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CaptainTruth

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138. This Dom ...

Sun Jul 27, 2014, 06:08 PM

Jul 2014

... would like to thank you for trying. Many people who are not "into it" will never understand, & I consider that to be their loss. On the other hand, as you probably know, many people don't discover Dom/sub (D/s) play until later in life (in their 40s or 50s) after many years of not understanding it. I think you'll agree it's one of those things that must be experienced to really be understood. Many times a person will have an experience with it & that will open up a whole new world of possibilities (& feelings) that they never knew existed. Exciting new realms of sensation & emotion to explore.

I have not read "that book" because everyone in the community I spoke to about it said it was awful & did not represent a real-life D/s-M/s relationship, it was more the story of an abusive control freak, not a responsible Dom. If that's true, my concern is that people will see the movie (or read the book) & think "so that's what BDSM is all about," ... & they'll be utterly wrong. Instead of a helpful "how-to" guide it'll be an unhelpful "how-not-to" guide.

And for the purposes of this discussion, perhaps my screen name should be MasterTruth ... LOL ...

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Fifty Shades of Grey depicts RAPE and has been criticized by BDSM advocates [View all] BainsBane Jul 2014 OP

K & R In_The_Wind Jul 2014 #1

Trailer yuiyoshida Jul 2014 #180

"Red and "yellow" are the safe words they use. He does not break into her house. msanthrope Jul 2014 #2

Not according to the synopsis BainsBane Jul 2014 #3

I read the book, Bane. I didn't rely on a synopsis. I can tell you exactly why msanthrope Jul 2014 #4

+1000 Katashi_itto Jul 2014 #5

How about that? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jul 2014 #52

I didn't claim to be an expert BainsBane Jul 2014 #61

Two years ago? pintobean Jul 2014 #72

almost two years. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #104

Then, maybe it was almost a grudge. /nt pintobean Jul 2014 #113

I don't know. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #114

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #148

+1 BuddhaGirl Jul 2014 #56

This message was self-deleted by its author krawhitham Jul 2014 #59

Which version did you read? BainsBane Jul 2014 #77

The published kindle version. Still no rape. nt msanthrope Jul 2014 #182

I guess you didn't bother reading my post BainsBane Jul 2014 #193

Oh, I read your post. You still haven't read any version. nt msanthrope Jul 2014 #197

God, no BainsBane Jul 2014 #229

Well, it would inform your argument more. There is a rape...but since you didn't bother msanthrope Jul 2014 #233

I'll do a search of academic databases to see what I turn up BainsBane Jul 2014 #234

Oh sure....you let me know what academic mental masturbation from journals you find. nt msanthrope Jul 2014 #235

Ah, yes. The anti-intellectualism BainsBane Jul 2014 #239

You are directing that insult towards a woman with three graduate degrees. A woman who msanthrope Jul 2014 #249

I will join the person you are having this discussion with nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #263

Chronicling the emotional abuse and nonconsensual sexual violence by feminists and BDSM researchers, Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #265

I am reading the book right now nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #269

I told you that I had read some of it. At least 6-7 chapters of the first and a sample of chapters Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #273

What Ana is, well an immature teen nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #274

Except in her head which expresses over and over again that she is frightened. And after Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #277

And you are giving her all kinds of free marketing nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #279

Indeed. The oppressed should just shut the fuck up and then magically the oppressor will stop Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #281

Well, if that is what you take from this discussion nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #283

You flat out stated that I am giving her free marketing. How do you suggest I stop doing that? Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #286

The controversy has, there is nothing you, or anybody else can do nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #295

Has there ever been ANY realistic MSM portrayal of BDSM? eridani Jul 2014 #212

I doubt one could publish such a work of fiction. riqster Jul 2014 #303

The premise of the book was so stupid, I couldn't even finish reading it. justice1 Jul 2014 #177

Yes, the zip code of the person buying it. /nt Marr Jul 2014 #226

What are you saying? nt msanthrope Jul 2014 #236

The synopsis is wrong. It is consensual mainer Jul 2014 #9

At the end of the first book. bravenak Jul 2014 #11

Yeah, it's stupid. I can't believe people even bother attacking it. mainer Jul 2014 #16

Most fanfic writers are awesome. bravenak Jul 2014 #17

She didn't sign the contract until chapter 14. The rape depicted in the OP Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #67

So that rape isn't entirely invented BainsBane Jul 2014 #78

Nope. And he does break into her place. Or rather, Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #90

Thanks. BainsBane Jul 2014 #154

Someone published a journal article analyzing the behavior of a fictional character? Drahthaardogs Jul 2014 #192

Ever take a literature course? BainsBane Jul 2014 #241

Ah, it has now become apparent that you do not understand what a Journal Article represents Drahthaardogs Jul 2014 #260

Of course not, what would I know BainsBane Jul 2014 #294

Well of course you do. Drahthaardogs Jul 2014 #332

Lol pintobean Jul 2014 #336

Not quite lex Luthor V Superman nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #270

Acting like a contract actually means anything is one of the things I have against this book. moriah Jul 2014 #98

I don't know, it seems pretty "rapey" to me Revanchist Jul 2014 #6

I'm telling you now: Give up. They do not care. redqueen Jul 2014 #12

Redqueen, as a feminist, I find your accusations offensive and facile. msanthrope Jul 2014 #15

Even if it is consensual sex it still begs the question as to why people are aroused by it . . . kickitup Jul 2014 #19

Great post, thanks. Zorra Jul 2014 #22

I don't think it's cultural or patriarchal, pipoman Jul 2014 #247

Maybe so, maybe not. But I don't believe that comparing human behavior with the behavior of Zorra Jul 2014 #258

+1 treestar Jul 2014 #28

I'm not masochistic, but I am submissive. moriah Jul 2014 #37

Well I admit I don't understand it treestar Jul 2014 #39

Controlled painful stimulation releases endorphins, sometimes quite intensely. moriah Jul 2014 #40

Good information treestar Jul 2014 #42

You never had a wild night and just wanted to smack that! snooper2 Jul 2014 #251

+a zillion lunasun Jul 2014 #178

If it bothers you that you like it, either don't practice it or see a therapist. moriah Jul 2014 #32

and don't think about it? BainsBane Jul 2014 #84

She said it bothered HER that she was aroused by it. moriah Jul 2014 #87

It doesn't bother me to the point of seeing a therapist . . . Jesus Christ. kickitup Jul 2014 #129

You're not supposed to judge sexual activity or desire BainsBane Jul 2014 #162

I would never tell someone who had not asked for my advice BainsBane Jul 2014 #163

Jury results. pintobean Jul 2014 #100

Wow, first time I think I've been alerted on. moriah Jul 2014 #101

I didn't alert anyone about your post. I also didn't ask you to tell me why I'm aroused by anything kickitup Jul 2014 #131

I didn't say it needed to bother you. kickitup Jul 2014 #130

Yet some are aroused at the idea of whipping their spouse, and so is their spouse, and they.... moriah Jul 2014 #133

You are really making some assumptions that I don't think my original post merits. kickitup Jul 2014 #139

Your post, while claiming to not be from the morality police, pretty much asked ... moriah Jul 2014 #140

The assumption you are making and that I was alluding to is about my sexuality. kickitup Jul 2014 #156

Why do some people like hot peppers? Does it really matter? mainer Jul 2014 #36

and not everyone sees self-reflection BainsBane Jul 2014 #85

Yeah, I really need to spend a lifetime wondering about chili peppers mainer Jul 2014 #86

I certainly don't, and as someone with a graduate degree in literary studies I have been trained . . kickitup Jul 2014 #136

I see it as part of BainsBane Jul 2014 #166

I'll navel gaze at whatever I like. kickitup Jul 2014 #132

Your post was thoughtful BainsBane Jul 2014 #165

For me the answer to this is easy. Notafraidtoo Jul 2014 #102

I had heard/read that the popularity Puzzledtraveller Jul 2014 #211

May I offer you an answer? nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #276

Wow! Imagine that! NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #57

I tried to read it but it set off sirens of triggers. Ohio State researchers did a great job Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #127

"Christian Gray" is a fictional character ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #173

Humbert Humbert is a fictional character. Z_I_Peevey Jul 2014 #194

Being as fictional characters are ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #203

I can assure you I do. Z_I_Peevey Jul 2014 #214

This was not a discussion ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #221

Apparently we also disagree on what 'discussion' means. Z_I_Peevey Jul 2014 #237

Then why does anyone bother to study literature, let alone for years and years cui bono Jul 2014 #217

I am not saying characters cannot be studied. NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #222

Ohio State researchers exposed the normalization of abuse. And their point we are the component of Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #218

This topic is very obviously upsetting you. NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #220

Such compassion BainsBane Jul 2014 #231

I ended my discussion with LuminousAnimal ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #261

I was not upset by the exchange WE were having. I read some of the book but better still Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #262

No, I didn't think it was our ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #267

As a feminist I object to the sexualization of abusive behavior. I do not object to mutual agreed Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #268

"If engaging in such activism is futile ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #271

I can and will protest against portrayals of abused women as normal. As have any other oppressed Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #275

I am not questioning what you do ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #278

Well, I've reached three people via PM, none of which have posted on this thread, which is not Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #280

The people who have read this book ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #282

The people who enjoyed minstrel shows and the black people who participated in them Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #284

That's a pretty ridiculous comparison ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #285

Illustrate how it is a ridiculous comparison. Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #287

Uh, no. NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #288

Thanks for admitting that you can't. Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #290

There is a difference between "can't" and "won't". NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #291

Indeed. I understand that you won't. Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #293

What might be fine in one's fantasy life Warpy Jul 2014 #292

My only disagreement is piss poor writing nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #272

I suggest you read the whole scene as opposed to cherry-picked msanthrope Jul 2014 #13

Isn't this also after she knows she can safeword? moriah Jul 2014 #26

She knows she can say no. The safeword happens later, when she consents to msanthrope Jul 2014 #49

A bit OT ... NanceGreggs Jul 2014 #228

What version did you read, It has been revised 3 or 4 times krawhitham Jul 2014 #60

Thankfully, we have BDSM experts who speak for everyone invloved in the activity AngryAmish Jul 2014 #7

I thought it was all consensual in the book mainer Jul 2014 #8

If the synopsis accurately depicted events in the book I would agree with you. But ... 11 Bravo Jul 2014 #10

I applaud you for trying. redqueen Jul 2014 #14

Really? hootinholler Jul 2014 #69

Interesting how the rape you claim never occured BainsBane Jul 2014 #81

You know he can't reply to you pintobean Jul 2014 #82

BDSM advocates maced666 Jul 2014 #18

Generally speaking, the subs in the relationship hold the power The Straight Story Jul 2014 #21

It's not worth trying. It's amazing how many people who aren't into BDSM find it so easy... moriah Jul 2014 #24

No no, I don't pretend to know anything about it. maced666 Jul 2014 #43

This Dom ... CaptainTruth Jul 2014 #138

What you have said conforms pretty much with many of the articles BainsBane Jul 2014 #143

Evidently exploring one's emotions in regard to sex is a reason to see a therapist . . . kickitup Jul 2014 #158

I wish there were more Doms around :p darkangel218 Jul 2014 #161

Not familiar with collarme ... CaptainTruth Jul 2014 #215

Yet you get offended when I suggest we examine these things. kickitup Jul 2014 #157

A question about submissives. mainer Jul 2014 #244

This is what several female subs have told me. CaptainTruth Jul 2014 #248

I'm disabled, my partner has a lot more IRL responsibility. moriah Jul 2014 #250

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #20

So you haven't actually read the book then. zappaman Jul 2014 #23

Nor have all the people who posted in support of the book BainsBane Jul 2014 #62

Don't like it? 99Forever Jul 2014 #25

Don't like Fox News, don't watch it. Problem solved BainsBane Jul 2014 #70

Ahhh... 99Forever Jul 2014 #89

Nope, just pointing out an obvious contradiction BainsBane Jul 2014 #91

I already gave you my response. It was my first post in this thread. 99Forever Jul 2014 #96

Define what "impos(ing) (one's) tastes on everyone else" is. alp227 Jul 2014 #146

Oh please. 99Forever Jul 2014 #151

Well, define what your phrase about imposing tastes means! Burden of proof is on the speaker, always alp227 Jul 2014 #153

You apparently ... 99Forever Jul 2014 #159

Does anyone have the jury results pintobean Jul 2014 #27

+1 treestar Jul 2014 #29

I would like to see it too Harmony Blue Jul 2014 #30

Apparently it's mission accomplished hootinholler Jul 2014 #38

Has the OP deleted embarassing posts before? nt MannyGoldstein Jul 2014 #47

Not all of them. /nt pintobean Jul 2014 #48

Especially when they have had their ass handed to them. hootinholler Jul 2014 #63

Yup Katashi_itto Jul 2014 #238

Yeah. Why was that hidden? Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #41

+1 nt Zorra Jul 2014 #45

Here are the jury results for LadyHawkAZ's hidden post pintobean Jul 2014 #55

Sadly it just proves that there are some people who can't handle mythology Jul 2014 #76

Agree. Here's another - Hoot's pintobean Jul 2014 #80

+1, yes-- incredibly hypocritical. Marr Jul 2014 #227

Jury decisions seem to have come down to My Clique vs. Your Clique. nm rhett o rick Jul 2014 #253

Indeed In_The_Wind Jul 2014 #259

yes and my last two are testimony to that end. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #306

And Clique A wields a lot of power. They seem to be more dedicated. Just sayin'. nm rhett o rick Jul 2014 #312

They have a lot of players in positions of power Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #317

Her last two had nothing to do with cliques pintobean Jul 2014 #337

I hope you aren't pretending that you don't recognize that one group here rhett o rick Jul 2014 #338

Ah, that word "dismissive", seen that tossed about a bit The Straight Story Jul 2014 #116

Horrible hide. It's agenda driven, look at the wording. one_voice Jul 2014 #141

Yes, it's agenda driven. pintobean Jul 2014 #142

Right. Complaining about the mention of Dworkin while simultaenously pulling "MRA" out of thin air. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #187

Who in the hell alerted on that?? Sissyk Jul 2014 #196

Right?!?... one_voice Jul 2014 #202

There are some people in this world, Sissyk Jul 2014 #206

That was a malicious alert. Buying a clue for Juror #1 Violet_Crumble Jul 2014 #240

Terrible hide. zappaman Jul 2014 #313

I'm with you pintobean. nm rhett o rick Jul 2014 #252

Trying to shame and control what women like and want to do Harmony Blue Jul 2014 #31

And how exactly am I "trying to shame women"? BainsBane Jul 2014 #71

False equivalence - when women are conned into liking a book that allegedly glamourizes rape... alp227 Jul 2014 #147

Wow pintobean Jul 2014 #150

women are "conned into liking a book"? Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #188

Slick marketing and taking advantage of a populace that is not well-informed about sex, alp227 Jul 2014 #189

I don't buy it. I seriously doubt you can blame the popularity of 50 shades on 'abstinence only' Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #190

Regardless, my OP makes no comment on what women should or shouldn't 't like BainsBane Jul 2014 #191

You have not read it, have you? nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #299

I have to laugh Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #33

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #34

I told you in that other thread not to post random wiki-structured websites LittleBlue Jul 2014 #35

Actually one person read it and criticizes it BainsBane Jul 2014 #64

it is only a story right? samsingh Jul 2014 #44

Do you believe that pedophilia fiction is OK? CBGLuthier Jul 2014 #50

I'm going to need a citation on that. Last time I read any pedophilia fiction it was not only... JVS Jul 2014 #54

Sigh. "Lolita" is actually about Old Europe and Young America REP Jul 2014 #73

And pedophilia relates how to consensual activities among Adults of decision-making age? brooklynite Jul 2014 #79

It relates to the point that because it is fictional it does not hurt anyone. CBGLuthier Jul 2014 #107

Perhaps if YOU "read the thing" brooklynite Jul 2014 #164

i don't think pedophile fiction is acceptable samsingh Jul 2014 #103

Nope, but according to another OP BainsBane Jul 2014 #95

So sick of this shit Z_California Jul 2014 #46

Please, don't judge all DU feminists by the random opinions of a few. Zorra Jul 2014 #53

There are at lest three different versions of the book BainsBane Jul 2014 #66

I asked a guy at the bookstore about the trilogy mainer Jul 2014 #97

thank you samsingh Jul 2014 #105

No they aren't in book burning territory treestar Jul 2014 #124

Haven't read it.. have no plans to read it..for one simple reason Peacetrain Jul 2014 #51

I enjoyed Dave Barry's comments. LWolf Jul 2014 #58

OMG that is fookin' hilarious..... MADem Jul 2014 #65

I thought so. LWolf Jul 2014 #68

The "spoiler" bit is fricken PRICELESS...... MADem Jul 2014 #75

I can't get the video to play BainsBane Jul 2014 #83

I have not, will not, read it. If it is nonconsensual, that is wrong and bullshit. If consensual, uppityperson Jul 2014 #74

eh Adam051188 Jul 2014 #88

This demands Kirsten Wiig's SNL skit... mainer Jul 2014 #92

Okay...I nearly peed myself watching that! nt msanthrope Jul 2014 #181

So in this case, the BDSM community has a voice worth listening to? Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #93

Can you provide links of such arguments? BainsBane Jul 2014 #94

I didnt. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #99

You didn't attribute them to me BainsBane Jul 2014 #108

Nope. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #110

Then I suggest you take your charges of hypocrisy BainsBane Jul 2014 #118

It makes perfect sense in the larger discussion, since you brought up the BDSM community. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #121

Then I suggest you consult a dictionary for the meaning of the word hypocrisy BainsBane Jul 2014 #149

I haven't said anyone is "all the same", nor have I accused you of hypocrisy. Warren DeMontague Jul 2014 #152

Actually your OP criticizes a work of fiction. A book. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #115

Yes, but yesterday you seemed to think the controversy was about BainsBane Jul 2014 #117

Entirely different context. NaturalHigh Jul 2014 #120

Is there some reason you had the impression I believed BainsBane Jul 2014 #144

Let's get something straight (no puns intended) the BSDM "Community" is outraged at this OP. rhett o rick Jul 2014 #254

This is basically like saying that porn isn't a realistic portrayal of sex (duh!) Hippo_Tron Jul 2014 #106

Lots of books depict rape My Good Babushka Jul 2014 #109

Who said anything about banning the book? BainsBane Jul 2014 #112

The BDSM community has no special claim to literary criticism. nt. My Good Babushka Jul 2014 #119

From one non-sequitur to another BainsBane Jul 2014 #123

I'm responding to the OP My Good Babushka Jul 2014 #128

Kick & recommended. William769 Jul 2014 #111

Thanks, William BainsBane Jul 2014 #122

Pardon my Language, but no fucking bullies are going to run me off. William769 Jul 2014 #125

Recommend. Rape apologists? Wow. LexVegas Jul 2014 #126

As an aside to the above, and possibly worth noting in discussions around this: Spider Jerusalem Jul 2014 #134

Read Jenny Trout's chapter-by-chapter 'recaps' of 50 Shades Z_I_Peevey Jul 2014 #135

I like Jenny's critique but I like this woman's better Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #155

Yes, thank you--quite lengthy but well presented. Z_I_Peevey Jul 2014 #175

I read the book. newcriminal Jul 2014 #137

Many who have read the book disagree with you BainsBane Jul 2014 #145

I got my book. newcriminal Jul 2014 #160

Paperback version? BainsBane Jul 2014 #167

So your op is either misleading or just wrong. newcriminal Jul 2014 #168

Based on your interpetation? BainsBane Jul 2014 #169

Right go ahead and start crap about a book that you haven't even read. newcriminal Jul 2014 #171

None of the other OPs about this book, except for one, have read it either BainsBane Jul 2014 #176

I'm talking about your ORIGINAL POST you said," newcriminal Jul 2014 #179

Others who have read the book disagree BainsBane Jul 2014 #183

Again YOU are hiding behind other's views about a book you haven't even read. newcriminal Jul 2014 #185

I have read the real book. Not some online version which no longer exists. mainer Jul 2014 #242

I don't actually know BainsBane Jul 2014 #245

There was a rape for sure... one_voice Jul 2014 #170

This was discussed in the book, it didn't take place in the book. The op is about Christian newcriminal Jul 2014 #172

I understand that... one_voice Jul 2014 #174

16 threads on this on the first page of GD. All gone now. Let's make it 17. Bye! Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #184

There have been several since mine was posted BainsBane Jul 2014 #186

I don't give a shit, either way. Quantess Jul 2014 #195

"Fifty Shades of Grey depicts RAPE and has been criticized by BDSM advocates"...... Sissyk Jul 2014 #198

Why do you feel compelled to leave a note for a jury? BainsBane Jul 2014 #199

I don't think a jury would hide. Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #200

I can't see why anyone would alert BainsBane Jul 2014 #205

And that's when they get you. Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #207

So true BainsBane Jul 2014 #210

Because I can. Sissyk Jul 2014 #201

Not my term BainsBane Jul 2014 #204

You are the one that repeated that term. Sissyk Jul 2014 #208

Yes, since it was used in the one OP BainsBane Jul 2014 #209

This is a different OP. Is it not? Yours? Sissyk Jul 2014 #213

It isn't in my OP. BainsBane Jul 2014 #225

But you wouldn't know if the author read the book zappaman Jul 2014 #223

Go tell that to others have posted about it BainsBane Jul 2014 #224

I don't need trash in my life. 840high Jul 2014 #216

i had to look it up to see what all the hoopla was for. "erotic romance novel" ok, a fiction story. Sunlei Jul 2014 #219

As soon as I heard of this book... Roy Serohz Jul 2014 #230

I can count on one hand the books I was unable to finish... bobGandolf Jul 2014 #232

The book was wildly popular in Europe. mainer Jul 2014 #243

That may be true in real life BainsBane Jul 2014 #246

I have never read the book but have been with a lot of women who have. dilby Jul 2014 #255

Is "Blurred Lines" on the soundtrack? KamaAina Jul 2014 #256

Let me see if I get your point here. You are outraged about a book that you haven't read. rhett o rick Jul 2014 #257

I'd say you missed the point quite completely BainsBane Jul 2014 #289

You haven't yet given me a valid point. If you wanted to say that criticism of the book and film rhett o rick Jul 2014 #325

How does that article disparage the BDSM community? BainsBane Jul 2014 #327

huh? What makes you ask that? nm rhett o rick Jul 2014 #333

Here BainsBane Jul 2014 #335

You got it nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #297

You are not qualified to speak for me BainsBane Jul 2014 #300

I am not talking for you, I am talking for me (how not progressive) nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #301

There is a vast body of academic feminist scholarship regarding romance novels. Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #315

Of course it makes no sense (Like always) nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #316

Rape... Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #318

Unlike you, I have read two thirds of the book already nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #319

Rape... Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #320

What part of I am bothering with the actual book are you still nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #323

You really have to read it yourself. newcriminal Jul 2014 #328

It is truly bizarre, planting the flag on something they have not even nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #330

That is fine don't read it, but don't keep insisting that you know what is in there if you haven't. newcriminal Jul 2014 #331

I really do not get what the objective of this is nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #334

In in which Ohio State researchers outline 3 insistences of non-consenual sexual violence... Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #321

Again, same piece you keep throwing when people tell you nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #322

Somehow, I don't think de Sade used 'safe words' JCMach1 Jul 2014 #264

Indeed. A friend of mine was murdered while hanging from her restraints. Luminous Animal Jul 2014 #266

the book should be retitled "the vapid and the sociopath". nt Javaman Jul 2014 #296

That would be a good tittle nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #298

Don't read the book then AgingAmerican Jul 2014 #302

Yeah, way to miss the point BainsBane Jul 2014 #304

Why do you keep insisting that there is a rape in the book? newcriminal Jul 2014 #305

I know, it's ridiculous BuddhaGirl Jul 2014 #307

The thought police AgingAmerican Jul 2014 #310

Narrative driven folk tend to be drama queens AgingAmerican Jul 2014 #309

While in college nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #314

So you haven't read it? AgingAmerican Jul 2014 #308

I will have to ask you where is the rape nadinbrzezinski Jul 2014 #311

You said "hard". Kaleva Jul 2014 #329

I gotta ask cwydro Jul 2014 #324

Fifty Shades of Grey is Fiction... gcomeau Jul 2014 #326