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cyberswede

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95. It happened to me just this summer...

Tue Aug 12, 2014, 05:24 PM

Aug 2014

I was walking to my car, alone, at 5:15 in the afternoon. Two college-aged guys made some crude remark or another...I don't even recall the details, but it was sexual in nature. Which is really weird, because I'm probably old enough to have been their mother. WTF? Creepy.

It happened to me all the time when I was young - probably starting when I was about 12 or 13 - usually when I was alone or with one other girl. It continued, regularly, all through jr high, high school & college. And I'm talking about strangers on the street saying inappropriate things...not even the countless times it happened in bars, or by acquaintances being "funny."

Of course not all men do this, but enough do.

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These are the things men say to women on the street [View all] Liberal_in_LA Aug 2014 OP

I'll never forget the punk who yelled, "Gonna rape you!" as he drove past me. SunSeeker Aug 2014 #1

An old cartoon (2010), but appropriate n2doc Aug 2014 #2

good one Liberal_in_LA Aug 2014 #40

That's my favorite Warpy Aug 2014 #102

Where does this happen? SnakeEyes Aug 2014 #3

The bus stop is where I got harassed the most. CrispyQ Aug 2014 #5

This comic describes the reason for that redqueen Aug 2014 #6

"...based on the problematic idea that public spaces are actually men's spaces." CrispyQ Aug 2014 #7

I don't think that's what's going on hfojvt Aug 2014 #19

What is the source of your statistics? kwassa Aug 2014 #33

and what is the source of anybody else's statistic? hfojvt Aug 2014 #41

"nothing I love better than going out and seeing attractive women out and about." Seeing women, bettyellen Aug 2014 #47

SPOT FUCKING ON redqueen Aug 2014 #49

ding ding ding!!! Ms. Toad Aug 2014 #100

Certainly not Egnever Aug 2014 #109

The world IS ruled by men. CrispyQ Aug 2014 #45

that is such a strange statement hfojvt Aug 2014 #48

You like to see lots of women out and about even if they are uncomfortable by men's overt lewdness? uppityperson Aug 2014 #73

Stuff those words in his mouth Egnever Aug 2014 #111

I wish I ruled the world SnakeEyes Aug 2014 #51

what a great graphic. explains it so well. should be easily understood by anyone on a fourth grade Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #9

My pleasure. redqueen Aug 2014 #10

"He was just trying to compliment you" MadrasT Aug 2014 #11

Not to get into the psychology of it all or, cyber diagnose but, I could venture to guess at Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #13

I think this covers a lot of women: CrispyQ Aug 2014 #17

I don't know why anyone wouldn't. hfojvt Aug 2014 #22

If it were only "you look good" then there wouldn't be such a problem. nomorenomore08 Aug 2014 #29

What if a big, burly guy said it? Tsiyu Aug 2014 #36

I have had guys compliment my legs hfojvt Aug 2014 #44

And I have asked males ... 1StrongBlackMan Aug 2014 #96

I agree. Awesome comic. Thanks. n/t FSogol Aug 2014 #25

This did nothing to answer my question n/t SnakeEyes Aug 2014 #18

Wow. OK. nt redqueen Aug 2014 #20

Seriously? Tsiyu Aug 2014 #39

Doesn't make sense SnakeEyes Aug 2014 #50

There appear to be a lot of things you will never see. n/t Tsiyu Aug 2014 #55

I doubt that there is a woman alive who hasn't sufrommich Aug 2014 #58

the people who are the victims (probably most women) hfojvt Aug 2014 #74

We often see only that which validates our biases, and are blind to those things which do not. LanternWaste Aug 2014 #76

That's a nice thought SnakeEyes Aug 2014 #108

And more ... 1StrongBlackMan Aug 2014 #97

Maybe because people do it to women when you're not around? cyberswede Aug 2014 #53

everywhere and anywhere TorchTheWitch Aug 2014 #8

Every time it every happened to me, MadrasT Aug 2014 #12

I had the same thought. hifiguy Aug 2014 #15

New York city jamzrockz Aug 2014 #23

I know in my case I haven't heard it for two reasons mythology Aug 2014 #35

The point is not to actually pick the woman up. TDale313 Aug 2014 #37

I'm sorry to report... most everywhere. yewberry Aug 2014 #42

It doesn't happen to me any more. LWolf Aug 2014 #46

I was 14 years old... MrMickeysMom Aug 2014 #59

To my great dismay Le Taz Hot Aug 2014 #60

I would venture to guess that most young sufrommich Aug 2014 #61

I don't want a fight, but I agree with you.. OLDMADAM Aug 2014 #72

Man hating? Oh FFS. cyberswede Aug 2014 #79

LOL, of course you do. redqueen Aug 2014 #82

man hating? Seriously? WhollyHeretic Aug 2014 #83

The depths you've plumbed for this are absurd. LanternWaste Aug 2014 #85

Your post has the ring of falsity to it. nt raccoon Aug 2014 #91

Inappropriate talk directed at you by men? Gormy Cuss Aug 2014 #92

Arlington, Texas. The Parks Mall. This past weekend. LanternWaste Aug 2014 #75

Where do you live? Blue_Tires Aug 2014 #77

Since others are sharing their stories I'll share one. redqueen Aug 2014 #84

It can happen anywhere. Gormy Cuss Aug 2014 #87

At school. Starting earlier than most bother thinking about. nt redqueen Aug 2014 #90

everywhere lululu Aug 2014 #89

Usually in my ear where others can't hear it LadyHawkAZ Aug 2014 #93

Let me guess ... 1StrongBlackMan Aug 2014 #94

It happened to me just this summer... cyberswede Aug 2014 #95

Never seen it in real life? How old are you? bullwinkle428 Aug 2014 #107

Wow, they've gotten a lot more crude since I was a young woman. CrispyQ Aug 2014 #4

you really said a mouthful here ... Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #14

Civility is dying a swift death. hifiguy Aug 2014 #16

I think your sigline is quite apt here... nomorenomore08 Aug 2014 #30

Yeah, I suck. Iggo Aug 2014 #21

Why? cyberswede Aug 2014 #54

A form of bullying davidn3600 Aug 2014 #24

My SO gets this shit all teh time Prophet 451 Aug 2014 #26

That is just pathetic. I really hate the human race sometimes. nomorenomore08 Aug 2014 #31

says a lot about the type of people who do that JI7 Aug 2014 #43

I remember my husband and I... SummerSnow Aug 2014 #27

"how would you like a piece of that ass?" hopemountain Aug 2014 #28

Would any sane person consider any of those a "compliment"? nomorenomore08 Aug 2014 #32

Reality... Xolodno Aug 2014 #34

I saw that one too (I'm a sporadic Jezebel reader/commenter). Awesome stuff. nomorenomore08 Aug 2014 #38

REAL Men don't need to prove their Manhood that way HockeyMom Aug 2014 #52

She is a person. KitSileya Aug 2014 #57

I get harassed on the streets De Leonist Aug 2014 #56

"generally speaking" ? cyberswede Aug 2014 #63

I have done it unintentionally.... De Leonist Aug 2014 #65

How does one "cat call unintentionally"? nt sufrommich Aug 2014 #66

Well for me.... De Leonist Aug 2014 #68

That's not really a cat call though. sufrommich Aug 2014 #69

I realize that De Leonist Aug 2014 #70

Thank you for the explanation. cyberswede Aug 2014 #67

I have been with guys who said some pretty offensive things about women DemocratSinceBirth Aug 2014 #62

There is an important word ommitted from your headline: some Electric Monk Aug 2014 #64

I suspect that omission was no accident. 99Forever Aug 2014 #71

You'd have to ask the author of the article, I guess, since that's what the OP used as the title. cyberswede Aug 2014 #81

With all due respect, 99Forever Aug 2014 #98

Huh? cyberswede Aug 2014 #99

Duh. I can't believe anyone thinks this means ALL men (or even most). cyberswede Aug 2014 #80

oh don't you know? It's all about THEM Skittles Aug 2014 #101

There is an important phrase omitted from your title: "my experience" LanternWaste Aug 2014 #86

Not all men! redqueen Aug 2014 #88

i used the article's title Liberal_in_LA Aug 2014 #104

It's true. We are all pigs. KamaAina Aug 2014 #78

And what about the things women pipi_k Aug 2014 #103

good points Liberal_in_LA Aug 2014 #105

Who is pretending that women are innocent of that type of behavior? cyberswede Aug 2014 #106

When you were 12, did adult women cat-call you on the street? pnwmom Aug 2014 #110