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shireen

(8,340 posts) Wed Aug 27, 2014, 04:19 PM Aug 2014

Leaving. Not Leaving. Whatever. [View all]

Reality check.

DU is a discussion board. A lot of good stuff gets posted. A lot of comments rub people the wrong way. Mods and admins are not perfect.

To the people who announce their departure, what's your point? Perhaps the DU infrastructure is not meeting your specific needs? You don't like comments that are posted? Hoping there will be an outpouring of others begging you to stay?

When you announce your intention to leave, it seems like you're taking DU too personally. You've developed an unhealthy relationship with … a discussion board of mostly anonymous people. Seriously?

DU is a sample of the real world, albeit a sample skewed towards the left. As DU has grown, it's diversity has widened. Let's just recognize that and move on.

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Leaving. Not Leaving. Whatever. [View all] shireen Aug 2014 OP

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Aug 2014 #1

The ones who are leaving today are not moaning. The are exhausted after a long seige. There is no jwirr Aug 2014 #16

DU was a place to survive the first term of W and the depression due to his second term, to rally, xocet Aug 2014 #59

Thank you. Many of us have been at this a since the 60s and it is indeed a struggle against the jwirr Aug 2014 #68

You probably never will understand.... FarPoint Aug 2014 #22

Yes. You nailed it. nt frogmarch Aug 2014 #95

^this^ Iris Aug 2014 #113

I think, sometimes, the good old days seem better than they were Algernon Moncrieff Aug 2014 #119

It still is. Also....the elections of 2004 and 2008 were msanthrope Aug 2014 #175

Oh yes...we were vicious during election cycles... FarPoint Aug 2014 #176

In my experience, it's narcissism. Iron Man Aug 2014 #2

It's done on every type of forum Bonx Aug 2014 #9

Yes it is. Iron Man Aug 2014 #10

Sad but true. hifiguy Aug 2014 #25

some people hate the idea that DU is a "comic book discussion forum" as you put it... CTyankee Aug 2014 #42

I didn't call DU a comic book discussion forum. Iron Man Aug 2014 #71

You are one of my favorites. panader0 Aug 2014 #91

oh, thanks, but that was not my purpose here. I was talking about insightful CTyankee Aug 2014 #98

Yes LloydS of New London Aug 2014 #72

Sometimes people just stop posting... cyberswede Aug 2014 #3

This is IMO the main reason why most long-time DUers who are leaving post ChisolmTrailDem Aug 2014 #11

Exactly ChazII Aug 2014 #14

struggle4progress too. Cleita Aug 2014 #21

struggle4progress will be back. octoberlib Aug 2014 #80

I see. Job comes first for all of us. n/t Cleita Aug 2014 #82

struggle also announced it in a few other groups. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2014 #97

I think that member posted he/she had a work schedule change that would prevent deurbano Aug 2014 #83

Send her a email. I did the last time see was away and she replied back that she was just taking a FSogol Aug 2014 #23

Perhaps DU could add a selection Shankapotomus Aug 2014 #32

Now you're talking! A worth DU upgrade. Great idea, Shank! nt ChisolmTrailDem Aug 2014 #35

OMG! CTyankee Aug 2014 #49

Lol Shankapotomus Aug 2014 #56

LOL, oh god, this is getting a little strange... CTyankee Aug 2014 #99

I won't say anything more either except Shankapotomus Aug 2014 #103

There kind of is something like that pipi_k Aug 2014 #151

^^^ this^^^ Mods? Admin? You listening?? Do this! Nt riderinthestorm Aug 2014 #111

another +1, for a great idea even if, it was meant as a joke. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #130

I agree n/t PasadenaTrudy Aug 2014 #12

as time passes by salin Aug 2014 #4

always the best, salin A-Schwarzenegger Aug 2014 #6

Thanks A-S! salin Aug 2014 #18

:thumbsup: Call Me Wesley Aug 2014 #28

I know snark - even when I don't know what it means. salin Aug 2014 #31

My last paragraph was addressing the OP. Call Me Wesley Aug 2014 #38

we are on the same page salin Aug 2014 #41

:) (nt) Call Me Wesley Aug 2014 #43

It's good to see you salin. myrna minx Aug 2014 #36

Hi myrna minx salin Aug 2014 #45

My heart broke when I learned of Raindog. myrna minx Aug 2014 #47

That's true Myrna Minx RFKHumphreyObama Aug 2014 #166

I agree redstatebluegirl Aug 2014 #53

Please don't do this leftstreet Aug 2014 #5

I agree. madfloridian Aug 2014 #126

and all the recs, too. What is that about? I don't get it. Long time DUers saying to not take Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #127

Does that not also apply to the responses, both direct and indirect? LanternWaste Aug 2014 #7

Ah crap ismnotwasm Aug 2014 #8

It's just as narcissistic as the OP claims writing a goodbye post is justiceischeap Aug 2014 #15

... ismnotwasm Aug 2014 #19

you're right shireen Aug 2014 #108

Or perhaps some of us just like to say goodbye to old friends. progressoid Aug 2014 #13

You got it. Funny, how complex this seems ballyhoo Aug 2014 #65

Actually, cwydro Aug 2014 #17

Lmao! RiffRandell Aug 2014 #20

They always come back. Iron Man Aug 2014 #24

How long were you gone? n/t Autumn Aug 2014 #117

Gone from where? Iron Man Aug 2014 #128

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Aug 2014 #26

Pro wrestlers, boxers, classic rock bands, and DUers hifiguy Aug 2014 #27

LOL...exactly what I was thinking. NaturalHigh Aug 2014 #62

So true! n-t Logical Aug 2014 #96

Agreed. LittleBlue Aug 2014 #120

I hope you are right, cwydro. I hope they both come back and sooner than that. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #124

What a wasted thread. Call Me Wesley Aug 2014 #29

Oh who died and made you the arbiter of peoples' reality? nolabear Aug 2014 #30

++ agreed. salin Aug 2014 #33

+1 freshwest Aug 2014 #105

No one died. We had a vote while you were in the can. nt Dreamer Tatum Aug 2014 #39

... nolabear Aug 2014 #86

I agree, nolabear Skittles Aug 2014 #79

Or to come back, or to stay, or to try to decide. nolabear Aug 2014 #87

Lol cwydro Aug 2014 #141

If you want to leave, just leave, Msg the ones you need to tell. We don't need a long post! nt Logical Aug 2014 #94

You don't. Fine. Who's all the rest of "We?" nolabear Aug 2014 #100

exactly Iris Aug 2014 #116

OK ... shireen Aug 2014 #109

Well said, nolabear Oilwellian Aug 2014 #169

I am sorry to see people go. hrmjustin Aug 2014 #34

You signed up on DU3 in 2012. Call Me Wesley Aug 2014 #46

I did sign up in 2001. hrmjustin Aug 2014 #50

Fine with me. Call Me Wesley Aug 2014 #51

Being in mirt I understand what you mean. hrmjustin Aug 2014 #54

You sent what to Skinner? Call Me Wesley Aug 2014 #66

My reply to you letting him know about my old account. hrmjustin Aug 2014 #67

Oh, okay. Call Me Wesley Aug 2014 #69

Good night my friend! Rest well! hrmjustin Aug 2014 #70

I care.. :) That was an interesting story, justin. 2001.. wow! Cha Aug 2014 #143

Thanks. hrmjustin Aug 2014 #147

So you went from Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2014 #58

lol. Yes I chose it for a continuity. hrmjustin Aug 2014 #60

why shouldn't people who've spent a long time somewhere say farewell? fishwax Aug 2014 #37

Because it usually winds up being Shankapotomus Aug 2014 #44

well, sometimes they're that way, but often they aren't fishwax Aug 2014 #118

And what is so terrible about that? BainsBane Aug 2014 #135

What injustice? Shankapotomus Aug 2014 #145

DU is not the same forum as when I started posting 10 years ago. edhopper Aug 2014 #40

and we used to have to walk six miles in the snow salin Aug 2014 #48

lol sunnystarr Aug 2014 #75

Shrug. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2014 #52

I'm going to be leafing soon - what's the big deal? packman Aug 2014 #55

Sadly, our trees have been dropping leaves for a month or two. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2014 #61

I think it's sad that people are leaving. Maybe they need to take a rest because they're burned Louisiana1976 Aug 2014 #57

right on. nt dionysus Aug 2014 #63

HELP! yuiyoshida Aug 2014 #64

Sorry, but you MUST have your reception catered by Olive Garden. Arugula Latte Aug 2014 #73

I can do that ... really! yuiyoshida Aug 2014 #77

Yes on the kitty! Arugula Latte Aug 2014 #78

What? No cornflake covered chicken? From The Ashes Aug 2014 #92

Skinner banned it. Arugula Latte Aug 2014 #121

Hear, hear! Daemonaquila Aug 2014 #74

Cause most posters are Baby Boomers roaminronin Aug 2014 #76

are you for real? Skittles Aug 2014 #81

Isn't he cute? nolabear Aug 2014 #101

I also dislike people who don't know the difference between BECAUSE and CAUSE Skittles Aug 2014 #131

Hey that's not Cha Aug 2014 #102

The Big Chill called and wants its stereotype back steve2470 Aug 2014 #140

I fuckin' love it here! N.Y. to Paris Aug 2014 #84

you want I should kick your rarely-posting ass, N.Y. to Paris? Skittles Aug 2014 #88

Rarely-posting ass! N.Y. to Paris Aug 2014 #148

I find it pretty egotistical for people to say "HEY LOOK AT ME, I'M LEAVINGGGG!" As if no one riseabove Aug 2014 #85

Actually, I appreciate when people announce their departures . . . markpkessinger Aug 2014 #89

armchair psychoanalysis ... shireen Aug 2014 #137

Can't imagine.... MaggieD Aug 2014 #90

+1000, the drama here is way over the top. If you want to leave, just leave! n-t Logical Aug 2014 #93

Maybe people have a final thought they want to express. What's wrong with that? CTyankee Aug 2014 #104

this OP may have started as a snark, BlancheSplanchnik Aug 2014 #106

K and R bigwillq Aug 2014 #107

Some people care about politics and society BainsBane Aug 2014 #110

If anyone has any question about why Le Taz Hot Aug 2014 #112

ugh. spoken like a true neoliberal. woolldog Aug 2014 #114

interesting responses shireen Aug 2014 #115

Yes, kittens are cute. NaturalHigh Aug 2014 #168

Politics of the Internetz daredtowork Aug 2014 #122

Let me get this straight ... people post all sorts of things about their personal lives on here. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #123

i've not sold myself short shireen Aug 2014 #133

"I just dont have the same level of involvement in DU as you." Yes, perhaps but, from now Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #136

i will not delete this OP shireen Aug 2014 #138

fyi, self deleting the OP does nothing to all the replies. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #139

Another list. pintobean Aug 2014 #144

I know. It's amusing. NaturalHigh Aug 2014 #150

ain't it sweet? Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #154

No, you're much more than that to me! NaturalHigh Aug 2014 #157

oh honey, you are always at the top of my list. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #153

I promise there are no pictures of you circulating via pm by me. RiffRandell Aug 2014 #156

Whomever sent them (? multiple pics of me?)to you I would not trust for them to even be of me. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #158

Jeez, sorry for trying to be nice and reassure you that I RiffRandell Aug 2014 #159

NO. you just want to TRY and be subtle about the dog thing. FAIL. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #160

It's really sad that you believe that. RiffRandell Aug 2014 #161

I so disagree. We should wonder why instead of being unkind. madfloridian Aug 2014 #125

Sad and true... daleanime Aug 2014 #132

Are you leaving? Katashi_itto Aug 2014 #129

does it matter? nt shireen Aug 2014 #134

About you? No. You've shown your worth. About others, yes. Katashi_itto Aug 2014 #167

The DU "termination notice" Depaysement Aug 2014 #142

What Depaysement said. NaturalHigh Aug 2014 #152

You just proved the point a lot of us have tried to make. madfloridian Aug 2014 #164

Maybe you're right Depaysement Aug 2014 #170

Your having been here only 14 days, I can see how saying goodbye might seem unnecessary to you. cyberswede Aug 2014 #165

I didn't Depaysement Aug 2014 #171

"Some of these erstwhile posters need to get a life." cyberswede Aug 2014 #172

Ok Depaysement Aug 2014 #174

Hard to tell sometimes. Orrex Aug 2014 #146

Theads like this and its many smartass flippant uncaring replies are WHY people are leaving CBGLuthier Aug 2014 #149

and Hell, Maybe I will join ya! Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #155

There are no mods. Rex Aug 2014 #162

DU is like life: it's not always perfect. In_The_Wind Aug 2014 #163

Someone really wants to go, they should do it like Walt Starr. Warren DeMontague Aug 2014 #173

LOL - yeah, that made for a grand exit. NaturalHigh Aug 2014 #177