Donations to Internet Personas - A Good Idea?

[MADem]

26. I'm not admonishing you for taking the side of the supposedly needy.

I'm admonishing you for your very own "father knows best" attitude towards MM's post. I mean, really, you have the nerve to admonish the guy with

8. Who cares about your strategy for giving to DUers who reach out for help?


and you expect anyone to care about YOUR feelings after that wet turd of a post? Who's playing daddy, here?

I think you read too much into what you believe is a person's "tone" -- but you just might be dead wrong about that. I didn't see him "infer" that you don't know what you're doing. I think you "inferred" that all by yourself. That's your fault, not his. He's talking about his POV and soliciting comment. Your response is to tell him to STFU, basically--because you mistakenly believe he's talking about YOU and you think that no one should "care" about what he says.

Then, you double down--you don't like MM's "lecturing" -- but you have no problem lecturing the rest of us with your view about how we should think/feel:

I think DUers are good enough judges of what is a scam and what is not without lectures on how everyone else is doing it wrong.

What about those of us who might not agree with what "you" think? The world does not revolve around YOUR opinions, either.

The person with the "tone" problem is you. This is a discussion board. The object is to discuss topics that people bring up. If you don't want to participate in the conversation, skip the thread. If you don't like the poster's tone, ignore the poster. Or don't. But if you don't, don't try to shut people up and then complain about their "tone." It just comes off as hollow and false if you do.

If you don't like his attitude--and you indicated that you did not--put him on ignore. Then everyone's happy.

When I respond to a post with which I disagree, I know full well I'm kicking it and it will result in further discussion. Your comments about "lecturing or implying" are hostile, frankly. How would you like it if a thread you started was greeted with "I don't like you lecturing or implying to me" about whatever?

You're the one being rude in this exchange, IMO. It's possible to disagree without being disagreeable, but your "You're judgmental, I don't like your tone, DUers don't need to listen to you, you're lecturing, who cares what you think" approach to conversation is personal and frankly, rude. All your comments are about MM, personally, not about the issue he raised, which was verifying the validity of a request for help--as if no one, EVER, anywhere, ever tried to scam people out of their money; like this is unthinkable, and "good liberals" would never do such a thing. The truth of the matter is, that people all over the world do this kind of thing--we've had posts here on DU about waitresses falsely claiming orientation discrimination and getting tens of thousands in donations from those "soft hearted liberals." Everyone's heard a story or ten about someone who faked cancer, or worse, shaved their kid's head and faked it by proxy. People DO lie. People DO prey on other people. To start a thread to talk about it is NOT a crime, and your "inferences" that MM is somehow a lecturing, evil scold for bringing it up and asking for input is just wrong.

I hope I've articulated my POV with sufficient clarity. Please let me know if there's any aspect that is unclear.