Man sends wife spreadsheet detailing the times she denied him sex for the last month

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555. It's a lose/lose situation

Until you're actually in one of those situations, which has all sorts of other baggage attached to it usually, it's hard to understand it.

I went through several rough years with my wife where we had intimate relations to what boiled down to a few times a year. She simply wasn't interested in me in that way any longer. After we went a year without any intimacy - because the lack of sexual intimacy makes just the cuddling and more basic physical intimacy harder to do - we ended up getting to the point where it was done and over with.

Having been in that situation, it's easy to keep a "mental spreadsheet" of what's going on, because you realize how long it's been since you were last intimate. And you can get sad, angry, confused, confrontational, withdrawn and all these other things. And you find ways to try and express that to your partner. It may not be the best way, but it's a reaching out kind of thing.

But it's easier just to say "stupid man" and move along, as many have done in this thread.