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deutsey

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190. Agree 100%

Fri Apr 6, 2012, 02:55 PM

Apr 2012

I know that being white, male, and straight have helped open doors for me, but I also know that coming from a very poor, working-class background has imposed quite a few limitations as well.

I was the first in my family to go to college and, especially during my undergraduate years, I was a huge fish out of water. It didn't help that I went to college during the Reagan years, as well.

This has spilled over into my career. The most blatant example was when I went on an interview for a job at a DC think tank, one with a progressive bent to it. The moment the person who was going to interview me saw me, I knew by how she looked at me when we first met that I wasn't going to get the job. I was dressed nicely, but I didn't have the proper "inside-the-beltway" professional attire that would have sent the right signals to her, or whatever. We went through an interview, but I felt she wasn't even listening to me and was just going through the motions.

I don't think I even heard from her again, not even a rejection letter, even though I followed up.

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Yawn Elric Mar 2012 #1

Sleepy? drm604 Mar 2012 #2

Just needs some time to get up to speed.... daleanime Mar 2012 #6

Yes. With the fish. 2ndAmForComputers Apr 2012 #178

What a well reasoned response. Thanks for participating el_bryanto Mar 2012 #5

Simple Elric Mar 2012 #9

Well I'm a white male and I can tell you that White Male privilege exists. el_bryanto Mar 2012 #13

+1 ellisonz Mar 2012 #26

Of course you wouldn't. That's kind of the whole point. Hugabear Mar 2012 #34

Exactly. Well said. Zorra Mar 2012 #36

Well said! Spazito Apr 2012 #140

We often interpret a thing to better validate our own biases and prejudices. LanternWaste Mar 2012 #41

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Being white is not a privilege siligut Mar 2012 #73

Exactly! n/t 1StrongBlackMan Mar 2012 #79

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Clear. Concise. Succinct. Number23 Apr 2012 #173

Perhaps you should consider ... 1StrongBlackMan Mar 2012 #78

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Then you haven't spent a minute BlueToTheBone Mar 2012 #123

You know what you can do? Fawke Em Apr 2012 #181

Wow, pulling out the old socks? Rex Apr 2012 #194

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+1. Yes, it does. polly7 Mar 2012 #119

Really? News to me. Darth_Kitten Apr 2012 #182

Ofc Dokkie Apr 2012 #199

Yes loyalsister Apr 2012 #196

My dog said he heard someone whistling over here. Iggo Mar 2012 #59

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Try? They make us look like morans. Rex Mar 2012 #57

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A certain type of white men have it great. hifiguy Mar 2012 #7

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At the really high-flying levels it's a class thing hifiguy Mar 2012 #15

I just want to make sure CLASS is not mentioned here. *Totally* irrelevant! nt Romulox Mar 2012 #8

Hmmmm. So you don't want us to talk about class? I wonder why not? n/t el_bryanto Mar 2012 #10

I suspect Romulox was being hifiguy Mar 2012 #11

Indeed. As this thread begins to reveal, we don't even seem to have the vocabulary Romulox Mar 2012 #21

What vocabulary would we need? That we currently lack? el_bryanto Mar 2012 #67

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Chris Rock would disagree Number23 Apr 2012 #174

Im a big fan. But does he really think that or is it part of the act? stevenleser Apr 2012 #175

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We're talking past each other... stevenleser Apr 2012 #189

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Thank you, much. Number23 Apr 2012 #197

I knew this stuff wouldn't be obvious to everyone. redqueen Apr 2012 #176

Yep. It is bad. Welcome to my world Number23 Apr 2012 #180

Sheeeeit... I've had this crap going on in my own family my whole life. redqueen Apr 2012 #186

Short answer to your question is no. Romulox Mar 2012 #118

I'm from a working/lower class background. I received my A.B. from a "Public Ivy." amandabeech Apr 2012 #168

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Believe me, I hear you. amandabeech Apr 2012 #191

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Not as easy as laughing at your response. -..__... Mar 2012 #20

You're right - that is pretty easy. n/t el_bryanto Mar 2012 #63

I imagine that a wee bit of reflection on the editorial in question LanternWaste Mar 2012 #42

Yeah, I'm a white male too.. Upton Mar 2012 #69

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+1! RufusTFirefly Mar 2012 #22

i am sad to say, a lot of us women are helping these men out. letting them off the hook and feeling seabeyond Mar 2012 #28

Exactly right Aerows Mar 2012 #45

"by almost any metric... a pretty sweet deal to start out life as a white male" lumberjack_jeff Mar 2012 #23

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It's more complicated than that... MellowDem Mar 2012 #60

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I think privilege depends on a ton of factors... MellowDem Mar 2012 #72

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It is a self-reinforcing cycle. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2012 #165

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I would think it impossible to reconcile these two views: lumberjack_jeff Apr 2012 #185

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Because poor white men do have it tough. jeff47 Apr 2012 #146

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I'm guessing that the author of ths piece knows a lot of successful white guys Nye Bevan Mar 2012 #31

It's "blame the white guys tourettes". lumberjack_jeff Mar 2012 #32

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Bingo Aerows Mar 2012 #52

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I got a $271 speeding ticket the other day.. Upton Mar 2012 #49

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That is the point... ellisonz Mar 2012 #81

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You really don't get it... ellisonz Mar 2012 #93

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Half of white men working full-time in 2007 made less than $50K. Are you saying that if they just HiPointDem Apr 2012 #143

Don't think I said that at all .... but nice try. JoePhilly Apr 2012 #155

Thanks for the anecdotes, but the fact is that half of white men make less than $50K, and in the HiPointDem Apr 2012 #156

And? JoePhilly Apr 2012 #157

Some white men apparently disagree, and seem to believe that they are an oppressed Zorra Mar 2012 #75

I suspect the author has never been married slackmaster Mar 2012 #80

"Stoop to conquer" is still stooping nt Taverner Mar 2012 #87

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DAYUM! That's a keeper!!! Taverner Mar 2012 #86

As a white male... MellowDem Mar 2012 #89

As someone who is also a white male, I think its spot on Taverner Mar 2012 #92

Saying that being a white male... MellowDem Mar 2012 #94

Sure, white male privege doesn't work EVERY time, but it works enough to make a difference Taverner Mar 2012 #95

No doubt... MellowDem Mar 2012 #96

Um, you're comparing apples to oranges Taverner Mar 2012 #98

Not at all... MellowDem Mar 2012 #122

Seems more accurate to say that Straight, White, Christian, Upperclass Males rule. stevenleser Mar 2012 #97

Nope - even poor, undereducated whites get privleges minorities don't Taverner Mar 2012 #99

I disagree. stevenleser Mar 2012 #101

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Yes I am. You are aware that a poor person cannot even afford a taxi, right? nt stevenleser Mar 2012 #109

Doesn't matter Taverner Mar 2012 #110

I'm not white. nt stevenleser Mar 2012 #111

You are correct sir. hifiguy Mar 2012 #104

My dad was a white Medical doctor ErikJ Mar 2012 #107

Not in the area of wealth He loved Big Brother Apr 2012 #137

Thanks for posting that. nt redqueen Mar 2012 #124

Thanks for that vid. He loved Big Brother Apr 2012 #136

But White men have highest suicide rate ErikJ Mar 2012 #102

Fuck Herman Cain. n/t ellisonz Mar 2012 #114

Try sellin' this shit to white men in most parts of Appalachia* didact Mar 2012 #125

lol At "men's rights" groups. What a load of crap. chrisa Mar 2012 #126

I hope you saw the recent SPLC reports on those groups. redqueen Mar 2012 #127

I'll just imagine. I think I already know. chrisa Mar 2012 #129

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This is exactly what drives white working-class men away from the Democratic party eek MD Mar 2012 #132

Only certain types of white men. I wonder what drives this kind of reaction. redqueen Mar 2012 #133

There are many kinds of privilege. A white middle class woman about equals a poor white man stevenleser Mar 2012 #134

It's not about "getting it".... eek MD Mar 2012 #135

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Fuck yes. Union Scribe Apr 2012 #159

BS to your second paragraph treestar Apr 2012 #183

Of course it's not about shame or guilt redqueen Apr 2012 #187

Which types of men are those? HiPointDem Apr 2012 #150

The ones who don't understand the concept of privilege, redqueen Apr 2012 #153

Circular. HiPointDem Apr 2012 #154

"I wonder what drives this kind of reaction" Union Scribe Apr 2012 #158

Most who fought for worker's rights were white men Kaleva Apr 2012 #142

"He's a white male with hair, Lemon. The sky's the limit." Shrek Apr 2012 #160

Black men dominate the NBA dmallind Apr 2012 #163

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Not only white, but witty, intelligent, dashingly handsome & not bald. Warren DeMontague Apr 2012 #169

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shhhh...nt Skip Intro Apr 2012 #172

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