General Discussion

liberalhistorian

(20,825 posts)

94. Yes, because no man has ever left

Reply to sendero (Reply #87)

Fri Aug 15, 2014, 04:38 PM

Aug 2014

a "great wife", and certainly not for a younger, prettier model. No sirree, never, ever happened and never will happen.

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

183 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

"Why Great Husbands Are Being Abandoned" [View all] Harmony Blue Aug 2014 OP

People fall out of love. bravenak Aug 2014 #1

Yup. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2014 #3

Lots of folks rush things too much. bravenak Aug 2014 #7

We didn't live together prior to getting engaged JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #15

You certainly dated a lot more than me. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2014 #20

I never JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #23

It was back in the day... Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2014 #30

Hubby and I met online. He was divorced, liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #85

That is a cool story! hifiguy Aug 2014 #95

Are you kidding me! JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #116

I do believe there are several liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #125

That is so cool! JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #140

I have been single after 16 yrs of marriage for nearly as long (HEY I married young!!!) VanillaRhapsody Aug 2014 #129

Your husband's a lucky man BainsBane Aug 2014 #123

Aww, geez, you're making liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #126

DH and I are planning Bettie Aug 2014 #135

And they fall out of love at different times. Kurska Aug 2014 #13

That is so hard to leave somebody that you like, not love. bravenak Aug 2014 #33

I divorced my husband for the same reason. blueamy66 Aug 2014 #61

... SammyWinstonJack Aug 2014 #71

Aww, i'm feeling you. bravenak Aug 2014 #76

Passionate romantic love doesn't last aint_no_life_nowhere Aug 2014 #83

Also, other men are very poor judges of how their friends treat the women in their lives. Warpy Aug 2014 #142

Please tell me that this article is a reprint and originally ran in 1958 Orrex Aug 2014 #2

Nope!! bravenak Aug 2014 #4

She joeglow3 Aug 2014 #47

I though he was a grasseater. bravenak Aug 2014 #48

You are correct. seaglass Aug 2014 #75

Thank you. bravenak Aug 2014 #77

The author of the article was a female joeglow3 Aug 2014 #166

Yes I know. And the OP is male. n/t seaglass Aug 2014 #178

Notice that the verb in that sentence is "finds". nt redqueen Aug 2014 #53

Seek and Ye Shall Find .... Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #161

It's from Psychology Yesterday betsuni Aug 2014 #148

The section that nails it JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #5

I got married at 23 and it lasted 'til death did us part this year. I'm 64. Thus endeth the lesson WinkyDink Aug 2014 #12

You are like my mom JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #17

This message was self-deleted by its author Courtesy Flush Aug 2014 #35

Exactly my thoughts joeglow3 Aug 2014 #49

No - I won't JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #58

I'm sure winkydink IS an adult JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #51

This message was self-deleted by its author Courtesy Flush Aug 2014 #56

It was the married at 23 JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #60

That is BS and you know it joeglow3 Aug 2014 #167

No it was not JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #172

It is a well balanced article Harmony Blue Aug 2014 #155

I think labeling anyone you don't live with and don't really know and are not in a relationship with djean111 Aug 2014 #6

"they’re dumping men who are faithful, attentive, and respectful"---Who says? Not to mention there WinkyDink Aug 2014 #8

This message was self-deleted by its author Courtesy Flush Aug 2014 #52

Who is "we"? nt redqueen Aug 2014 #59

This message was self-deleted by its author Courtesy Flush Aug 2014 #62

Well, goody gum drops for you! liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #88

This message was self-deleted by its author Courtesy Flush Aug 2014 #91

You didn't. mimi85 Aug 2014 #109

Thank you. a la izquierda Aug 2014 #176

she is talking about clients who use her services. Mosby Aug 2014 #122

LOL- " donning armor to fight the dangers that threaten his family and place in the world?" bettyellen Aug 2014 #9

You are the best! JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #26

Thanks darling! bettyellen Aug 2014 #27

LOL ismnotwasm Aug 2014 #10

This seems to describe people who have an unrealistic view of what sort of partner they want. nt el_bryanto Aug 2014 #11

It would actually be a stronger article if it were about people marrying without winter is coming Aug 2014 #16

Yes - that's better said. el_bryanto Aug 2014 #24

But it's not only women who have unrealistic expectations. winter is coming Aug 2014 #28

Psychology Today is good at that liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #89

"the female dream"???!!! I don't need to read the article for more bilgewater. WinkyDink Aug 2014 #14

Truly this article is so much bullshit. Insulting to both men and women. Because my husband is a seaglass Aug 2014 #18

I agree n/t fishwax Aug 2014 #146

yep d_r Aug 2014 #169

Yawn Mr Dixon Aug 2014 #19

...or no pastures at all. cyberswede Aug 2014 #32

sounds good Mr Dixon Aug 2014 #39

There's no such thing for the countless men seeking the perfect mate, either. nt cyberswede Aug 2014 #40

Really Mr Dixon Aug 2014 #42

No. I was merely providing the yin to your yang. cyberswede Aug 2014 #43

LOL Mr Dixon Aug 2014 #54

Hate to burst your fairy-tale liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #90

Had the potential to be an interesting article. stevenleser Aug 2014 #21

I cringe when I hear a woman say she just wants a man to protect her... Tikki Aug 2014 #22

What a load of nonsense off the top of someone's head. Someone not all that bright. Squinch Aug 2014 #25

LOL = Psychology Today has jumped the shark with this. Thanks for the chuckles. n/t Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #29

I wasn't even surprised to see this garbage from PT kcr Aug 2014 #36

I haven't looked at PT in years. Looks like I haven't been missing much. Maybe, a laugh or two Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #50

PT jumped the shark liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #92

I haven't seen one in years. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #162

"abandoned" cyberswede Aug 2014 #31

Sometimes great people are abondoned because they have no intention of marrying. tridim Aug 2014 #34

Define "Great Husband". Is that what someone else thinks he is? haele Aug 2014 #37

YES! Best post here. alp227 Aug 2014 #93

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence ... dawg Aug 2014 #38

Exactly. Men have to stop the Damsel fantasies johnlucas Aug 2014 #84

What? cyberswede Aug 2014 #96

I'm talking about in the context of a relationship, cyberswede johnlucas Aug 2014 #111

How did you learn all that?! A-Schwarzenegger Aug 2014 #124

My eyes & ears. Observation. johnlucas Aug 2014 #173

Here come of the flames...I liked the article. avaistheone1 Aug 2014 #41

If by "flames," you mean critical replies, then they arrived along before your post #41. cyberswede Aug 2014 #45

They aren't critical of the article, as far as I can see. sibelian Aug 2014 #74

I see several critical of the article. cyberswede Aug 2014 #78

does she give any empirical evidence to this? or is it a case of truthiness? La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2014 #44

The number of emotionally laden descriptors says "truthiness". n/t winter is coming Aug 2014 #63

yeah. i had a feeling. La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2014 #66

mostly truthiness, with a healthy dose of codswallop fishwax Aug 2014 #136

OMG what utter bullshit! redqueen Aug 2014 #46

Just my opinion ... dawg Aug 2014 #57

Paula Cole over there wants to know where all the cowboys have gone. Warren DeMontague Aug 2014 #134

"Perhaps these androgynous couples..." And perhaps and perhaps... too fucking stupid. Luminous Animal Aug 2014 #137

Why do I suspect a man wrote that? MineralMan Aug 2014 #55

No, just an older woman whose views haven't changed much with the times. nt redqueen Aug 2014 #65

So it certainly seems. MineralMan Aug 2014 #68

Most women are still invested in maintaining the patriarchy. redqueen Aug 2014 #70

I suppose. Not most of the women I know, but MineralMan Aug 2014 #72

I'm curious, OP, as to what your motivations for posting this here are YoungDemCA Aug 2014 #64

seeing as mercuryblues Aug 2014 #138

He was also the first to Rec his own thread. Mind you, I have been the fifth to Rec on some of my Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #160

How does this argument coincide with the grasseater lifestyle? BainsBane Aug 2014 #67

Why is it called the "grasseater" lifestyle? redqueen Aug 2014 #73

Wikipedia BainsBane Aug 2014 #81

Yeah, it seems ro have different meanings. Seems to me the MGTOW should stick with that term. redqueen Aug 2014 #86

She assumes the 'female dream' is to have a 'great husband' leftstreet Aug 2014 #69

Horsepucky wryter2000 Aug 2014 #79

"Female Dream" Glassunion Aug 2014 #80

And that's why Marriage is Dead. If you want someone to count on, get a dog johnlucas Aug 2014 #82

I could tell you why... sendero Aug 2014 #87

Yes, because no man has ever left liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #94

lol... Blue_Roses Aug 2014 #120

lol redqueen Aug 2014 #100

I can't help but notice BainsBane Aug 2014 #103

I've noticed that too. redqueen Aug 2014 #110

Marriage has evolved considerably over the centuries BainsBane Aug 2014 #97

Because they rec their own threads. Starry Messenger Aug 2014 #98

Ha, that reminds me of the one time I did that... redqueen Aug 2014 #99

You aren't suggesting anyone else might be a hypocrite, are you? BainsBane Aug 2014 #101

Heavens, no! redqueen Aug 2014 #105

Yeah, quiet in this thread today, isn't it? Starry Messenger Aug 2014 #102

Glad no one was around when I read that... redqueen Aug 2014 #106

Results of your Jury Service. NYC_SKP Aug 2014 #113

Holy shit, juror 4... redqueen Aug 2014 #114

... NYC_SKP Aug 2014 #118

Good gravy, someone liberalhistorian Aug 2014 #154

They're like Detroit! Warren DeMontague Aug 2014 #104

"Female dream" MadrasT Aug 2014 #107

Well, I doubt that I am a great husband, riqster Aug 2014 #108

I can't help it, I have to laugh some more at this shitfest... redqueen Aug 2014 #112

I am still trying to get past "The veritable saint with balls is as elusive as ever." I need to seaglass Aug 2014 #131

Saint Balls is my favorite saint. Warren DeMontague Aug 2014 #133

I went to that island d_r Aug 2014 #170

I am TOTALLY changing my online dating user name to that! bullwinkle428 Aug 2014 #151

This message was self-deleted by its author BainsBane Aug 2014 #141

From a member of the group that brought you the diagnosis of nymphomania. merrily Aug 2014 #115

People are trading in their cell phones on a monthly basis ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2014 #117

Serial monogamy loyalsister Aug 2014 #119

I'm still trying to piece together just exactly Blue_Roses Aug 2014 #121

Marriage is an outdated, counterproductive institution tabasco Aug 2014 #127

Sigh DonCoquixote Aug 2014 #128

"the female dream" Skittles Aug 2014 #130

Is a saint with balls apparently. :-) n/t seaglass Aug 2014 #132

Santo De Juevos Warren DeMontague Aug 2014 #145

That article is just dumb treestar Aug 2014 #139

Yep, VERY dumb. Surprisingly devoid of anything resembling data. nt stevenleser Aug 2014 #143

I only mind when they're left out on the front lawn to rust on cinder blocks. Warren DeMontague Aug 2014 #144

Is there a reason you posted this MRA fapfiction on DU? nt LeftyMom Aug 2014 #147

This is actually originally from the Harmony Blue Aug 2014 #153

gladly DonCoquixote Aug 2014 #157

So why are you using clickbait from the sideboobpost? You still haven't said. LeftyMom Aug 2014 #177

"ideal marriage"-is subjective Chimeradog Aug 2014 #149

Why Great Thread Is Being Abandoned A-Schwarzenegger Aug 2014 #150

I call BS on this entire article. Nt abelenkpe Aug 2014 #152

Heck I just smacks my wimmen around and rolls 'em over at night, and they don't give me no problums. Zorra Aug 2014 #156

This article is basically "nice guy whining" repackaged into a crumby psychology hack-job. chrisa Aug 2014 #158

It makes me think this woman is seriously enmeshed with her male patients. winter is coming Aug 2014 #159

I have a few friends married to "good" men... liberalmuse Aug 2014 #163

Why are you asking this? It is so not true! akbacchus_BC Aug 2014 #164

I divorced my first wife. I initiated the proceedings. LloydS of New London Aug 2014 #165

It's the "I want it now" generation. Separation Aug 2014 #168

Um..... so WHICH generation, precisely, is that? Warren DeMontague Aug 2014 #171

Ill be the first to admit when I am wrong. Separation Aug 2014 #179

Right on. Warren DeMontague Aug 2014 #181

My "great husband" divorced me clyrc Aug 2014 #174

This is interesting and important. k&r for exposure. Laelth Aug 2014 #175

Who are all these women who are dumping great husbands, and why am I not Lydia Leftcoast Aug 2014 #180

I not only dumped the first husband (after 7 years of marriage) mnhtnbb Aug 2014 #182

I'm not sure I'm a "great," husband, nilesobek Aug 2014 #183