General Discussion

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)

130. You would have a point if there was some rule forcing anyone to read posts, but fortunately

Thu Aug 28, 2014, 11:49 PM

Aug 2014

we have several tools making it possible not to even see threads we don't want to see. Eg, next time you see a 'goodbye' thread, you can simply thrash it and go find something you are interested in.

I don't have a problem with people saying goodbye. Most of the time it is because someone has become so upset, or hurt that they feel the need to get it out.

Even if it is someone we normally didn't agree with a lot of the time, I think most decent people will feel some compassion for another person who is clearly unhappy.

You never know what is going on in someone's life. Is it so hard either to ignore them and let them have their say, or just make a kind comment, wishing them well?

Why is there such a need to always criticize people, especially when all people have to do here, is just ignore whatever they are not interested in?

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

140 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

Any chance we could give the grave-dancing posts a rest, maybe? [View all] WilliamPitt Aug 2014 OP

They Were Good People, Sir, And I Will Miss Them Both The Magistrate Aug 2014 #1

Post removed Post removed Aug 2014 #2

Had some epic fights with both of them on DU2, respect the hell out of both. Rex Aug 2014 #3

Jury results for above post: 4-3 to hide.... stevenleser Aug 2014 #22

Good hide. nt Logical Aug 2014 #96

I dance on the grave of the grave dancing threads! jberryhill Aug 2014 #4

OK, YOU win this thread! Hands down!!!!! MADem Aug 2014 #12

+1000 leftstreet Aug 2014 #5

these "give it a rest" posts are getting tiresome unblock Aug 2014 #6

All of it just makes me sad tkmorris Aug 2014 #7

Who is grave dancing? berni_mccoy Aug 2014 #8

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Aug 2014 #9

If you don't always give it..... daleanime Aug 2014 #65

To be clear: saying "hell no, I won't go" is not grave dancing. riqster Aug 2014 #10

Indeed. MADem Aug 2014 #16

Thanks! I am reasonably cheerful. riqster Aug 2014 #19

Happy as a clam, here--family coming in from the Caribbean tonight, and MADem Aug 2014 #20

Ditto nt cwydro Aug 2014 #21

Exactly. nt Zorra Aug 2014 #31

It is iimportant to remain respectful libodem Aug 2014 #11

"It is iimportant to remain respectful....Even if you don't agree with their positions." I agree. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #73

Yep libodem Aug 2014 #80

Aye n/t fleabiscuit Aug 2014 #13

"If you sit by the river long enough, you will see the body of your enemy float by" LittleBlue Aug 2014 #14

Ever go to a funeral and find yourself double-checking the program winter is coming Aug 2014 #42

Nail on head LittleBlue Aug 2014 #43

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Aug 2014 #52

"I have never wished anyone dead hifiguy Aug 2014 #63

... LittleBlue Aug 2014 #70

Well said. opiate69 Aug 2014 #68

This message was self-deleted by its author JTFrog Aug 2014 #129

Hear, Hear !!! WillyT Aug 2014 #15

BAH! meegbear Aug 2014 #17

While I am not a prolific poster even though I have been here 11 years, I am an avid Ninga Aug 2014 #18

Sorry Charlie cwydro Aug 2014 #23

Telling? WilliamPitt Aug 2014 #24

True cwydro Aug 2014 #33

Sounds like a rationalization. nm rhett o rick Aug 2014 #47

Huh? cwydro Aug 2014 #64

Translation: Tsk, tsk. FSogol Aug 2014 #79

Exactly. Grave Dancing and other bully behavior has no business here. It's both disruptive and rhett o rick Aug 2014 #81

Finger wrangling also has no place here. I did not grave dance on redqueen or bigtree's GBCW thread FSogol Aug 2014 #89

I responded to cwydro and you jumped in with the rude "Tsk Tsk", like you were mocking me. rhett o rick Aug 2014 #95

Nailed it. nt msanthrope Aug 2014 #44

Looks like this plea didn't work BrotherIvan Aug 2014 #25

DU's favorite kind of post is when someone scolds us for something that isn't happening and FSogol Aug 2014 #26

Actually there have been ill wishes toward Redqueen BainsBane Aug 2014 #27

Her goodbye thread had over 10k views and over 300 repsonses. FSogol Aug 2014 #35

about 6 or so BainsBane Aug 2014 #36

Less than 1/2 of 1%. FSogol Aug 2014 #39

No, I don't ignore the 99% BainsBane Aug 2014 #41

So if someone calls you an asshole (not that I'd suggest that, this is pretend) you would rhett o rick Aug 2014 #49

Sure, if 99 people showed me support and 1 said I was an ass, I'd shrug it off*. FSogol Aug 2014 #54

Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2014 #60

Yeah, but it was Pitt who did the scolding. Dawgs Aug 2014 #30

Well put nt cwydro Aug 2014 #34

Thank you. They were our progressive compatriots. blm Aug 2014 #28

Oh Jesus Christ! Dawgs Aug 2014 #29

Which is why you're responding...? LanternWaste Aug 2014 #58

Hear, Hear! johnp3907 Aug 2014 #32

Okay, let's go back to "shave-dancing" KansDem Aug 2014 #37

A decision to stop posting, and posting a thread about it, is in no way a metaphorical death muriel_volestrangler Aug 2014 #38

I agree. nt cyberswede Aug 2014 #115

Anything that lessens our numbers is a bad thing. hamsterjill Aug 2014 #40

I've never wished a person dead... Jester Messiah Aug 2014 #45

lots of viewpoints is a good thing dembotoz Aug 2014 #46

I hear you DonCoquixote Aug 2014 #48

yep. BlancheSplanchnik Aug 2014 #53

Bad behavior sucks by anyone DonCoquixote Aug 2014 #55

that IS the question! Here, on a progressive board, misogynists and racists are nice and cozy BlancheSplanchnik Aug 2014 #56

such threads are always a good time to update the old ignore list. mopinko Aug 2014 #50

Grave Dancing let's us know the true nature of some posters. rhett o rick Aug 2014 #51

Agree libodem Aug 2014 #57

Agreed. We NEED vigorous dialogue, not just an echo chamber. nt Damansarajaya Aug 2014 #67

+1000000 nashville_brook Aug 2014 #69

Maybe some people are just sick of people needing to announce they they are leaving. If.... Logical Aug 2014 #97

You are not being very "logical". If "some people" are sick of goodbye threads, then they rhett o rick Aug 2014 #101

Some people love drama. Some don't. nt Logical Aug 2014 #104

That's very logical. But some of those that don't "love drama" seem to love ridiculing those rhett o rick Aug 2014 #106

We disagree on this topic. I think you are wrong. You think I am wrong. Get it? nt Logical Aug 2014 #107

Some people love derision. chervilant Aug 2014 #139

Meh. I'd say "to announce or not" is up to the person doing the leaving. winter is coming Aug 2014 #102

You would have a point if there was some rule forcing anyone to read posts, but fortunately sabrina 1 Aug 2014 #130

Well said. As I see it, political liberals look forward to good honest debates. To have that rhett o rick Aug 2014 #136

K&R AuntPatsy Aug 2014 #59

Redqueen left? Javaman Aug 2014 #61

thank u Liberal_in_LA Aug 2014 #62

I thought Redqueen was a little too focused on one issue Damansarajaya Aug 2014 #66

Well, if she does, I hope she'll have changed her attitude for the better. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #72

When are you going to admit to yourself, that it is you who DISAGREE boston bean Aug 2014 #84

Oh, please. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #85

It's everywhere and MANY have told you. Read the responses to your racially insensitive drivel. boston bean Aug 2014 #86

The burden of proof is on the accuser. Please show me your evidence. nt AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #87

I don't have to lead or show you anything. Read the responses in your my posts tabs. boston bean Aug 2014 #88

I've got darn near 9,000 posts and a history that only goes back 4 pages. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #92

READ the responses and reactions that others have had in response to your postings on race. boston bean Aug 2014 #93

Bigtree, I will miss. Redqueen? Not so much. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #71

Mansplain it to me. WilliamPitt Aug 2014 #75

Maybe redqueen wasn't the one with "issues with things" cyberswede Aug 2014 #111

Consider why they left. Then fix the broken system. NYC_SKP Aug 2014 #74

Wow, are you serious. So some people leave, and 99.9% stay and we need to fix it? nt Logical Aug 2014 #98

Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2014 #110

clear - exactly how? Completely different purposes for each site. NRaleighLiberal Aug 2014 #113

This message was self-deleted by its author carolinayellowdog Aug 2014 #76

a few? 2pooped2pop Aug 2014 #77

Those that you are addressing won't listen. They rationalize their behavior by claiming rhett o rick Aug 2014 #78

You know, PatSeg Aug 2014 #82

I didn't know they left DU. How sad. FourScore Aug 2014 #83

they'll be back cwydro Aug 2014 #126

Strongest agreement and recommendation suffragette Aug 2014 #90

Post #2 Got HIDDEN ??? WillyT Aug 2014 #91

I didn't see anything wrong either. Not a good hide, IMO. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #94

Really...... Logical Aug 2014 #99

Been Doing It For 12, 13 Years So Far ... WillyT Aug 2014 #100

Link to a couple for me. Recent ones. nt Logical Aug 2014 #103

amazing, idnt it. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #105

Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2014 #112

And you know this how? hrmjustin Aug 2014 #114

Unfortunately, there may be some truth to that. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #116

I don't see any trolls on that jury. Not everyone who disagrees with you is a troll. n/t winter is coming Aug 2014 #117

"Not everyone who disagrees with you is a troll" True, but that wasn't what I was..... AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #119

Juror #3's response is nowhere near trolling. winter is coming Aug 2014 #120

I understand trolling and racism quite well, thank you. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #122

Ding ding ding cyberswede Aug 2014 #123

So me agreeing with someone is a problem? AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #124

You agreeing with a troll is a problem. cyberswede Aug 2014 #127

Well, I guess you can't catch them all right away. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #132

Seriously...a brand new poster hops into a thread about gravedancing... cyberswede Aug 2014 #135

Juror #3 got it right. cyberswede Aug 2014 #118

"You should be embarrassed about that alert." Not at all. I stand by it 100%..... AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #121

Nobody said 3/4 of liberals are racist. cyberswede Aug 2014 #125

"it's because you're wrong." No. Not at all. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #128

Uh huh. cyberswede Aug 2014 #131

In that hypothetical situation you laid out(and I elaborated on), it probably would. AverageJoe90 Aug 2014 #133

Ok...you keep on keep in' on cyberswede Aug 2014 #134

I will miss them, and hope they come back, as I expect they will. mountain grammy Aug 2014 #108

Post removed Post removed Aug 2014 #109

I think the point of these post is to bring up problems w/i the community which led to them leaving. redruddyred Aug 2014 #137

Doesn't grave dancing refer to when someone is banned? As far as I know, neither one of those . . . Major Hogwash Aug 2014 #138

yes, their victims should remain silent stupidicus Aug 2014 #140