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In reply to the discussion: [50 Shades] What two consenting adults do in their bedroom is NEVER your business. [View all]moriah
(8,312 posts)Personally, I'm not into pain. I have too delicate of skin for one to give it much of a try -- I'd end up bruised. Second, it just doesn't sound hot to me, and I'm already more of a "pain... well, hurts" kinda person.
But when you say humiliation... okay, this gets personal, but my guy likes to tie me up, please me, and enjoys me begging for more and maybe teasing some before going straight to the point if you know what I mean. Some might say that's humiliating -- begging and all, though it's more about getting me to the point where I would. He's enjoying the little bit of a power trip, I know -- that he can make me feel that way. I'm enjoying the fact that extended foreplay makes sex much better, and that I can trust a person to look out for what makes me feel good even when that vulnerable.
For many couples who may acknowledge a bit of kink in their relationship, that's as far as it goes.
Is that acting out institutionalized guilt trips about sex as well, or is it just masochism that you feel is that way?