Consensual BDSM does not equal rape and sexual torture.

[moriah]

43. I never said that, I discussed yours and others making casual sweeping statements about BDSM.

Like this:

"I also think we know that rich, powerful men are rarely sexually dominant. They are more likely to be submissive, whereas men who feel powerless in their own lives are more likely to seek to regain power through sexual domination of a partner."

I've held the whip for many a man who made less than I did, and their reasons for being sexually submissive had as little to do with their socio-economic status as my reasons for only occasionally "switching" and being primarily submissive myself. True, rich men can afford professional dommes and to call phone sex lines, and there are more men who are willing to be submissive and dominant for free, so women rarely have to pay whichever side of the whip they happen to prefer being on. But you are catering to myths which are not always true, and are sometimes offensive, when you say things like that like they are "known" facts.

Because they aren't. I don't fit any mold I've found yet, and I resent people putting me and others who enjoy a bit of kink in neat little boxes.