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smirkymonkey

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12. Exactly.

Sun Jul 20, 2014, 02:26 PM

Jul 2014

And nowhere is that made more clearly than in the part of the video where she asks him if he would call her out if she was walking down the street with a man and he said something to the effect of "No, because I wouldn't want to show him any disrespect". So he realizes it's disrespectful, he just doesn't care if the person he is disrespecting is female. Pretty disgusting.

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This Woman Has Been Confronting Her Catcallers � And Secretly Filming Their Reactions [View all] Agschmid Jul 2014 OP

This message was self-deleted by its author lostincalifornia Jul 2014 #1

+1 million Louisiana1976 Jul 2014 #44

Too much Minnesota Nice? betsuni Jul 2014 #68

Minnesota Nice isn't actually nice IronLionZion Jul 2014 #78

Well, that explains my Midwestern relatives betsuni Jul 2014 #80

I would have said she should have slapped him. Jamastiene Jul 2014 #152

exactly Liberal_in_LA Jul 2014 #165

Good for her PowerToThePeople Jul 2014 #2

Good for her ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #3

Not really challenging at all. Agschmid Jul 2014 #5

I have seen thousands of beautiful women in my life.. awoke_in_2003 Jul 2014 #59

I think the best punishment for this man is to show this video Baitball Blogger Jul 2014 #4

I never understood why these idiots think they are going to get anywhere with this kind of behavior. Kali Jul 2014 #6

It's not about getting dates. It's about exercising and reinforcing dominance. redqueen Jul 2014 #7

maybe, but Kali Jul 2014 #9

And that is part of it. redqueen Jul 2014 #10

exactly....n/t prairierose Jul 2014 #13

True. They should check their privilege. Louisiana1976 Jul 2014 #45

for that brief moment, they claim ownership. why they do it and feel empowered. why they do not do seabeyond Jul 2014 #82

Some women apparently don't mind being treated with contempt and disrespect. redqueen Jul 2014 #86

lol. ya. just read that one. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #91

Exactly. smirkymonkey Jul 2014 #12

yeppers. BlancheSplanchnik Jul 2014 #17

because if he show disrespect to the man... awoke_in_2003 Jul 2014 #61

That's funny, because my wife was called out many times when we were walking together NickB79 Jul 2014 #130

Sorry that happened to you and your wife. smirkymonkey Jul 2014 #150

+1000. nt awoke_in_2003 Jul 2014 #60

+2000 yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #144

I used to know a guy who had one pick-up line. Archae Jul 2014 #16

Maybe concreteblue Jul 2014 #18

Exactly Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #32

One afternoon many years ago, as I was walking to the store in a small tblue37 Jul 2014 #22

It's not about "getting somewhere." It's about establishing dominance. Brickbat Jul 2014 #39

Well, yes - Ms. Toad Jul 2014 #75

"Why?" Because it works. "Has there ever been a woman...?" Yes. ieoeja Jul 2014 #107

They don't think they're getting anywhere with the woman. Iggo Jul 2014 #127

K&R nt stevenleser Jul 2014 #8

Unreal... trumad Jul 2014 #11

yes, it is... awoke_in_2003 Jul 2014 #62

That's the most accurate post on this thread! llmart Jul 2014 #168

K & R L0oniX Jul 2014 #14

Every Day That I Go Out in Public Leith Jul 2014 #15

Touching is always WAYYYYY out of line, and colorado_ufo Jul 2014 #19

"The day will come when these will end, even if you take really good care of yourself." Kali Jul 2014 #25

Wtf, mate? Agschmid Jul 2014 #30

Ew. ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #98

I feel the same way PasadenaTrudy Jul 2014 #27

Me, too. Louisiana1976 Jul 2014 #46

Here are comments from 2 different men that pretty much embody an tblue37 Jul 2014 #20

I wonder how men would feel if women made catcalls and unwanted advances towards them. Louisiana1976 Jul 2014 #47

they'd be fine with it, as long as she passed their test of "hitability" Skittles Jul 2014 #50

Sometimes when I'm with my sister betsuni Jul 2014 #67

That was on an episode of sex and the city IronLionZion Jul 2014 #81

Honest answer from a male who welcomes attention from women: IronLionZion Jul 2014 #89

As long as they're young and cute. So typical. redqueen Jul 2014 #92

It is typically based on attraction IronLionZion Jul 2014 #93

The thing is, you're ignoring reality redqueen Jul 2014 #95

OK IronLionZion Jul 2014 #100

It isn't polite. Or if it ever is, it is a fraction of a fraction of a percent of the time. redqueen Jul 2014 #104

unless heaven05 Jul 2014 #21

im the same way -i say hi and that's it. but im sure i wont be long untill people leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #24

devil's advocate here - if someone tells you how pretty you are to them leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #23

More disrespect for women from you. No surprise. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #26

here's a card for you leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #31

Yes. Just like a woman can get an abortion geek tragedy Jul 2014 #40

I don't really see anything wrong with that... Agschmid Jul 2014 #42

Certain persons in this thread have explicitly geek tragedy Jul 2014 #43

as you know i dont agree it's my baby too but that's different thread. why are you trying to start leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #72

Legally you are absolutely wrong geek tragedy Jul 2014 #77

Why bring it up here? Because it is illustrative, that's why. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #87

well it's not polite to hijack a thread and im not gonna play. that is how i feel about it and leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #97

it is not polite to give unsolicited opinions about strangers on the street either, but not only do seabeyond Jul 2014 #99

the deal with and move on was directed to the any poster who didnt like m view on the thread leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #102

rating an unknown womans attractiveness and letting her know she passes muster is neither innocuous seabeyond Jul 2014 #106

nope, we dont live on our own little islands and because of that we pass people all the time leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #113

"and that woman MUST accept.? did i say that?" not only have you said it each post, you reiterate it seabeyond Jul 2014 #124

My recommendation is to ignore this DUer. Dawgs Jul 2014 #133

ROFL Scout Jul 2014 #139

Ha. Thanks for the concern, but I'm fine. Dawgs Jul 2014 #143

if you say so Scout Jul 2014 #145

So even if she wants an abortion, you should be able to *force her* to not get one? nomorenomore08 Jul 2014 #149

as in it's my baby too leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #153

On an emotional level, I understand that. But in practical terms, you can't legally force her nomorenomore08 Jul 2014 #166

You don't get it, do you. Quantess Jul 2014 #29

no, i get it catcalls and vulgar comments are unacceptable, leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #34

So, you are walking down the street and you have a presentation you have to give and you are going Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #65

i know people have stuff going on that doesnt include what anyone thinks about them leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #71

Would you ever think to make the same comment to a man walking down the stree you had never met? Ms. Toad Jul 2014 #76

"Would you ever think to make the same comment to a man walking down the street you had never met?" redqueen Jul 2014 #105

Bingo. Ineeda Jul 2014 #110

why are you so insistent on derailing this thread over your straw man? CreekDog Jul 2014 #69

Um, I'm not going to "thank" you for rating my looks. noamnety Jul 2014 #83

Someone here said that thanking the harasser is a sign of high self esteem and empowerment. redqueen Jul 2014 #88

The only thing I can think of that would be even more empowering noamnety Jul 2014 #94

Yep. They simply refuse to listen. redqueen Jul 2014 #96

You really don't see why a total stranger coming up to a woman to tell her "You're pretty" catbyte Jul 2014 #108

well im not a woman but i have been complimented by them and it's never creeped me out leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #115

That's probably because you never had to wonder if a sexual assault might be coming catbyte Jul 2014 #116

youre correct but in what im talking about there wouldnt be any abuse leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #118

There's no bright line between "rude" and "polite" when it comes to unwanted attention. nomorenomore08 Jul 2014 #148

A polite smile and a little nod as you pass is sufficient. proReality Jul 2014 #33

agreed leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #35

Because that isn't what happens. Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #37

youre correct but that isnt what i saw on the video. i can go watch it again but what leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #73

Well, then you only watched the first 5 seconds. Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #125

That's not what street harassment is. Brickbat Jul 2014 #41

Please. The men that do this aren't just giving a nice compliment. NYC Liberal Jul 2014 #52

Because you have no right to grab attention away from introspective dialogue. Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #57

Because it requires a greater Harmony Blue Jul 2014 #64

you are missing what so many refuse to recognize. it is said bluntly, clearly and you refuse, seabeyond Jul 2014 #84

I don't think Devil's Advocacy responds to a premise not presented in the original argument LanternWaste Jul 2014 #122

cuz i don't give a shit what they think ... why should i thank them? n/t Scout Jul 2014 #140

it's polite that's what civilized societies do or dont say anything at all leftyohiolib Jul 2014 #141

"dont [sic] say anything at all" Scout Jul 2014 #142

It's pathetic that this doesn't have triple digit recs and twice as many views. Soylent Brice Jul 2014 #28

If I ever did something like that, I'd try to call the funeral director 'cause I know... BlueJazz Jul 2014 #36

I have said irisblue Jul 2014 #38

Excellent post. K&R Louisiana1976 Jul 2014 #48

I think a couple of squirts of pepper spray PumpkinAle Jul 2014 #49

I have way more important things to worry about than....... WillowTree Jul 2014 #51

What if you had to deal with catcalls virtually every other day? Uncle Joe Jul 2014 #54

Not one bit. WillowTree Jul 2014 #55

I imagine there are some women that don't get upset about breaking a nail? n/t Uncle Joe Jul 2014 #58

Jesus!! It was a joke. Give the outrage a rest why doncha. WillowTree Jul 2014 #146

I'm not outraged. I didn't know you were joking. I was just checking to see if you could in any way Uncle Joe Jul 2014 #151

I used to get catcalls, gross noises, etc. literally every single day Quantess Jul 2014 #74

Really. I was a very attractive young woman. I was also a writer and a musician. A lot of my Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #66

"Unsolicited compliment" Sparkly Jul 2014 #85

Not only is it infuriating, it's also scary & creepy. catbyte Jul 2014 #114

She went off on someone who said, almost under his breath....... WillowTree Jul 2014 #147

IKR? You can't even objectify women anymore without some uppity feminist type making you redqueen Jul 2014 #160

+1. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #161

!! Sheldon Cooper Jul 2014 #164

It's not difficult at all when we practice civility and engage in being polite towards others. LanternWaste Jul 2014 #162

some women need that cat call to recognize their worth as a human being. many women do not. seabeyond Jul 2014 #90

Kicked and recommended Uncle Joe Jul 2014 #53

No problem! Agschmid Jul 2014 #56

K&R... awoke_in_2003 Jul 2014 #63

Well said. Agschmid Jul 2014 #70

Exactly. klook Jul 2014 #132

I cannot kick this thread high enough or recommend it enough. Heidi Jul 2014 #79

Its eye opening sometimes... Agschmid Jul 2014 #134

I've seen and experienced a LOT of men who talk to women with disrespect they would NEVER dare show DesertDiamond Jul 2014 #101

K&R myrna minx Jul 2014 #103

Hmm davidthegnome Jul 2014 #109

do not ever do it at work. she is stuck there with you. you make her uncomfortable with your seabeyond Jul 2014 #112

What's your purpose? IronLionZion Jul 2014 #117

That would be the intent, yes. davidthegnome Jul 2014 #126

In that case, stick with online IronLionZion Jul 2014 #138

My boyfriend PasadenaTrudy Jul 2014 #169

I'll second sea's opinion. redqueen Jul 2014 #119

Why do you have to tell them that? treestar Jul 2014 #167

Good for her! JDPriestly Jul 2014 #111

This x 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 redqueen Jul 2014 #121

Precisely! I had written much more about the harassment of my two teenaged daughters JDPriestly Jul 2014 #128

I hear you about the stories. I have two teen girls myself. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #135

A Personal Story Burma Jones Jul 2014 #120

Yes, you get it! redqueen Jul 2014 #123

Good for her! Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #129

I'll tell you what's really tacky and sad...... llmart Jul 2014 #170

Kicking! arcane1 Jul 2014 #131

KNR. DirkGently Jul 2014 #136

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #137

The amazing thing is how much this actually works for some guys. cbdo2007 Jul 2014 #154

so, offending 50 women to get one fuck. who the fuck cares? really. who cares? they still offend seabeyond Jul 2014 #155

I agree with you, not sure why you're so worked up. cbdo2007 Jul 2014 #156

no more worked up than you or anyone else. why project an emotion you are totally clueless seabeyond Jul 2014 #157

Yeah, I'm trying to have a discussion about this subject and why it happens... cbdo2007 Jul 2014 #158

i am yelling? ya,, i get the "irrational" was simply passive aggressive to get in a jab. seabeyond Jul 2014 #159

Why are you portraying seabeyond as upset and irrational? Sheldon Cooper Jul 2014 #163