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In reply to the discussion: WATCH: 'Christian' Family's Terrifying Response to Son Coming Out [View all]MH1
(19,170 posts)The physical assault is particularly over the top, obviously.
That said, technically Daniel is also an adult (I heard "last 20 years" in there so I guess he is 20 years old).
Daniel is not exactly embracing the spirit of nonviolence here. If he had just left it at moving out by Thursday, the conversation probably wouldn't have devolved the way it did. But as family arguments tend to do, this one just HAD to continue. It had no where to go but worse. There was no way the mother was going to take back the edict to move out, at least not until some time had passed when maybe she would have changed her mind. But right there right then was not the time to continue the confrontation. (Yes, I am armchair quarterbacking here, but maybe someone else who faces this will in the future will think twice about whether it's really worth it to get those digs in. What was the objective, anyway?)
Also, stomping on someone's religion by saying science trumps it, is never a good thing to do when that someone is in power and you want something from them. That was an unnecessary antagonistic statement. You are not going to change their mind one iota, except perhaps by making them even more resistant to your point of view. So why go there? Stop with explaining this is what science says. If they say the word of god trumps that, that is their belief and leave it at that. (It might have been better to mention that in Bible class you learned that the real reason for the destruction of Sodom was that they didn't have charity for strangers and that it never had anything to do with sex. Ok, better not go there either at this time, but probably a slightly better option at least. Then they would be off looking to have your Bible class teacher fired.)
But anyway, as an adult I would have been happy to get my butt out of their house even if it meant living in my car or under a bridge. Who wants to live with that kind of crap? So why not just go?
But as said in the beginning, horrible reaction by the parents, and I hope Daniel can move on and do fine on his own.