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davidn3600

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492. I never said they are mean

Mon Jul 21, 2014, 08:45 PM

Jul 2014

They twist people's words and antagonize everyone's opinions for what seems to be the purpose of starting a war here.

Nothing about being mean. It's just not a good way to get more people on your side. When you attack rather than engage, people will just dig their heels in deeper. Attacking people is a poor debate tactic.

For example, if they post a topic about sexual harassment, they get VERY angry when I mention that it happens to men too. And I don't know why that angers them. Men experience harassment too. When I was 16, in my first job, I was sexually harassed by my female boss. To make matters worse, I was a minor and she was an adult. And it was very confusing because I knew it was wrong. But society is also telling me I'm supposed to enjoy the attention. And now as an adult many years later...that very well may be the reason I tend to get irritated these days when women who commit sexual crimes get handed lighter sentences than men, routinely. And feminists get angry when I bring that topic up.

And that is my biggest gripe about feminism. They only focus on the woman-side of gender problems. MRAs only want to focus on the male-side of the problems. On the other hand, I want to focus on BOTH. But that apparently still makes me a misogynist.

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Man sends wife spreadsheet detailing the times she denied him sex for the last month [View all] davidn3600 Jul 2014 OP

Do you have a comment? DURHAM D Jul 2014 #1

oh no. it belongs right here. Actually, it belongs on reddit but, you know ... Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #40

There is a clear pattern. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #54

yes. beyond the stupid OP, yes. a clear pattern. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #58

mos def. An agenda has been noticed and a pattern established. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #66

Indeed there is. DURHAM D Jul 2014 #67

I have a feeling this marriage is soon to be over. I can already see many other issues involved. yeoman6987 Jul 2014 #169

He needs to Turbineguy Jul 2014 #2

I was gonna say what a lousy looking spreadsheet he produces! CTyankee Jul 2014 #106

Not to mention the one Aerows Jul 2014 #421

Yep!!! No A+ for him! RKP5637 Jul 2014 #251

That's what I was thinking; maybe that explains the REAL source of his problem? InAbLuEsTaTe Jul 2014 #256

Lawyer. Iggo Jul 2014 #3

Yeh, no sense wasting any time and and life experience Zorra Jul 2014 #102

+10 Duppers Jul 2014 #116

Never use a spreadsheet when a simple table will suffice. nt NCjack Jul 2014 #4

Yes - some people LiberalElite Jul 2014 #148

I would've preferred to use a pie chart. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #302

Mmmm. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #321

Ohhh....you guys. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #332

What can I say? I like pie. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #334

I prefer cake, personally. opiate69 Jul 2014 #522

That's not, technically, 100% true. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #525

Pics or it didn't happen! opiate69 Jul 2014 #532

Oh, fine. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #533

lmao! opiate69 Jul 2014 #534

!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #535

I think that's what Jessica Lange said to Jack Nicholson once... Gidney N Cloyd Jul 2014 #549

Well that relationship is likely done... Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #5

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #6

lololol DustyJoe Jul 2014 #7

What a creep. nt geek tragedy Jul 2014 #8

welllll ...... EDITED DustyJoe Jul 2014 #10

I'm gonna guess he wasn't very much into geek tragedy Jul 2014 #11

You mean at least he wasn't just raping her? Really? redqueen Jul 2014 #14

Yeah, I guess we're supposed to give him credit for not being a rapist BainsBane Jul 2014 #348

At least he wasn't raping her?! Wow, that is a fucked up comment. n/t demmiblue Jul 2014 #15

ha. you give guys a pat for NOT raping. got it. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #21

I do hope you have merely made a poor choice of words CBGLuthier Jul 2014 #30

of course she laughed. you're a huge joke. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #45

okay DustyJoe Jul 2014 #56

it was a bad one liner. your wife was right, you deserved. and seabeyond Jul 2014 #57

ok, thanks for the clarification. n/t Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #63

Added by suggestion DustyJoe Jul 2014 #75

How do you know any of that about him? Do you know him personally or are you just uppityperson Jul 2014 #144

"complying with the denials" NCTraveler Jul 2014 #418

Detailing his life Harmony Blue Jul 2014 #347

Damn poor guy bigdarryl Jul 2014 #9

He should have had an adult conversation. tammywammy Jul 2014 #13

No, he shouldn't have married her unless he knew what he was getting into. randome Jul 2014 #18

I rather have to agree with this. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jul 2014 #31

You don't think that desire and libido fluctuate over time? PassingFair Jul 2014 #152

At 26 years old? Yieks! yeoman6987 Jul 2014 #173

At 26 years old my libido was completely killed. It's still dead. I'm 34. Until I get a problem fixe MillennialDem Jul 2014 #327

She might just have been tired all the time. tblue37 Jul 2014 #363

He might just be bad at it or doesn't care about her pleasure. alarimer Jul 2014 #388

Sure I do. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jul 2014 #232

There could be so much more to it. redqueen Jul 2014 #43

Very true. As much as things have changed, Ilsa Jul 2014 #158

Back in the day a friend of mine confided almost tearfully she thought she was becoming "frigid" Hekate Jul 2014 #258

Agreed Takket Jul 2014 #51

....or hoping to get in to. TheCowsCameHome Jul 2014 #76

Agree. blueamy66 Jul 2014 #89

You could say the same for her, although neither may have known how they'd feel later. n/t whathehell Jul 2014 #104

I wonder if they were graduates of one of these "abstinence only" approaches. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #465

I'm sure his wife was much more active earlier on. eom tarheelsunc Jul 2014 #546

If his wife is more interested in reruns of Friends Jacoby365 Jul 2014 #91

Really. Who watches Friends any more? Geeze. randome Jul 2014 #108

I know. Really! n/t Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #290

You're right. This guy has no hope if her excuse is she would rather watch Friends. Jenoch Jul 2014 #125

well, if his wife prefers reruns of Friends, maybe he is no star in the bedroom either... CTyankee Jul 2014 #196

maybe it was an episode she never saw jberryhill Jul 2014 #311

Yeah, that part is pretty damning. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #335

At least it's not "Mad About You." NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #340

Everybody loves Raymond Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #341

But does Everybody KNOW Raymond in the Biblical sense? NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #345

yeah, good point. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #371

I never watched it either, but I can totally hear her saying that. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #378

If, as I suggest above, she is simply exhausted, she just might need some mindless tblue37 Jul 2014 #368

Perhaps the fault does not really rest with the wife? avebury Jul 2014 #490

He could have told her that he's dissatisfied and wants more sex in their relationship. DetlefK Jul 2014 #12

He can only communicate via Excel. It's a rare disorder he picked up from a brothel in Richmond. randome Jul 2014 #25

! redqueen Jul 2014 #29

Sort of borrowed from something Grant Morrison once wrote. randome Jul 2014 #69

Actually as I am thinking about it, they both deserve each other yeoman6987 Jul 2014 #175

You just won the internet tonight. :) Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #305

I don't agree. blueamy66 Jul 2014 #90

I wonder what the husband's excuses look like Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #141

Do you think more then 3 times a month is a whim or unreasonable? yeoman6987 Jul 2014 #176

I think the spreadsheet, if real, shows that he seems to think she should have sex even when she's Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #366

Or it reveals he wishes she were in the mood more than three times a month... Threedifferentones Jul 2014 #379

If this thing is real, I agree it's doomed Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #401

yeah I dont think qazplm Jul 2014 #227

You have spread your personal life all over DU HangOnKids Jul 2014 #552

Isn't this spreadsheet an almost daily account of asking for more sex in their relationship? hughee99 Jul 2014 #481

And this is anyone's business how? AngryAmish Jul 2014 #16

She posted it on Reddit. That's how. Iggo Jul 2014 #24

!... TeeYiYi Jul 2014 #84

Could be an opportunity for a new Paul Simon song: DreamGypsy Jul 2014 #17

Always liked this tune. edgineered Jul 2014 #52

Who says romance is dead? KinMd Jul 2014 #19

lol grahamhgreen Jul 2014 #470

This is going to end up being a viral Reddit hoax. sufrommich Jul 2014 #20

+1. The internet is so gullible. chrisa Jul 2014 #479

Seems like he was asking at all the wrong times. JaneyVee Jul 2014 #22

If this is to be believed, not alternate times were given. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #191

Yeah, because scheduling sex is really romantic. JaneyVee Jul 2014 #239

But you're condemning the man for asking for sex. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #240

Not condemning him for asking, condemning his spreadsheet. JaneyVee Jul 2014 #244

He didn't try to force himself on her. It's also his choice to seek affection elsewhere through.... Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #247

I agree. Divorce is probably best in their situation. JaneyVee Jul 2014 #266

If she's so psychotic to post this on the internet, he's probably better off without her too. :) Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #268

From both of these actions, it is clear that these two people really don't like each other. It Squinch Jul 2014 #281

Right, just divorce. Both acted stupid. n/t Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #282

I'm sorry, but as an engineer I thought this was funny as hell!!! U4ikLefty Jul 2014 #23

I would've used pie and flow charts. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #295

Too bad he did not document whatever lousy technique he is using to "coax" her. CBGLuthier Jul 2014 #26

My thoughts also. Thinkingabout Jul 2014 #36

this ^ Kali Jul 2014 #71

Good, now I don't have to post that ismnotwasm Jul 2014 #74

She married him. blueamy66 Jul 2014 #94

Most of us find being treated nicely, caring and showing that helps. Does being married mean uppityperson Jul 2014 #97

But we do not know this to be the case blueamy66 Jul 2014 #114

Indeed, all we know is that some person decided to keep track using their own system uppityperson Jul 2014 #122

Okay. Sex is good. Sex is fun. blueamy66 Jul 2014 #126

I see only 1 side of the story and refuse to extrapolate based on my own experiences uppityperson Jul 2014 #131

I don't think he meant any of that. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #306

Precisely. redqueen Jul 2014 #127

She probably has more relationship experience than I do REP Jul 2014 #257

Right, just like that. How simple. pnwmom Jul 2014 #568

Consider this: DebJ Jul 2014 #346

Maybe he should give her money every time, lol;) grahamhgreen Jul 2014 #133

According to some in this thread BainsBane Jul 2014 #280

Why are there so many posts in this thread about men who don't do housework? Threedifferentones Jul 2014 #380

Because the woman said as much in the part of the story left out by the OP BainsBane Jul 2014 #395

"It’s Not Just Us: Women Around The World Do More Housework And Have Less Free Time" redqueen Jul 2014 #398

To quote from "Mrs. Doubtfire"... Spazito Jul 2014 #424

some men think saying "wanna do it?" is foreplay elehhhhna Jul 2014 #475

This message was self-deleted by its author Lochloosa Jul 2014 #27

A grammar problem or a drinking problem? FSogol Jul 2014 #33

"I'm too drunk and I ate too much"... SidDithers Jul 2014 #107

Why shouldn't he be bitter hfojvt Jul 2014 #28

Awkward unless she is an accountant or has an Excel fetish maybe lunasun Jul 2014 #32

Too bad he left out the other column. edgineered Jul 2014 #34

You have no evidence that it was him not wanting to talk... Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #189

My baseless argument is proof positive of its meaning. nt edgineered Jul 2014 #233

What the hell? demwing Jul 2014 #381

Yea, it does. edgineered Jul 2014 #391

My ex: "I was in a good mood and you spoiled it." "I was in a bad mood and you're making it worse." Hekate Jul 2014 #264

Of course he's bitter, he hasn't been laid in a month NightWatcher Jul 2014 #35

I take it your wife is more accomodating ... Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #47

you people are killing the comedy here NightWatcher Jul 2014 #53

dude, you are killing Me over here ... Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #59

you were posting comedy? wow, thanks for telling us CreekDog Jul 2014 #526

Post mentioned she was driving to the airport for a 10 day business trip, never mentioned if he Thinkingabout Jul 2014 #37

As a mathematician, there is a clear, predictable sequence here. Nye Bevan Jul 2014 #38

isn't that something they teach salesmen? NightWatcher Jul 2014 #41

i dunno night watcher, maybe if they had sat down and had a conversation what each needs were, seabeyond Jul 2014 #46

where's the comedy gold in that approach? NightWatcher Jul 2014 #49

thank you nightwatcher. seabeyond Jul 2014 #55

Thanks. Taken on its face, I think the guy looks worse in this story NightWatcher Jul 2014 #60

now now, sea .. it is all about quantity Not quality with these mathmetician types. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #50

but is it fuzzy math.... nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #61

! Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #68

...... Mother Of Four Jul 2014 #487

I don't think that having a talk will help blueamy66 Jul 2014 #118

Well that's not true. That's way too black and white.... riderinthestorm Jul 2014 #177

I WILL KICK YOUR MATHEMATIZING ASS, NYE BEVAN Skittles Jul 2014 #265

I noticed that too AgingAmerican Jul 2014 #520

Dude does not deserve a girlfriend PowerToThePeople Jul 2014 #39

a month and a half. all while he was asking, he was expecting a no, an excuse, to go to his computer seabeyond Jul 2014 #42

Yup, eom uppityperson Jul 2014 #100

As stupid as a spreadsheet was, I don't think the problem started when he started making the.... Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #308

You think this was just a month? DireStrike Jul 2014 #414

youa re assuming i assumed that, which i did not and did not make that statement. how odd. right? seabeyond Jul 2014 #415

The assumption was applied by the fact that you only talked about that month DireStrike Jul 2014 #450

Who uses a spreadsheet? Codeine Jul 2014 #44

Never thought about using PowerPoint! Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #303

Data driven performance evaluations provide clarity to linked qualitative comments. aikoaiko Jul 2014 #48

best post in the thread. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #531

No headaches? SummerSnow Jul 2014 #62

He has to ask?? Generic Brad Jul 2014 #64

sex without consent? Isn't there a word for that? /nt demwing Jul 2014 #383

That is not what I was implying Generic Brad Jul 2014 #498

he should divorce her and find someone more compatible nt msongs Jul 2014 #65

Hit and Run. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #70

Huh? pintobean Jul 2014 #73

well, well ... slow day at Discussionist is it? Didn't realize you are the arbiter of how threads Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #80

Another wtf post. pintobean Jul 2014 #83

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #86

I have no idea what you are talking about pintobean Jul 2014 #93

sounds like you've been threatening her CreekDog Jul 2014 #527

Total bullshit. pintobean Jul 2014 #547

Whatever your issues with Pintobean (and clearly you have some) tkmorris Jul 2014 #115

EarlG should take an interest in the poster because of what he posts about women CreekDog Jul 2014 #359

So you are OK with Tuesdays locked post? nt Logical Jul 2014 #518

Really? Is there a rule that OPs have to post in their own threads? Nye Bevan Jul 2014 #78

No need to school me, Nye. pintobean has shown me the error of my ways. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #82

For some reason EarlG took no action against *this* "hit and run" poster.... Nye Bevan Jul 2014 #85

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #88

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #95

welcome to DU gopiscrap Jul 2014 #96

It was like a bottlerocket dud. pintobean Jul 2014 #99

lol gopiscrap Jul 2014 #101

One more jury decision, this could have been a Triple Crown, TheCowsCameHome Jul 2014 #138

And there you have the real reason for this thread-- R B Garr Jul 2014 #140

Really? pintobean Jul 2014 #147

Yes, Really. R B Garr Jul 2014 #151

But, you didn't answer the real question. pintobean Jul 2014 #161

LOL, you've answered your own question(s) with your own observations. R B Garr Jul 2014 #165

No, I haven't. pintobean Jul 2014 #171

And there you go getting personal. Right on schedule. R B Garr Jul 2014 #182

And, who is discussing other posters? pintobean Jul 2014 #201

LOL, is that what you got from the OP editing his comments to point fingers? n/t R B Garr Jul 2014 #219

I got that before the edit. pintobean Jul 2014 #224

...and then you were the first to bring up HoF, and then... R B Garr Jul 2014 #226

The same story posted in hof. pintobean Jul 2014 #236

Why are you so obsessed with HoF? n/t R B Garr Jul 2014 #241

Am I? pintobean Jul 2014 #242

Well, this thread was posted by someone with no comments, and R B Garr Jul 2014 #315

have you posted to Skinner and the Admins about History of Feminism? CreekDog Jul 2014 #369

You have some strange replies to me. pintobean Jul 2014 #477

I don't know why you can't answer a simple question CreekDog Jul 2014 #484

I don't know pintobean Jul 2014 #486

He went in there and trashed the group BainsBane Jul 2014 #511

What a bunch of crap. pintobean Jul 2014 #571

MRA's don't belong in History of Feminism or any feminist group CreekDog Jul 2014 #364

to bait feminists and their allies CreekDog Jul 2014 #362

You really like that MRA boogeyman. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #374

why did you get banned from that group? CreekDog Jul 2014 #372

i think feminism is more closely aligned with DU's Terms of Service than opposing feminists CreekDog Jul 2014 #361

EarlG is an admin, surely you aren't asking us to NOT talk to Admins about DU things are you? CreekDog Jul 2014 #360

You're paging Earl - presumably, to have this guy banned, right? ... over THIS? Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #337

paging is not necessarily to ask for a ban, but to ask for Admins to keep an eye CreekDog Jul 2014 #370

Well hopefully there's gonna be more to the prosecution's case than just this thread. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #373

MRA! That's all the evidence anyone needs, don't you know? NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #376

Go on over to the Men's Rights Reddit BainsBane Jul 2014 #463

I'll get right on that. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #556

Then I suggest you quit mocking things BainsBane Jul 2014 #560

I'll think long and hard about your suggestion. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #561

Your thoughts are clearly uninformed BainsBane Jul 2014 #565

Thank you for your concern. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #569

And it better be in a spreadsheet! With a pivot table! n/t Violet_Crumble Jul 2014 #384

She should make a spreadsheet of how many times he refused to or didn't bother to: Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #72

Also.... does he practice basic hygiene? Shower regularly? Keep himself in fairly good shape? Nye Bevan Jul 2014 #92

Amen! eom Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #98

Or, she could just be a denier joeglow3 Jul 2014 #297

Really? blueamy66 Jul 2014 #119

He should do chores to help around the house if she is working, particularly. Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #121

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #124

Wow. "Frigid" redqueen Jul 2014 #128

No, by getting married BainsBane Jul 2014 #318

But she already did ***something*** Bad Thoughts Jul 2014 #120

Looking forward to seeing her spreadsheet. Tit for tat! eom Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #129

So long as you are ok with him posting it online. Tit for tat for tit for tat. eom. Bad Thoughts Jul 2014 #135

He started it. In that event, payback is fair. eom Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #139

So sex is a payment for services rendered? ;) n/t Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #154

Absolutely not~ You missed the point of sharing in the chores/responsibilities. Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #164

How do we know he didn't do equal amounts of chores? Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #170

I'm waiting for the "publication" of her spreadsheet, but I'll betcha I'm right. eom Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #178

How can we take it as truth but rather a vindictive response? Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #186

Trust me, the women on this board will know just by the wording. Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #192

Oh ok. Great. Sure thing. Gotcha. You betcha! Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #195

That's exactly what they're saying ;) once you have kids the mans job is to make money and do chores grahamhgreen Jul 2014 #460

The correct word is SHARE chores. eom Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #514

I'm sorry, but Excel has a limit of 65,536 rows mythology Jul 2014 #180

Bingo! eom Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #184

That's why you insert additional pages jmowreader Jul 2014 #255

Don't forget the stuff he doesn't do BainsBane Jul 2014 #202

Good point. Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #209

Someone on another site where this was posted made an observation BainsBane Jul 2014 #211

Exactly! eom Frustratedlady Jul 2014 #221

I will have sex with you if you do X, sounds like prostitution to me. grahamhgreen Jul 2014 #458

that spreadsheet should make her come running lustfully into his arms lunatica Jul 2014 #77

Wait--is she scorned? Orrex Jul 2014 #79

Yikes... SidDithers Jul 2014 #109

Spreadsheet TheCowsCameHome Jul 2014 #81

I'd be curious to see her spreadsheet... TeeYiYi Jul 2014 #87

Someone should make one from her point of view. Lex Jul 2014 #143

Am I the only one who picked up on the part where she's hurting the next day? riderinthestorm Jul 2014 #103

I caught it. Kali Jul 2014 #123

That's what I first noticed gollygee Jul 2014 #188

you're assuming qazplm Jul 2014 #230

I don't know why I'd assume she'd lying gollygee Jul 2014 #243

I don't know why anyone would automatically assume that she's lying but he isn't... redqueen Jul 2014 #400

Not only that, his spreadsheet along with his comment about Jamastiene Jul 2014 #392

Excellent, excellent observation. redqueen Jul 2014 #426

I caught that, too, and... TreasonousBastard Jul 2014 #254

The sex is never good when one partner isn't into it bluestateguy Jul 2014 #105

Doesn't take a couples therapist to diagnose that there are communication issues with this couple stevenleser Jul 2014 #110

File this under Blue_Tires Jul 2014 #111

Welcome to The Swarm treatment. 99Forever Jul 2014 #112

lol redqueen Jul 2014 #130

Toodles! nt. Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #146

Aw. Iggo Jul 2014 #207

Oh you done did it now! Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #289

Don't you know that the word "swarm" is sexist? NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #338

Of course it is. 99Forever Jul 2014 #396

It must be a tough old world when people hold positions different than yours... LanternWaste Jul 2014 #411

Not if they do yoga Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #444

well, i feel sorry for him and it sounds as if Duppers Jul 2014 #113

Heh, I bet I know what most any Judge would think about that spreadsheet. Lex Jul 2014 #142

In most states, that spreadsheet wouldn't even see the light of day in a courtroom. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #284

If it's a no-fault divorce, of course not. Lex Jul 2014 #397

Ummmm, nothing. joeglow3 Jul 2014 #301

Mr. Ummmmm, can you read? Lex Jul 2014 #399

Who cares what a judge thinks joeglow3 Jul 2014 #404

Yes, you make complete sense. Lex Jul 2014 #405

Nice reply when logic is applied to your terrible attempt to cover up joeglow3 Jul 2014 #406

I didn't "question what a judge would think." Lex Jul 2014 #409

That trick never works, I'm quite certain. MineralMan Jul 2014 #117

I'd recommend he'd just stop asking... roamer65 Jul 2014 #132

ROFL! My GF's comments: grahamhgreen Jul 2014 #134

Wow very offensive. MillennialDem Jul 2014 #162

Wow. VERY offensive. lol grahamhgreen Jul 2014 #452

Who is going to support him then? BainsBane Jul 2014 #358

I imagine many idiots, among others of course, believe... LanternWaste Jul 2014 #420

Was his hands workin'? grahamhgreen Jul 2014 #453

Spreadsheet? There's a good dirty joke in there somewhere KinMd Jul 2014 #136

Indeed there is... 3catwoman3 Jul 2014 #217

3x in a month and a half? That's a lot. n/t taught_me_patience Jul 2014 #137

Toward the end of my marriage, that would've been a lot. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #156

I appreciate all the Duers who did not assume things from this 1 sided story. uppityperson Jul 2014 #145

Yup, only see one side of the equation. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #157

I guess she's not into LiberalElite Jul 2014 #149

(non-verbal) GreatCaesarsGhost Jul 2014 #150

Or... Iggo Jul 2014 #208

Access denied? Denial of service? Rex Jul 2014 #153

She doesn't sound that much better. Deserve each other? ;) n/t Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #159

3 night of sex per month seems pretty okay to me. Rex Jul 2014 #163

3 times in 7 weeks actually. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #167

3 times in about a month period. Rex Jul 2014 #172

Once he started making this spreadsheet Mariana Jul 2014 #390

Yep! Bingo. Dorian Gray Jul 2014 #440

So? MillennialDem Jul 2014 #324

Man stoopid. elleng Jul 2014 #155

Poor guy, his vending machine is broken. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #160

It's not that difficult BainsBane Jul 2014 #168

He could help her find out why it's painful, and still painful 24 hours later gollygee Jul 2014 #190

I think it's a joke, number one cwydro Jul 2014 #166

I side with the person who doesn't keep spreadsheets CreekDog Jul 2014 #174

He sent her the spreadsheet, she posted it on Reddit. n/t tammywammy Jul 2014 #183

She was the one who posted it to Reddit, not him. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #187

I side with her, he's an asshole who thinks he's owed sex CreekDog Jul 2014 #193

She's just as wrong, sorry. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #194

Provoked, and not sorry CreekDog Jul 2014 #212

Then she's just as immature. Never sorry. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #216

If he is a decent husband and she is a denier, don't be shocked when he strays joeglow3 Jul 2014 #291

Obviously he isn't a decent husband BainsBane Jul 2014 #310

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #403

Another point in favor of the hoax theory BainsBane Jul 2014 #214

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #179

Assuming this isn't a prank or joke.. sendero Jul 2014 #181

i find it highly amusing and funny that someone would do that!!! spanone Jul 2014 #185

she's leaving on a business trip jberryhill Jul 2014 #197

Great chance for her to whip up a scorecard of her own. TheCowsCameHome Jul 2014 #200

I hope it's her excuse too! JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #235

Jury results BainsBane Jul 2014 #198

Post the full results. pintobean Jul 2014 #203

BTW BainsBane Jul 2014 #205

Well it is a great illustration of male entitlement. redqueen Jul 2014 #218

Yes BainsBane Jul 2014 #220

sing it sistah... you speak the truth. i say. as a woman. ;) nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #287

She needs to give him what he is owed... Inkfreak Jul 2014 #199

Then after a few years she will ask for a divorce because....... nolabels Jul 2014 #204

davidn3600, thank you TheCowsCameHome Jul 2014 #206

I call bullshit on this. edbermac Jul 2014 #210

Agreed. A troll hoax. grahamhgreen Jul 2014 #471

He should get a divorce LittleBlue Jul 2014 #213

Somehow I think BainsBane Jul 2014 #245

This thread reminded me of one of Louis CK's bits that I found hilarious: redqueen Jul 2014 #215

That is perfect. betsuni Jul 2014 #231

Yes,it is! freshwest Jul 2014 #434

Hahaha!! Oh my gawd so true! As a connoisseur of many men before I married riderinthestorm Jul 2014 #260

A "connoisseur of many men"? Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #551

Ha Dorian Gray Jul 2014 #441

As Rodney Dangerfield was wont to say rock Jul 2014 #222

Her problem is that she's not perfect. betsuni Jul 2014 #223

"She does all the housework, laundry, cooking." redqueen Jul 2014 #225

According to her. She could be lying to garner support. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #238

And *he* could be lying a about her "excuses", and you've been all over this thread redqueen Jul 2014 #246

I concede that the husband could be just as full of shit as the wife. No doubt about it. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #285

I think it likely he is telling the truth BainsBane Jul 2014 #249

Perhaps she never cared to communicate what pleases her. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #286

I come to that conclusion based on his remark that they were 20 minutes early for dinner BainsBane Jul 2014 #293

So a husband a wife having a "quickie" at lunch MUST be because he can't perform. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #298

That isn't the context of this discussion BainsBane Jul 2014 #307

Do you have personally experience with her clitoral region? Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #309

I don't think DU actually wants to execute the guy. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #312

I was being facetious with the "execute" statement. Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #314

Yeah, I recognized that. Some people might not, though. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #317

So true, so true. n/t Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #320

Truthfully BainsBane Jul 2014 #322

That means I got all dressed up for nothin'! Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #323

You did BainsBane Jul 2014 #325

You did too! :P Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #326

No graphic? BainsBane Jul 2014 #328

LOL. What? nt Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #329

It's no fun if you don't play BainsBane Jul 2014 #330

Oh. LOL. I get it. Hmmm... Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #331

Oh, I followed the link and thought I was busted BainsBane Jul 2014 #333

The Credible Hulk. ;) Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #336

I am the personal owner of a clitoris BainsBane Jul 2014 #313

During masturbation it only takes an average of 4 minutes for women to climax Hippo_Tron Jul 2014 #493

Yeap, communication has shut down somewhere... they should get to where this began uponit7771 Jul 2014 #538

The husband needs to negotiate. JDPriestly Jul 2014 #228

That's hilarious Prophet 451 Jul 2014 #229

She needs to run JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #234

Is it amusing or sad? gejohnston Jul 2014 #237

Did he leave a $20 bill on the dresser tavernier Jul 2014 #248

OMG people, this is a joke from like 10 years ago! Separation Jul 2014 #250

Shhhh! Don't spoil it. It's always September here on AOL. REP Jul 2014 #262

LOL! Phentex Jul 2014 #393

It's okay BainsBane Jul 2014 #272

th Op is whining cause we call out his predictable posting history, saying he just saw the funny, as seabeyond Jul 2014 #296

Of course BainsBane Jul 2014 #304

I can only imagine. Separation Jul 2014 #355

I would be curious what the second half says. But thanks for shedding light to the OP. Nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #356

Can't seem to find it atm. Separation Jul 2014 #367

thanks for trying. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #394

the Op put it up to diss women. now pretends just about being funny. though he specifically leaves seabeyond Jul 2014 #292

Come on. The woman's side can't be posted BainsBane Jul 2014 #351

Hmmm ... he needs one more column in his spreadsheet, like, "What type of sex he wanted!" He RKP5637 Jul 2014 #252

My guess is this is a guy BainsBane Jul 2014 #273

Needs to pickup a book, "Sex For Dummies!" RKP5637 Jul 2014 #275

i don't think he was immature at all samsingh Jul 2014 #253

Maybe he's as bad in the sheets as he is in the spreadsheets REP Jul 2014 #259

how would this go over if it was said about a woman? samsingh Jul 2014 #417

So much for the traditional, monogamous marriage. Trillo Jul 2014 #267

exactly samsingh Jul 2014 #357

I'm guessing because of cultural reasons. Trillo Jul 2014 #412

i've gone through phases where i've been too busy to be interested in sex samsingh Jul 2014 #419

she talked to you, made you aware. he stomped off and wrote it on a spread sheet. see a difference? seabeyond Jul 2014 #423

how do you know he didn't talk about and got no where? samsingh Jul 2014 #425

i did not declare i did know. i did say, she appeared surprised. seabeyond Jul 2014 #429

why assume he didn't? samsingh Jul 2014 #435

I am not assuming he did not cause I do not know. I stated the wife seabeyond Jul 2014 #442

that surprise/unaware is the problem samsingh Jul 2014 #456

Not all folks are so able, to do what you did. Trillo Jul 2014 #438

Express patience and understanding rather than keeping petulant score. LanternWaste Jul 2014 #413

I think they both eat tooo much meat and need marriage counseling. Preferably by a vegan. mackerel Jul 2014 #261

Uh, ooookay. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #270

July 12 was a good day. rug Jul 2014 #263

poor guy Niceguy1 Jul 2014 #269

Well, maybe he just stinks in bed. Beacool Jul 2014 #271

So she should communicate what she likes... Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #288

Sometimes there is communication and it goes like this: DebJ Jul 2014 #349

Lol, according to the reddit replies, he expected oral, but Jamastiene Jul 2014 #408

Score: marriage 0, divorce lawyer 1, yay ! steve2470 Jul 2014 #274

"Spreadsheet?" Eleanors38 Jul 2014 #276

Spreadsheet? Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #277

I see what you did there. ;) Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #316

NOW I get it. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #319

Awesome. MannyGoldstein Jul 2014 #344

Did he cut cut off contact before or after she went public? marshall Jul 2014 #278

What we have here is a failure to communicate aint_no_life_nowhere Jul 2014 #279

Assuming for a moment this isn't a hoax thucythucy Jul 2014 #283

These two will either be on Jerry Springer or Dr. Phil. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #294

My guess would be Dr. Phil. No punches have been thrown and he can pseudo-analyze them Darkhawk32 Jul 2014 #299

Halitosis fadedrose Jul 2014 #300

This thread is a wonder to behold MannyGoldstein Jul 2014 #339

Whaddaya want? It's not like there's any actual news happening in the world right now. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #342

You suck. MannyGoldstein Jul 2014 #343

... RainDog Jul 2014 #350

I have no idea what all you just said. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #352

if you have to explain a joke RainDog Jul 2014 #353

True. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #354

I see bananas and carrots battling with green beans Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #365

I think the UN needs to call a special emergency session on the spreadsheet situation at DU Violet_Crumble Jul 2014 #386

Heh. Or how about a spreadsheet of all the threads like this in GD, over the past 3 years? Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #422

lets highlight those that consistently participate in threads as they gripe about threads and the seabeyond Jul 2014 #427

We could! Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #428

i have little interest in the thread, let alone playing the game you two are getting such a giggle seabeyond Jul 2014 #431

Right. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #432

... opiate69 Jul 2014 #436

Little interest? I've got a macro in Excel that calculates that! Violet_Crumble Jul 2014 #478

Although, no one in the thread has blamed Bill Gates, yet. Odd. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #530

you say the "world has so much crap going on right now", chiding DUers CreekDog Jul 2014 #375

You've really done it now David. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #377

Back to the topic at hand . . . Vinca Jul 2014 #382

reminds me of this quote Enrique Jul 2014 #385

He's not entitled to sex, even from his wife. alarimer Jul 2014 #387

I found this thread by following the huge plume of angry Jamastiene Jul 2014 #389

My wife sent me a similar spreadsheet for all the times I denied listening to her talk cbdo2007 Jul 2014 #402

Both are idiots maddezmom Jul 2014 #407

Why on earth do people get married? leftyladyfrommo Jul 2014 #410

Oh, not a spreadsheet! Data in arguments? How childish! DireStrike Jul 2014 #416

So nobody has figured out this is fake yet, except one person above? snooper2 Jul 2014 #430

Not only got trolled but embarrassed itself fully... SomethingFishy Jul 2014 #433

No, it's not even at 20% of Moon Bombing Stupidity level, yet Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #448

LMAO.. I forgot about the "moon bombing" SomethingFishy Jul 2014 #519

Whatcha doing here? BainsBane Jul 2014 #462

ten round bout of reality poutrage ruined round about ten, then run out for runied poultry porridge Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #466

I'm guessing a handful of people on this thread prioritize sex to such a degree... LanternWaste Jul 2014 #437

And I'm guessing.... opiate69 Jul 2014 #439

Oh, so true BainsBane Jul 2014 #443

All they'd have to do is turn down the reverb Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #445

! opiate69 Jul 2014 #446

Hmmmm. Wet Reverb Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #447

For reals opiate69 Jul 2014 #449

Ah, the old "popcorn bowl in the lap" trick Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #451

Few can lay claim to the smoothness that is Ross. opiate69 Jul 2014 #455

Anyone who is married, and can't have sex, who loves their spouse, would Zorra Jul 2014 #454

Here's the thing, though: Sex with a partner is not a need. redqueen Jul 2014 #457

IF this story is true- and I kinda doubt it is- then arguably that's what the dude was doing, no? Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #464

Given that most women are burdened with an unfair division of labor redqueen Jul 2014 #467

It's a mystery! Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #468

Such bigoted garbage. chrisa Jul 2014 #480

LOL! Wow! Really? Read it and weep: redqueen Jul 2014 #491

I don't dispute the article, nor do I think it's relevant. chrisa Jul 2014 #496

I don't know how you got that from what I wrote redqueen Jul 2014 #499

Hmmm. I don't know how YOU got from the division of unpaid labor statistics you posted Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #536

Seriously? redqueen Jul 2014 #537

You seem tense. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #539

lol opiate69 Jul 2014 #540

Well, crap, man. In my house, *I* do most of the housework. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #541

Didn't you get the memo? opiate69 Jul 2014 #542

The Patriarchy looks just like the tunnels under Castle Wolfenstein! Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #543

because the wife said so in the part of the exchange the OP left out. BainsBane Jul 2014 #548

Well, I multitask. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #550

I can't claim to divine intent BainsBane Jul 2014 #553

Yeah, it's nearing like what, 600 replies now? Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #563

And how many from you? BainsBane Jul 2014 #566

51, now. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #567

Close anyway. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #570

Those and more should tide DU over until February RiffRandell Jul 2014 #572

LOL...I forgot Sports Illustrated! NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #573

I hope this thread never dies. It's my go-to thread now... Violet_Crumble Jul 2014 #580

Alas, VC, it will die eventually. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #581

OK, it's true, people can survive without being sexually intimate with another person. Zorra Jul 2014 #472

I think if we were going to have a serious discussion on the subject... stevenleser Jul 2014 #562

I'm going with the loving marriage rather than entertainment-by-proxy. LanternWaste Jul 2014 #459

I'm going with not taking spreadsheet on Reddit. BainsBane Jul 2014 #461

My partner is still married, except now she's participating in a Zorra Jul 2014 #473

I was with a guy who had issues that way, or at least that's what he said the problem was. moriah Jul 2014 #474

He proved his point. After all, would you fuck anyone who keeps spreadsheets on how often he fucks? LTX Jul 2014 #469

my initial thought was, I cannot imagine why she doesn't want to f*** that loser Skittles Jul 2014 #504

Yep Dorian Gray Jul 2014 #554

Maybe he was into spreadsheets when she was into bedsheets. meti57b Jul 2014 #476

So... This turd was just a hit and run... Ohio Joe Jul 2014 #482

Ridiculous... davidn3600 Jul 2014 #483

Your reputation precedes you Ohio Joe Jul 2014 #485

I dont have a reputation with anyone here other than a particular clique of DUers davidn3600 Jul 2014 #488

The MRA pizza list is even longer... Ohio Joe Jul 2014 #489

I never said they are mean davidn3600 Jul 2014 #492

Twist words? BainsBane Jul 2014 #497

This post was alerted on. DanTex Jul 2014 #500

Thanks. Good jury BainsBane Jul 2014 #502

I'm not doing this again davidn3600 Jul 2014 #505

You have no one to blame but yourself for this phony charade. R B Garr Jul 2014 #506

This message was self-deleted by its author Violet_Crumble Jul 2014 #508

This wasn't even supposed to be a serious thread davidn3600 Jul 2014 #509

I kind of picked up on that. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #557

The jury didn't buy the twisting words argument BainsBane Jul 2014 #510

Welcome to ignore. You're the only one on it. davidn3600 Jul 2014 #512

I accused you of none of that BainsBane Jul 2014 #513

what this guy has to say is well worth 20 minutes... ReasonableToo Jul 2014 #501

"paging Earl!!!!!" Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #523

You rang? opiate69 Jul 2014 #524

Try to keep up with new technology. I'd be snap chatting EarlG... Violet_Crumble Jul 2014 #544

I hear "Tinder" is good. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #564

Well, maybe he's a member of The Wolfpack. RiffRandell Jul 2014 #559

We know your posting history BainsBane Jul 2014 #495

Oh but that's different David. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #558

I wonder about his approach... Ino Jul 2014 #494

well now Howler Jul 2014 #503

It seems an awkward way to go about things. Sognefjord Jul 2014 #507

His chance of hearing a Yes just decreased by 100%. In_The_Wind Jul 2014 #515

i dont understand why anyone would do this. it makes no sense in a healthy relationship La Lioness Priyanka Jul 2014 #516

Well, that's pathetic. JHB Jul 2014 #517

He should have gone down to see a Gypsy woman one ol' day, instead, yes indeed. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #521

a spreadsheet? for THAT? he may never have sex again 0rganism Jul 2014 #528

Strong whiff of "L'air du Sous Pont" about this one... n/t TygrBright Jul 2014 #529

Would you all prefer the guy make the spreadsheet or fulfill his sexual needs with other women? eom tarheelsunc Jul 2014 #545

It's a lose/lose situation Blue_Adept Jul 2014 #555

One other thing I would like to point out. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #574

Some Silly TV talk show just featured this, spread sheet and all. Sognefjord Jul 2014 #575

Have they verified that it's real? NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #576

I suspect they had no clue. Sognefjord Jul 2014 #583

On the up side, he got sex 3 times liberal N proud Jul 2014 #577

I'm guessing there are lots of problem to go around in this mess. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #578

How do I love thee? Let me count the lays... customerserviceguy Jul 2014 #579

This is on Headline News now. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #582