul 2014 #100

good. There are some very upset DUers here. CTyankee Jul 2014 #149

Actually, I forgot If they get a hide a MIRT member can ban with clear consensus of others maddezmom Jul 2014 #156

well done MIRT, thank you! Scout Jul 2014 #189

If he is reading DU perhaps this will help him with a reality check - DURHAM D Jul 2014 #247

Good riddance. City Lights Jul 2014 #190

Na na na na, na na na na, hey hey hey, goodbye! KamaAina Jul 2014 #212

Thank you MIRT and thank you jurors who gave the 7-0 hide uppityperson Jul 2014 #237

Adios, mysoginyst! ColesCountyDem Jul 2014 #298

He's been PPRed now. MineralMan Jul 2014 #214

My guess is that the admins are also looking at this episode of vile ugliness here at DU. CTyankee Jul 2014 #234

That was a rotten thing to do, but... TreasonousBastard Jul 2014 #22

AAO and I brought it up because I see it as indicative of a real problem on DU cali Jul 2014 #35

"How is this sexism on DU?" thucythucy Jul 2014 #39

Posting it here allows everyone to see it Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #40

This. Dr. Strange Jul 2014 #118

Indeed. Sunlight is the best disinfectant. n/t Chan790 Jul 2014 #352

AAO posted on OP where he attacked Feminists , cali disagreed with him and he threatens with Rape JI7 Jul 2014 #47

"How is this "sexism on DU"?" NCTraveler Jul 2014 #53

how is a male DUer sending rape threats "sexism on DU?" Derp. nt geek tragedy Jul 2014 #137

because from these same people we deal with their sexism and lack of support and only.... seabeyond Jul 2014 #207

Good Lord. You actually wrote those things in your post, didn't you? Squinch Jul 2014 #230

hahahahahahahaha. You slay me with your dry wit. How is sexism written on DU sexism on DU? uppityperson Jul 2014 #238

Are you serious? Texasgal Jul 2014 #405

cali - you need to name the person who sent you that. Sheldon Cooper Jul 2014 #25

it's that person AAO from the 2nd link JI7 Jul 2014 #48

I'm shocked that you're shocked redqueen Jul 2014 #27

Agreed ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2014 #154

Check the link to his transparency page intaglio Jul 2014 #276

it wasnt out of character. he left tells lying around all the time. seabeyond Jul 2014 #277

Oh ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2014 #290

she wasnt even being the b word, she was stupid. but no. couldnt just call the woman stupid. seabeyond Jul 2014 #210

And calling her a b***** is still defended in the thread... redqueen Jul 2014 #274

yup. it was like looking for the opportunityt o use, even when it does not work. i am not seabeyond Jul 2014 #282

I think she was more shocked by the obscene rape language.. whathehell Jul 2014 #409

That is disgusting but it should go to an Admin not here. n/t dilby Jul 2014 #29

no. it's indicative of a larger problem that women here have been belittled for trying to talk about cali Jul 2014 #91

Cool, so every time I get hate mail I should post it on the open forums. dilby Jul 2014 #96

That's up to you- obviously. Is it indicative of a larger problem extant on DU? cali Jul 2014 #97

Hate mail, I would say yeah unless I am special and no one else gets it. dilby Jul 2014 #109

I've never received anything remotely like this here. cali Jul 2014 #138

I have seen men hating women, women hating men and everything else. dilby Jul 2014 #205

we completely disagree. the guy is banned. MIRT did it. In any case cali Jul 2014 #213

You mean the false equivalence we are seeing on this thread? dilby Jul 2014 #323

seriously dude? how many people are allowed to stand up for right, before you say they are a problem seabeyond Jul 2014 #331

Where did I shift the blame? dilby Jul 2014 #333

I explained this to you: It's reflective of a bigger problem on DU. Period. duh. cali Jul 2014 #334

I totally disagree. If someone says that kind of shit to someone, they need to be known for what Squinch Jul 2014 #236

Another way to reinforce the "not all men" argument thucythucy Jul 2014 #372

And we MUSTN'T have a thread in which people voice disgust about rape threats, because such a thread Squinch Jul 2014 #379

Seriously (and I have to get serious here) thucythucy Jul 2014 #394

Yes, absolutely. I think part of that idiotic impulse to say, "Shhhhhhh. Not so loud," Squinch Jul 2014 #399

this was worse than some wingnuts attacking a member for being commie, socialist etc JI7 Jul 2014 #148

Do you get hate mail here that often? Threatening to rape you with a broomstick? Then, yes. Squinch Jul 2014 #268

I've been here for a decade, pissed a lot of people off and never have had to alert on a PM. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #316

last 6 months. i hadnt had it either. the last 6 months. 4 men. only one ppr'ed. seabeyond Jul 2014 #318

yeesh. I'm sorry. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #321

If you still have them, you should alert on all of them. cyberswede Jul 2014 #330

one is back at christmas. one is longer. i think he just got a name change. seabeyond Jul 2014 #332

I don't see how ONE person with an attitude hfojvt Jul 2014 #335

first off, read the thread that started it all. secondly, he passed here. he got endorsements cali Jul 2014 #340

I read that thread hfojvt Jul 2014 #355

your post is riddled with false equivalencies. it's pretty disgusting. cali Jul 2014 #362

wo-kay fine hfojvt Jul 2014 #380

Your priorities are disturbing. You are caught up in whether his original posts were cali Jul 2014 #384

"you evidently don't find rape threats nasty" hfojvt Jul 2014 #390

So what he was saying is A-OK with you. Got it. Squinch Jul 2014 #375

er ah, did I say that? hfojvt Jul 2014 #387

But he did put LOL at the end so it's OK..... Guy Whitey Corngood Jul 2014 #32

That is way, way beyond the pale. The sender should be shown the door. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #44

Many of us are aware that this type of hatred and violence..... NCTraveler Jul 2014 #56

yes. just under the surface. they need to be exposed like AAO. cali Jul 2014 #111

this should be an op. n/t cali Jul 2014 #342

Yes, yes, yes. MerryBlooms Jul 2014 #374

This message was self-deleted by its author Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #57

why does it need to stay hidden ? if a right winger send a message attacking someone for liberal JI7 Jul 2014 #62

It needs to stay private until the admins deal with it Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #71

the post was openly threatening with Rape , this isn't about people arguing over JI7 Jul 2014 #75

I thought about that, but AAO was so clear in his words and intent and because cali Jul 2014 #119

"crucifixion?" Oh fer fucks sake, do you realize how idiotic you sound geek tragedy Jul 2014 #140

I don't think he does. Unfortunately. n/t nomorenomore08 Jul 2014 #285

And what is it you see happening here that constitutes "mob mentality?" Squinch Jul 2014 #240

Wrong Bobbie Jo Jul 2014 #255

Exactly. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #286

Please tell us what forum you have administered for 25 years DURHAM D Jul 2014 #260

+ 1. That is like saying JimDandy Jul 2014 #420

Sorry, that sort of post deserves a mob. Sheldon Cooper Jul 2014 #63

Exactly Bobbie Jo Jul 2014 #198

wait a minute, damnit! You are essentially "blaming the victim" and insulting CTyankee Jul 2014 #72

Don't even try that Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #73

when you use terms like "mob mentality" and "crucifixion" it certainly is that JI7 Jul 2014 #79

i am so damn tired of standing up against ugly and being defined as "mob". why the hell arent these seabeyond Jul 2014 #217

why even leap to using the term "mob mentality" unless you meant a mob mentality? CTyankee Jul 2014 #93

I agree Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #101

Usually, that is the case but I see something extreme here. CTyankee Jul 2014 #123

"Before it becomes something like this." Something like WHAT? People objecting to Squinch Jul 2014 #250

"Righteous rage"???? thucythucy Jul 2014 #368

uh, yeah. you were. you may not have meant to, but your language was absolutely cali Jul 2014 #124

exactly. and we saw it last week from the same posters dealing with quinnox and his long history of seabeyond Jul 2014 #224

The resolution is that the sender will be banned. Permanently. CBGLuthier Jul 2014 #80

And should damn well be banned. Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #82

I disagree, Cali did the right thing nt steve2470 Jul 2014 #131

way to blame the victim and try to protect the perp. geek tragedy Jul 2014 #139

I sure do. Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #305

Skinner and EarlG did not complain--only you did. geek tragedy Jul 2014 #311

Thanks Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #313

what's the site you run or ran? why so hesitant to tell us? cali Jul 2014 #315

Got it Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #322

No you don't get it. YOU are the one touting their credentials. YOU opened yourself up cali Jul 2014 #343

if your daughters are on line and any man talked to them this way, i hope every single person on seabeyond Jul 2014 #317

And I am in no way disagreeing that what was said to Cali was abhorrant and banworthy Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #320

you used mob. last week mob was used with quinnox sexist trolling. it is people STANDING UP to the seabeyond Jul 2014 #328

If that poster hadn't been so supported in their sexism in the thread referenced kcr Jul 2014 #144

If users believe that admin will take swift and appropriate action, then of course reporting it Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #163

I do. But because I believe this whole thing- starting with the thread about "women scorned" cali Jul 2014 #347

I respect the admins too but there is a deficiency in the moderation system here Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #361

I don't know what the answers are, but MerryBlooms Jul 2014 #385

FWIW Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #325

is AAO banned yet? Scout Jul 2014 #59

This guy referred to himself as an ally? redqueen Jul 2014 #70

Yes, the self-deleted thread is linked in my op. cali Jul 2014 #74

Thanks, just saw it. redqueen Jul 2014 #86

in this post.... Scout Jul 2014 #77

"I'm your fucking ally! Don't you #%!@$ get it??!!" Holy shit what a flame out. nt Guy Whitey Corngood Jul 2014 #81

Like playing the "I'm not homophobic..." card while spewing the most vile slurs. nomorenomore08 Jul 2014 #291

as VN did, while doing is rape porn scenario for me. as RC did. as Quinnox did. we are seabeyond Jul 2014 #228

Not even flagged - BUT I just served on a jury that might help achieve that. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #115

yes. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #184

fucking coward. that is what he is a fucking .... coward. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #225

be careful... someone will send this to jury PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #292

but he was meaner.... lol. ah ha. i know. this is the ugly that makes me stand up and shout seabeyond Jul 2014 #299

oh, I know. I know... PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #302

lol, you called that right. noamnety Jul 2014 #423

Way over every line imaginable. bluesbassman Jul 2014 #65

Good that "it" has been exposed, another Fukushima and Ukraine crackpot will be gone snooper2 Jul 2014 #66

"I imagine it actually is a male" cyberswede Jul 2014 #88

I prefer to use "it" after the asshole remarks to cali, doesn't deserve she/he snooper2 Jul 2014 #107

AAO needs to go RainDog Jul 2014 #68

It didn't really scare me. I'm not easily frightened, but it did shock me cali Jul 2014 #78

when I got the random email RainDog Jul 2014 #303

Hopefully they'll be shown the door and be left to wallow in their own ball sweat. nt Guy Whitey Corngood Jul 2014 #89

ummm. sorta misses the point RainDog Jul 2014 #301

Absolutely vile. MerryBlooms Jul 2014 #76

I debated posting it. In fact, first I started to contact admin but then, for the reason cali Jul 2014 #84

cali we don't seem to see eye to eye on anything. With that said William769 Jul 2014 #83

thnak you. cali Jul 2014 #129

I echo William's comments. I'm shocked by how awful those comments are. stevenleser Jul 2014 #143

that's kind of you steve, but I can't accept an apology from you cali Jul 2014 #196

Holy shit! I'm sorry that happened to you..... Little Star Jul 2014 #85

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #87

You should probably read the whole thread, instead of just the thread title. cyberswede Jul 2014 #92

WTF? Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #94

can you explain what this post is supposed to mean ? JI7 Jul 2014 #98

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #108

This isn't a topic for jokes...go read the OP, for pete's sake. nt cyberswede Jul 2014 #116

the OP had enough in it to judge in itself JI7 Jul 2014 #120

sometimes when I don't know what is going on I just fall back to listening to this guy snooper2 Jul 2014 #126

Are you 12? Squinch Jul 2014 #246

galileo? nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #252

hmmmm.... Squinch Jul 2014 #258

His ghost is over at Discussionist... cyberswede Jul 2014 #263

And probably this one is scampering over there to play with his friends right now. Ew. Squinch Jul 2014 #271

I hope Skinner an EarG have enough nappies for that playpen. cyberswede Jul 2014 #275

Ain't enough nappies in the world for THAT playpen. Squinch Jul 2014 #280

ahhhhh, ya. godlike and all. ah ha. little boys, they do like to play. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #273

Just wtf is this? lonestarnot Jul 2014 #90

I've been very clear about my gender and it's on my profile page. cali Jul 2014 #95

Ok I don't see the greatest, but I think you revealed and now this lonestarnot Jul 2014 #105

Just an observation Kelvin Mace Jul 2014 #99

hyper feminist, feminazi, radfems etc , it's all the same shit and used for the same purpose JI7 Jul 2014 #106

And those types need to be banned Kelvin Mace Jul 2014 #112

as they claim to be the "real" feminist. if not so sick, it would be funny. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #235

Well put. Thanks for pointing that out. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #136

exactly, Kevin- and I said I took exception to it. cali Jul 2014 #142

The language he used in the email makes it very plain Kelvin Mace Jul 2014 #222

AAO should be banned for that nt steve2470 Jul 2014 #102

I'd like to think I'm one of the "thicker skinned" people on the DU hughee99 Jul 2014 #103

Their is hyperbole, Kelvin Mace Jul 2014 #226

Holy SHIT. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #104

I am ashamed and sorry that this was said awake Jul 2014 #110

You have nothing to be ashamed for re that poster cali Jul 2014 #151

"It does not help to dissolve sexism by painting all men with the same brush" redqueen Jul 2014 #178

I wanted to make it clear that the vile post does not represent all men's viewpoint awake Jul 2014 #211

notice the number of people who think this should remain a private matter JI7 Jul 2014 #113

bullshit it should remain private! i agree with you and cali... Scout Jul 2014 #122

Thank you for posting this. I hope he is ppred for such behavior. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #121

Agreed. nt littlemissmartypants Jul 2014 #141

he is gone. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #147

holy shit Kali Jul 2014 #125

awfully similar. they seem to have the same rape porn theme going on. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #239

sadly, that's hardly a unique thing. nt geek tragedy Jul 2014 #242

it is just how too many men see women and girls today. then wonder how we feel the hate and ugly seabeyond Jul 2014 #244

I find the pushback you are getting from some for posting this m-lekktor Jul 2014 #128

I wonder about that too cali Jul 2014 #201

I am glad you posted this. Raine1967 Jul 2014 #130

people at DU can't say they haven't been warned about this geek tragedy Jul 2014 #132

Wow ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2014 #134

It doesn't seem at all out of character judging from his posts here at DU. cali Jul 2014 #204

He should be banned ASAP... one_voice Jul 2014 #135

He just was PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #153

excellent! one_voice Jul 2014 #356

I'm glad. and a little relieved. cali Jul 2014 #162

No one should be... one_voice Jul 2014 #358

I am glad you are shining a light on this. LexVegas Jul 2014 #145

The jury on the original OP references was correct in their assessment. Gore1FL Jul 2014 #146

no. it was not. It has been used to belittle and denigrate women broadly for a long time cali Jul 2014 #175

"Uncalled for"... redqueen Jul 2014 #218

Only if you want it to. Gore1FL Jul 2014 #413

So does your over-reaction Gore1FL Jul 2014 #412

Really? "Uncalled for"? PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #203

Yes, I think AAO sending a sexually graphic and abusive message to Cali is uncalled for. n/t Gore1FL Jul 2014 #410

He's on time-out now - Correction - *BANNED*. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #150

THANK YOU 7 Jurors who voted to hide uppityperson Jul 2014 #245

What a nasty thing to say! shanti Jul 2014 #152

Just checked and he has been ppr'd. Skidmore Jul 2014 #155

Its all my fault for posting the jury results darkangel218 Jul 2014 #157

It's YOUR fault that fucking pig sent that message to cali? BULLSHIT PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #161

I was refering to the other thread. nt darkangel218 Jul 2014 #172

no, it's not. cali Jul 2014 #181

Thanks. Im sorry you had to deal with that jerk. Glad hes gone. darkangel218 Jul 2014 #308

it's NOT your fault JI7 Jul 2014 #202

sorry no Kali Jul 2014 #220

+1 cyberswede Jul 2014 #233

You think i seek attention?? darkangel218 Jul 2014 #309

I'm convinced you seek attention. cyberswede Jul 2014 #319

I emailed the admins. darkangel218 Jul 2014 #326

emailed the admins? Kali Jul 2014 #416

you bad. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #427

Didnt alert on you. darkangel218 Jul 2014 #434

alerts fail, e-mails don't get replies Kali Jul 2014 #436

You know what the joke is? your unprovoked attacks and your overall behaviour darkangel218 Jul 2014 #437

shaking head. ya know, really? +1. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #241

Yah. Make something up , why not. darkangel218 Jul 2014 #312

Why are you sorry? Do you wish that person were still here? PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #329

If i hadnt posted the jury results, maybe all this wouldnt have happened! darkangel218 Jul 2014 #337

I wasn't sure, that's why I asked. Thanks for clarifying. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #341

I dont need any attention thread. darkangel218 Jul 2014 #307

This message was self-deleted by its author Quantess Jul 2014 #159

Our Community Standards here at DU (a reminder) awake Jul 2014 #160

should be immediately tos'ed. i had that also, very similar by another man claiming to be a feminist seabeyond Jul 2014 #164

Yes, he has been banned PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #166

thank you peace, i was trying to find him to check the profile. vile, disgusting man. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #176

AAO is banned CBGLuthier Jul 2014 #165

Well done, Mirt! BainsBane Jul 2014 #170

It was a 7 to 0 result on the jury o we were able to act. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #173

Yay! That was my alert! PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #183

Great alert. what he did was unacceptable. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #187

Totally. I am shocked, and pleasantly surprised at the 7-0 it got. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #192

Mirt was happy to act. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #194

I am glad my hide vote in that jury helped MIRT to be able to act! Spazito Jul 2014 #206

Mirt was happy to act. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #208

I have no doubt of that, MIRT does stellar work, imo n/t Spazito Jul 2014 #216

Thank you so much. It is an interesting experience. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #223

Good decision by MIRT ! steve2470 Jul 2014 #179

+1 progressoid Jul 2014 #188

Good move, MIRT Bobbie Jo Jul 2014 #227

MIRT is limited in its available actions, so this took a bit of time. MineralMan Jul 2014 #232

How was MIRT able to ban? Capt. Obvious Jul 2014 #353

That is awful BainsBane Jul 2014 #167

Thats horrible and shocking. How disrepectful SummerSnow Jul 2014 #168

feminazi, hyperfeminists, militant feminists are never the words allies use. La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2014 #171

absolutely true. cali Jul 2014 #191

I agree with the calls for banning AAO. Maedhros Jul 2014 #193

Wow, cali, that is absolutely vile! City Lights Jul 2014 #197

Sorry you had to go through that! herding cats Jul 2014 #215

I'm deeply upset that this happened to you... Out of Time Man Jul 2014 #219

thanks for the support. cali Jul 2014 #229

Silent support here, too The Green Manalishi Jul 2014 #262

I think pizza is in order with a DUMail like that PowerToThePeople Jul 2014 #251

People who look down at discussions about language BainsBane Jul 2014 #256

yes. true that. good point. yup. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #261

Very sorry you were on the receiving end of this blatant sexist misogynistic boston bean Jul 2014 #265

Whoever here thinks, that this should have been handled in private, Call Me Wesley Jul 2014 #267

Ugh. Sorry you had to deal with that. Good for MIRT! LeftishBrit Jul 2014 #269

This is about the worse thing I've ever seen on DU. Absolutely disgusting The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2014 #270

Sounds like someone who watches championship bowling. Spitfire of ATJ Jul 2014 #278

really? that's what this inspires you to comment? cali Jul 2014 #281

Yup. A real troglodyte. Spitfire of ATJ Jul 2014 #287

How terrible LittleBlue Jul 2014 #293

I am mortified, I am sickened, I am disgusted ... but .... etherealtruth Jul 2014 #300

+1 BainsBane Jul 2014 #366

Thank you for bringing this to light gwheezie Jul 2014 #306

Cali, I'm sorry you were subjected to that verbal assault. lovemydog Jul 2014 #324

Oh my. onecaliberal Jul 2014 #336

{:o( whttevrr Jul 2014 #339

Can we discuss what I feel is a double standard.... Quantess Jul 2014 #344

huh? I fail to see the double standard you are pointing out. cali Jul 2014 #360

What happened to you is unacceptable and those who insist that myrna minx Jul 2014 #348

WTF? MrScorpio Jul 2014 #350

As they say, "sunshine is the best disinfectant".... I'm very glad you exposed this hateful behavior hlthe2b Jul 2014 #357

Wow, cali, that was just vile. ladyVet Jul 2014 #359

I'm reminded of the phrase... Zenlitened Jul 2014 #363

A little late to the thread, but... tammywammy Jul 2014 #364

Cali, I'm sorry you were subjected to such a disgusting attack. smirkymonkey Jul 2014 #365

Vile BeyondGeography Jul 2014 #367

Fuck, I am lost. Somebody help me understand please. BootinUp Jul 2014 #370

why are you lost? the op explains it in detail. cali Jul 2014 #376

Obviously, any messages like that are totally unacceptable BootinUp Jul 2014 #378

that's explained in the op. click on the link to the thread posted originally by cali Jul 2014 #381

I will. BootinUp Jul 2014 #383

That is ATROCIOUS. Glad to see that member banned for it too. Jamastiene Jul 2014 #373

Well, they are still going to think it. Puzzledtraveller Jul 2014 #393

you never quite go over the line but you never quite support. kinda like that? seabeyond Jul 2014 #400

Yeah, and the KKK and other racists probably still "think" ugly whathehell Jul 2014 #430

Cali, I want to thank you so much for posting this OP. thucythucy Jul 2014 #397

This is unfortunately common throughout the internet. sufrommich Jul 2014 #398

Oh yeah, that's ugly...That deep level of hate is beyond "sexist"..It's like sexual racism. whathehell Jul 2014 #406

Such an ugly PM Generic Other Jul 2014 #411

I'm glad to see him banned. LWolf Jul 2014 #414

Not all men do this... gort Jul 2014 #415

I'm late to the thread, since I was posting from my phone before. Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #417

Wow, what nasty and vile comments. Exceptionally violent and abusive. WCLinolVir Jul 2014 #418

Wow that's horrible. Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #429

I'm so sorry. Lefta Dissenter Jul 2014 #431

I have become a sporadic lurker here skygazer Jul 2014 #432

Sorry you were subjected to this, cali. It was good to see that MIRT acted so quickly. R B Garr Jul 2014 #435