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In reply to the discussion: Man sends wife spreadsheet detailing the times she denied him sex for the last month [View all]BainsBane
(57,268 posts)168. It's not that difficult
In someone wants their partner to participate in sex more often, they need only find a way to make sex enjoyable and satisfying for their partner. When someone thinks turning up 20 minutes early is evidence there was plenty of time for sex, that explains to me quite clearly why his wife isn't interested. I don't know why anyone would want to have sex with someone who thinks 20 minutes is plenty of time. I would appear that his entire focus is himself. Doing so is certain to make one a bad lover.
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Man sends wife spreadsheet detailing the times she denied him sex for the last month [View all]
davidn3600
Jul 2014
OP
oh no. it belongs right here. Actually, it belongs on reddit but, you know ...
Tuesday Afternoon
Jul 2014
#40
I have a feeling this marriage is soon to be over. I can already see many other issues involved.
yeoman6987
Jul 2014
#169
That's what I was thinking; maybe that explains the REAL source of his problem?
InAbLuEsTaTe
Jul 2014
#256
How do you know any of that about him? Do you know him personally or are you just
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#144
At 26 years old my libido was completely killed. It's still dead. I'm 34. Until I get a problem fixe
MillennialDem
Jul 2014
#327
Back in the day a friend of mine confided almost tearfully she thought she was becoming "frigid"
Hekate
Jul 2014
#258
You could say the same for her, although neither may have known how they'd feel later. n/t
whathehell
Jul 2014
#104
I wonder if they were graduates of one of these "abstinence only" approaches.
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#465
You're right. This guy has no hope if her excuse is she would rather watch Friends.
Jenoch
Jul 2014
#125
well, if his wife prefers reruns of Friends, maybe he is no star in the bedroom either...
CTyankee
Jul 2014
#196
If, as I suggest above, she is simply exhausted, she just might need some mindless
tblue37
Jul 2014
#368
He could have told her that he's dissatisfied and wants more sex in their relationship.
DetlefK
Jul 2014
#12
He can only communicate via Excel. It's a rare disorder he picked up from a brothel in Richmond.
randome
Jul 2014
#25
I think the spreadsheet, if real, shows that he seems to think she should have sex even when she's
Gormy Cuss
Jul 2014
#366
Or it reveals he wishes she were in the mood more than three times a month...
Threedifferentones
Jul 2014
#379
Isn't this spreadsheet an almost daily account of asking for more sex in their relationship?
hughee99
Jul 2014
#481
He didn't try to force himself on her. It's also his choice to seek affection elsewhere through....
Darkhawk32
Jul 2014
#247
If she's so psychotic to post this on the internet, he's probably better off without her too. :)
Darkhawk32
Jul 2014
#268
From both of these actions, it is clear that these two people really don't like each other. It
Squinch
Jul 2014
#281
Too bad he did not document whatever lousy technique he is using to "coax" her.
CBGLuthier
Jul 2014
#26
Most of us find being treated nicely, caring and showing that helps. Does being married mean
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#97
Indeed, all we know is that some person decided to keep track using their own system
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#122
I see only 1 side of the story and refuse to extrapolate based on my own experiences
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#131
Why are there so many posts in this thread about men who don't do housework?
Threedifferentones
Jul 2014
#380
"It’s Not Just Us: Women Around The World Do More Housework And Have Less Free Time"
redqueen
Jul 2014
#398
My ex: "I was in a good mood and you spoiled it." "I was in a bad mood and you're making it worse."
Hekate
Jul 2014
#264
Post mentioned she was driving to the airport for a 10 day business trip, never mentioned if he
Thinkingabout
Jul 2014
#37
i dunno night watcher, maybe if they had sat down and had a conversation what each needs were,
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#46
now now, sea .. it is all about quantity Not quality with these mathmetician types.
Tuesday Afternoon
Jul 2014
#50
a month and a half. all while he was asking, he was expecting a no, an excuse, to go to his computer
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#42
As stupid as a spreadsheet was, I don't think the problem started when he started making the....
Darkhawk32
Jul 2014
#308
youa re assuming i assumed that, which i did not and did not make that statement. how odd. right?
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#415
The assumption was applied by the fact that you only talked about that month
DireStrike
Jul 2014
#450
Data driven performance evaluations provide clarity to linked qualitative comments.
aikoaiko
Jul 2014
#48
well, well ... slow day at Discussionist is it? Didn't realize you are the arbiter of how threads
Tuesday Afternoon
Jul 2014
#80
EarlG should take an interest in the poster because of what he posts about women
CreekDog
Jul 2014
#359
No need to school me, Nye. pintobean has shown me the error of my ways.
Tuesday Afternoon
Jul 2014
#82
LOL, is that what you got from the OP editing his comments to point fingers? n/t
R B Garr
Jul 2014
#219
i think feminism is more closely aligned with DU's Terms of Service than opposing feminists
CreekDog
Jul 2014
#361
EarlG is an admin, surely you aren't asking us to NOT talk to Admins about DU things are you?
CreekDog
Jul 2014
#360
You're paging Earl - presumably, to have this guy banned, right? ... over THIS?
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#337
paging is not necessarily to ask for a ban, but to ask for Admins to keep an eye
CreekDog
Jul 2014
#370
Well hopefully there's gonna be more to the prosecution's case than just this thread.
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#373
She should make a spreadsheet of how many times he refused to or didn't bother to:
Frustratedlady
Jul 2014
#72
Also.... does he practice basic hygiene? Shower regularly? Keep himself in fairly good shape?
Nye Bevan
Jul 2014
#92
He should do chores to help around the house if she is working, particularly.
Frustratedlady
Jul 2014
#121
So long as you are ok with him posting it online. Tit for tat for tit for tat. eom.
Bad Thoughts
Jul 2014
#135
Absolutely not~ You missed the point of sharing in the chores/responsibilities.
Frustratedlady
Jul 2014
#164
I'm waiting for the "publication" of her spreadsheet, but I'll betcha I'm right. eom
Frustratedlady
Jul 2014
#178
That's exactly what they're saying ;) once you have kids the mans job is to make money and do chores
grahamhgreen
Jul 2014
#460
Am I the only one who picked up on the part where she's hurting the next day?
riderinthestorm
Jul 2014
#103
I don't know why anyone would automatically assume that she's lying but he isn't...
redqueen
Jul 2014
#400
Doesn't take a couples therapist to diagnose that there are communication issues with this couple
stevenleser
Jul 2014
#110
It must be a tough old world when people hold positions different than yours...
LanternWaste
Jul 2014
#411
In most states, that spreadsheet wouldn't even see the light of day in a courtroom.
Darkhawk32
Jul 2014
#284
I appreciate all the Duers who did not assume things from this 1 sided story.
uppityperson
Jul 2014
#145
He could help her find out why it's painful, and still painful 24 hours later
gollygee
Jul 2014
#190
If he is a decent husband and she is a denier, don't be shocked when he strays
joeglow3
Jul 2014
#291
Hahaha!! Oh my gawd so true! As a connoisseur of many men before I married
riderinthestorm
Jul 2014
#260
And *he* could be lying a about her "excuses", and you've been all over this thread
redqueen
Jul 2014
#246
I concede that the husband could be just as full of shit as the wife. No doubt about it.
Darkhawk32
Jul 2014
#285
I come to that conclusion based on his remark that they were 20 minutes early for dinner
BainsBane
Jul 2014
#293
So a husband a wife having a "quickie" at lunch MUST be because he can't perform.
Darkhawk32
Jul 2014
#298
During masturbation it only takes an average of 4 minutes for women to climax
Hippo_Tron
Jul 2014
#493
Yeap, communication has shut down somewhere... they should get to where this began
uponit7771
Jul 2014
#538
th Op is whining cause we call out his predictable posting history, saying he just saw the funny, as
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#296
I would be curious what the second half says. But thanks for shedding light to the OP. Nt
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#356
the Op put it up to diss women. now pretends just about being funny. though he specifically leaves
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#292
Hmmm ... he needs one more column in his spreadsheet, like, "What type of sex he wanted!" He
RKP5637
Jul 2014
#252
she talked to you, made you aware. he stomped off and wrote it on a spread sheet. see a difference?
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#423
I think they both eat tooo much meat and need marriage counseling. Preferably by a vegan.
mackerel
Jul 2014
#261
My guess would be Dr. Phil. No punches have been thrown and he can pseudo-analyze them
Darkhawk32
Jul 2014
#299
Whaddaya want? It's not like there's any actual news happening in the world right now.
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#342
I think the UN needs to call a special emergency session on the spreadsheet situation at DU
Violet_Crumble
Jul 2014
#386
Heh. Or how about a spreadsheet of all the threads like this in GD, over the past 3 years?
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#422
lets highlight those that consistently participate in threads as they gripe about threads and the
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#427
i have little interest in the thread, let alone playing the game you two are getting such a giggle
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#431
My wife sent me a similar spreadsheet for all the times I denied listening to her talk
cbdo2007
Jul 2014
#402
ten round bout of reality poutrage ruined round about ten, then run out for runied poultry porridge
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#466
I'm guessing a handful of people on this thread prioritize sex to such a degree...
LanternWaste
Jul 2014
#437
IF this story is true- and I kinda doubt it is- then arguably that's what the dude was doing, no?
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#464
Hmmm. I don't know how YOU got from the division of unpaid labor statistics you posted
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#536
The Patriarchy looks just like the tunnels under Castle Wolfenstein!
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#543
OK, it's true, people can survive without being sexually intimate with another person.
Zorra
Jul 2014
#472
I was with a guy who had issues that way, or at least that's what he said the problem was.
moriah
Jul 2014
#474
He proved his point. After all, would you fuck anyone who keeps spreadsheets on how often he fucks?
LTX
Jul 2014
#469
my initial thought was, I cannot imagine why she doesn't want to f*** that loser
Skittles
Jul 2014
#504
I dont have a reputation with anyone here other than a particular clique of DUers
davidn3600
Jul 2014
#488
i dont understand why anyone would do this. it makes no sense in a healthy relationship
La Lioness Priyanka
Jul 2014
#516
He should have gone down to see a Gypsy woman one ol' day, instead, yes indeed.
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#521
Would you all prefer the guy make the spreadsheet or fulfill his sexual needs with other women? eom
tarheelsunc
Jul 2014
#545