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In reply to the discussion: [50 Shades] What two consenting adults do in their bedroom is NEVER your business. [View all]davidn3600
(6,342 posts)271. BDSM isn't about brutality and demeaning women
The core of BDSM is consensuality.
You are arguing about a type of porn that is already illegal. Actual film of a real, actual rape is already illegal. That's a crime. And no one suggested otherwise. But that's not what's being discussed here. This is a movie. No one is being forced to do anything.
This here below is the point I am trying to make above...There are two very different feminist views on this. One does not make me a misogynist because I don't share your same view on porn.
Feminist opponents of pornographysuch as Andrea Dworkin, Catharine MacKinnon, Robin Morgan, Diana Russell, Alice Schwarzer, Gail Dines, and Robert Jensenargue that pornography is harmful to women, and constitutes strong causality or facilitation of violence against women.
Catharine McKinnon and Andrea Dworkin had separately staked out a position that pornography was inherently exploitative toward women, and they called for its censorship.[1] When Dworkin testified before the Meese Commission in 1986, she said that 65 to 70 percent of all women involved in the sex industriessuch as prostitutes, film stars and models and presumably writers of certain kindshad been victims of incest or child abuse, though she supplied no evidence to support this assertion.[1]
Andrea Dworkin's crusade against pornography during the 1980s brought her to national attention.[2]
Catharine McKinnon and Andrea Dworkin had separately staked out a position that pornography was inherently exploitative toward women, and they called for its censorship.[1] When Dworkin testified before the Meese Commission in 1986, she said that 65 to 70 percent of all women involved in the sex industriessuch as prostitutes, film stars and models and presumably writers of certain kindshad been victims of incest or child abuse, though she supplied no evidence to support this assertion.[1]
Andrea Dworkin's crusade against pornography during the 1980s brought her to national attention.[2]
Vs.
Sex-positive feminism (also known as sexually liberal feminism[citation needed] or pro-sex feminism) describes the belief that sexual liberation and sexual freedom are key components of women's liberation. The terms sex-positive feminism and pro-sex feminism are disputed within feminism.
Pornography is seen as being a medium for women's sexual expression in this view. Sex-positive feminists view many radical feminist views on sexuality, including views on pornography, as being as oppressive as those of patriarchal religions and ideologies, and argue that anti-pornography feminist discourse ignores and trivializes women's sexual agency. Ellen Willis (who coined the term "pro-sex feminism"
states "As we saw it, the claim that 'pornography is violence against women' was code for the neo-Victorian idea that men want sex and women endure it."[21]
Sex-positive feminists take a variety of views towards existing pornography. Many sex-positive feminists see pornography as subverting many traditional ideas about women that they oppose, such as ideas that women do not like sex generally, only enjoy sex in a relational context, or that women only enjoy vanilla sex. They also argue that pornography sometimes shows women in sexually dominant roles and presents women with a greater variety of body types than are typical of mainstream entertainment and fashion.
Pornography is seen as being a medium for women's sexual expression in this view. Sex-positive feminists view many radical feminist views on sexuality, including views on pornography, as being as oppressive as those of patriarchal religions and ideologies, and argue that anti-pornography feminist discourse ignores and trivializes women's sexual agency. Ellen Willis (who coined the term "pro-sex feminism"
Sex-positive feminists take a variety of views towards existing pornography. Many sex-positive feminists see pornography as subverting many traditional ideas about women that they oppose, such as ideas that women do not like sex generally, only enjoy sex in a relational context, or that women only enjoy vanilla sex. They also argue that pornography sometimes shows women in sexually dominant roles and presents women with a greater variety of body types than are typical of mainstream entertainment and fashion.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-pornography_feminism
And that there above is the reason I made my post suggesting sex-neg feminists are as oppressive as the far-right Christians. Maybe you disagree with that. That's fine. But that's my position on the matter.
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[50 Shades] What two consenting adults do in their bedroom is NEVER your business. [View all]
Michigander_Life
Jul 2014
OP
i doubt that it will be as big as they think because so much time went by.
roguevalley
Jul 2014
#226
Obsessed? What a jab. Check out who started the two ops. And who told duers to shut up.
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#75
and again... did i say anywhere people were not ALLOWED to write fiction? is this really how you
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#80
irrelevant. at least in this post, you did not fabricate and accusation against me. well done.
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#84
let me point out again, the post you replied to, was about being accused of being OBSESSED with the
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#83
you seem to be about the most obsessed. i do not give a flying shit about a movie that will bomb.
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#94
Wait, are we talking about what happens in the bedroom or the theater/library/bookstore?
progressoid
Jul 2014
#172
ok. you bring in obsessed in an OP telling people they are not allowed to say anything *mean* about
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#92
i am calling you out, as so many other in htis thread read the same way. [50 shades]
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#99
i do not give a flying fuck what people do in their bedroom. we agree. i do give a fuck about an OP
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#104
you did not request. you tied in a movie to peoples bedroom and told them they had no right to say
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#108
no. i am not projecting. and too many people on this thread say exactly what i am. YOU....
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#112
i will expect to see you refute that accusation in a number of posts, in this thread, by a good # of
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#118
omg.... thru out the thread poster after poster says the same as i. done with you. too fuggin easy
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#122
I thought the thread was about what two consenting adults did in their bedrooms.
moriah
Jul 2014
#156
[50 shades] he was linking to another thread talking about 50 shades and a group opposed to the
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#162
There were people in that thread criticizing BDSM entirely, I'm having a discussion with one now.
moriah
Jul 2014
#169
Take a look at where he thinks he is seeing people arguing against any acts of consensual sex.
Squinch
Jul 2014
#261
The moral ones think it is their right to force their values on everyone else.
liberal N proud
Jul 2014
#3
bdsm community trashed the movie... get on their ass about being the "moral" police. how DARE they
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#53
Did anyone here say differently? I haven't seen any posts or threads on 50 Shades.
Squinch
Jul 2014
#4
If you read through the posts in that referenced thread, none of them say anything
Squinch
Jul 2014
#154
Read through the thread he referenced. There are no posts in that thread that say anything of the
Squinch
Jul 2014
#152
I just read through the whole thing and didn't find anything where people were objecting to
Squinch
Jul 2014
#151
BDSM practitioners tore the book up because it glorifies NON consensual abuse.
redqueen
Jul 2014
#28
it was the same type of ignorant fool who bought the book from media and pr hype only to find it was
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#31
"it was so titillating to point the finger at the middle age women getting off on...sexual abuse"
redqueen
Jul 2014
#38
Exactly. It is fucking sick. But here we have DU's usual FREEDUMB BECAUSE SEXXXY TIMES brigade
redqueen
Jul 2014
#34
glorifying violence against women. But that's ... well ... "FUN" per those in this thread and
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#40
the movie will be a fail, i did not post in the other thread. an OP telling me i am not allowed to
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#44
media and pr hyped it as a huge ass giglle about middle aged women getting off on sexual abuse
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#130
the movie is for public consumption. if it stayed behind closed doors in the bedroom, and not
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#12
of course people have the right to call the shit out for what it is, whether it is because they
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#15
it is rape and torture of a woman for others entertainment. people certainly have the right to
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#19
ah, now you are trying to demonize me with vague innuendo of guilt from fathom posts?
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#33
again, a fail. this is an OP telling people they are not allowed to say anything about a woman raped
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#47
whatever natural. you did not actually address anything i posted and spent your time fabricating
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#55
thank you. all these thought police telling us we are not even allowed to speak. i tell you.
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#49
Yeah, and I have the right to disagree with your disagreement...ad infinitum.
whathehell
Jul 2014
#63
I'm afraid the First Amendment does allow other people to "warn" you if they can
treestar
Jul 2014
#69
Your issue is with the word "warn" in a headline of a story about a book? For that you decided
Squinch
Jul 2014
#263
if it has to do with the sexual abuse and denigration of our girls and woman, we certainly have the
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#22
YOU gave me the link to the other thread about the movie being SPECIFICALLY what this OP is about.
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#36
and again, link to where i told anyone what to do.... you and others in this thread were the ones
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#51
Yes, we've adopted such a kneejerk fear of censorship, which doesn't apply here, anyway,
whathehell
Jul 2014
#95
Wait - I just read upthread the the BDSM in the book was consensual. Was it or wasnt it?
Flatulo
Jul 2014
#310
Hey I'd like to argue that we should invade Iran, Syria and Iraq. That'd be fun to me.
el_bryanto
Jul 2014
#171
And there's a reason why people consider 50 shades of grey not really a true depiction of BSDM.
el_bryanto
Jul 2014
#219
Looks like some have an issue with the poster, not the post content. Absurd. And prime example...
wyldwolf
Jul 2014
#105
I disagree with the alert. But the OP does completely miss the point of the other threads. n/t
nomorenomore08
Jul 2014
#285
I thought that the books were about that, too. Turns out, they are not...
Luminous Animal
Jul 2014
#268
theaters near me were bullied into not showing 'Last Temptation of Christ' in the 80s
wyldwolf
Jul 2014
#116
There must be a lot of people bored with their sex lives because the books were so popular.
Louisiana1976
Jul 2014
#207
Yup. Criticize all you want, but don't you DARE get in my way or in if I choose to go see it. nt
Bonobo
Jul 2014
#115
One night I watched a movie entitled "Secretary" with Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader
Skidmore
Jul 2014
#114
It's my belief that the author basically ripped off "Secretary" and made it into a book
arcane1
Jul 2014
#262
A movie that annoys the Christian teabaggers AND the sex-negative feminists?
davidn3600
Jul 2014
#123
in the future when we state your OPs are about "annoying" the feminists, kindly remember this
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#136
No...I just find sex-negative feminists to be as socially oppressive as tea baggers
davidn3600
Jul 2014
#139
yes, i understand your repeated use of sex negative is to annoy feminist, using their sexuality
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#144
you made specific false accusations about me, and when refuted you now make false accusations that
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#153
yes. i called to attention your continued efforts to annoy feminists cause it is ..... fun
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#161
Of course it is, although I know men can be "brutalized & demeaned" as well.
whathehell
Jul 2014
#288
Do Women feel the book or movie is misogynistic? if so, then it is and I wont watch...
randys1
Jul 2014
#129
then trashing and saying wtf..... as media hyped the pr sales. it gets a 2 rating out of 5 stars.
seabeyond
Jul 2014
#138
Sex sells. And people were curious. But I know women who wished they hadn't wasted their money.
pnwmom
Jul 2014
#243
Some probably do, others probably don't -- women are not a hive mind.
Michigander_Life
Jul 2014
#137
because no true "liberal" would disagree with Morality in Media, Phylis Shlafly, and Rick Santorum?
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#232
I dont think the book is liberal. I suspect it is, at best, exceptionally shitty writing.
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#248
(Text NSFW or anyone upset by sex). I personally believe that deriving sexual pleasure
Zorra
Jul 2014
#167
A) I don't feel qualified to determine if a reasonably healthy, well rounded individual is
Zorra
Jul 2014
#299
It's fanfiction for christsakes. Those aren't consenting adults, they're actors.
bravenak
Jul 2014
#175
45 people believe two consenting adults shouldn't be berated and belittled for their sexual choices
Michigander_Life
Jul 2014
#193
So that they come from a fictional novel adapted into a movie makes no difference?
BainsBane
Jul 2014
#212
What the fuck does that mean? There's no *actual sex* involved here; it's fiction
muriel_volestrangler
Jul 2014
#204
No, I haven't noticed that; that appears to be the problem with your OP
muriel_volestrangler
Jul 2014
#218
People like dumb book, people complain about those liking book, people complain about complainers
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#235
Right. And welcome to DU. It can be in the living room, the kitchen, the dining room,
Louisiana1976
Jul 2014
#214
Sorry. My toothless old wheezy geezer voice works better with words like "sonny", that's all
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#287
Once the giant robots start battling the extra dimensional sea monsters, it gets better.
Warren DeMontague
Jul 2014
#249
even if there are more than 2 consenting adults its not anyone else's business
samsingh
Jul 2014
#257
There are no posts in which anyone says they have a problem with what consenting adults do. This is
Squinch
Jul 2014
#259
"This is some kind of weird argument he's having with the mommy in his head"
whathehell
Jul 2014
#266
If the book hadn't appealed to a large group's sexual fantasies, it wouldn't have been a best seller
Blaukraut
Jul 2014
#276
The book reviews were suggested 50 shades of boredom. I don't need that in my bedroom.
In_The_Wind
Jul 2014
#277
And what a reader reads in the privacy of her bedroom isn't our business, either
mainer
Jul 2014
#290