Unless you can do better than that, (Reply #104)

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Sun Aug 31, 2014, 07:13 PM

IrishAyes (6,151 posts)

104. Unless you can do better than that,

feel free to just keep lurking. That was a jerky thing to say at best, despite your back-scratching later on. You owe Mary an UNdiluted full-bore apology.

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174 replies	Author	Time	Post
Just witnessed an act of racism [View all]	marym625	Aug 2014	OP
Your last sentence says it all, in a nutshell:	YoungDemCA	Aug 2014	#1
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#2
^^^ That	onecaliberal	Aug 2014	#6
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#10
That was a teaching opportunity	vlyons	Aug 2014	#46
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#54
Ugh, imagine how those "harmless" acts of racism would	sufrommich	Aug 2014	#3
I can't	marym625	Aug 2014	#7
You did a good thing,marym625. A lot of	sufrommich	Aug 2014	#13
I couldn't have done any less	marym625	Aug 2014	#17
Probably the way catcalling makes women feel	Warpy	Aug 2014	#81
I would imagine	marym625	Aug 2014	#84
Good on you and especially because =	Tuesday Afternoon	Aug 2014	#4
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#8
Not to nit pick...	philosslayer	Aug 2014	#5
Message auto-removed	Name removed	Aug 2014	#11
I'm not diminishing anything	philosslayer	Aug 2014	#15
weird	marym625	Aug 2014	#23
Message auto-removed	Name removed	Aug 2014	#31
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#34
Message auto-removed	Name removed	Aug 2014	#51
Welcome to DU n/t	Aerows	Aug 2014	#59
So when the guys in Texas dragged that African American man from their truck for miles	BainsBane	Aug 2014	#19
Sorry, but treating someone differently because of his race is a racist act.	Nye Bevan	Aug 2014	#22
If it looks like a duck	marym625	Aug 2014	#35
Racism is discrimination which holds up institutional power	gollygee	Aug 2014	#40
That's what I always thought	marym625	Aug 2014	#43
+1 ...	1StrongBlackMan	Aug 2014	#88
^^^This^^^n/t	Gormy Cuss	Sep 2014	#156
What a load of hogwash.	ET Awful	Aug 2014	#44
Skin heads, as well as the most economically disadvantaged white person ...	1StrongBlackMan	Aug 2014	#89
Bull pucky.	ET Awful	Sep 2014	#132
You do not know what you are talking about. eom.	1StrongBlackMan	Sep 2014	#134
Way to reply with facts . . .	ET Awful	Sep 2014	#163
All institutions in America support skinheads because they	1StrongBlackMan	Sep 2014	#170
All of the institutions in America ...	1StrongBlackMan	Sep 2014	#174
pure BS!!!!!	heaven05	Sep 2014	#149
They are white people raised in white families with all the associated institutional power	gollygee	Sep 2014	#166
That doesn't in any way equal institutionalized support for what they do.	ET Awful	Sep 2014	#167
They don't get institutional support for being skinheads	gollygee	Sep 2014	#168
There's something called Internalized Racism, which is practiced by people of color	MrScorpio	Aug 2014	#45
I used to work in a manufacturing plant	marym625	Aug 2014	#48
Yes. All people of color are taught to hate themselves; they internalize racism and bigotry just	Liberal_Stalwart71	Sep 2014	#140
Unfortunately, it is everywhere.	marym625	Sep 2014	#142
True, but more pronounced with skin color because it's a beauty standard that can never be attained.	Liberal_Stalwart71	Sep 2014	#144
I didn't mean to minimize anything	marym625	Sep 2014	#146
In my own uneducated opinion	sammythecat	Sep 2014	#151
Well said	marym625	Sep 2014	#153
thank for	heaven05	Sep 2014	#150
philo, gotta ask	irisblue	Aug 2014	#71
I suspect the difference is ...	1StrongBlackMan	Sep 2014	#135
Not true ...	1StrongBlackMan	Aug 2014	#86
Why do you say, "Not to nit pick..." and then do exactly that?	IrishAyes	Aug 2014	#100
Institutional power is not an individual characteristic. It's not about the owner's power.	Unvanguard	Sep 2014	#145
there you are!	heaven05	Sep 2014	#148
It ran counter to the owner's economic interests	BainsBane	Aug 2014	#9
excellent post and I was thinking the same thing ... very short sighted of the clerk/owner	Tuesday Afternoon	Aug 2014	#12
exactly	marym625	Aug 2014	#14
I think you handled it perfectly	Boreal	Aug 2014	#91
That's my hope	marym625	Aug 2014	#92
And this is what we are trying to convey to white people who deny that white privilege exists.	Liberal_Stalwart71	Sep 2014	#141
I am angry and I don't have to deal with	marym625	Sep 2014	#152
Good for you; you reacted appropriately in the moment.	Divernan	Aug 2014	#16
Thanks for that	marym625	Aug 2014	#25
You were right to speak up.	Nye Bevan	Aug 2014	#18
I wish I had that kind of commitment	marym625	Aug 2014	#26
Native Americans and aboriginals can tell you the same tales, but they are not complaining folk as	Fred Sanders	Aug 2014	#20
"Victimization is a disease with some folk."	sufrommich	Aug 2014	#24
was wondering the same thing n/t	marym625	Aug 2014	#27
It was in relation to my post, not the OP.....cheers.	Fred Sanders	Aug 2014	#28
Cheers	marym625	Aug 2014	#36
As an aside, since you got no explanation from the store clerk who was familiar with the man,	Fred Sanders	Aug 2014	#21
There is always that possibility	marym625	Aug 2014	#30
There is a cynical, questioning side of me I can get rid of. Apologies.	Fred Sanders	Aug 2014	#32
none needed	marym625	Aug 2014	#37
It sounds racist. Certainly deceitful. No doubt in that.	alphafemale	Aug 2014	#29
yes	marym625	Aug 2014	#33
yeah, it stinks of racism	heaven05	Sep 2014	#155
The thing about living as a black person in America...	MrScorpio	Aug 2014	#38
I can't imagine	marym625	Aug 2014	#41
You do have some idea	MrScorpio	Aug 2014	#47
No doubt	marym625	Aug 2014	#49
Fact: the majority of Short Eyes are hetero.	IrishAyes	Aug 2014	#105
I'm sorry	marym625	Aug 2014	#110
No need to apologize.	IrishAyes	Aug 2014	#117
Learn something new every day	marym625	Aug 2014	#119
Pig Boy, aka Short Eyes, is the infamous radio host	IrishAyes	Sep 2014	#126
Ah! Thank you	marym625	Sep 2014	#127
I think I was too tired	marym625	Sep 2014	#133
And the thing about that ...	1StrongBlackMan	Aug 2014	#90
and unfortunately	marym625	Aug 2014	#95
So much for "always playing the race card." Classic case of projection right there	nomorenomore08	Aug 2014	#121
By the way, great thread.	Nye Bevan	Aug 2014	#39
WOW	marym625	Aug 2014	#42
Thanks for sharing!	Stellar	Aug 2014	#50
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#52
Very well done! We need more people standing up agianst this type of bullshit.	20score	Aug 2014	#53
completely agree	marym625	Aug 2014	#55
Very well said	malaise	Aug 2014	#56
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#57
Do you think it was enough? Saying shame on you.	notadmblnd	Aug 2014	#58
Absolutely no doubt you are right	marym625	Aug 2014	#60
I understand.	notadmblnd	Aug 2014	#61
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#62
Your friends might benefit from a lesson on racism	lunatica	Aug 2014	#63
They got one	marym625	Aug 2014	#64
I'm sure they heard you too	lunatica	Aug 2014	#65
Great add	marym625	Aug 2014	#66
Message auto-removed	Name removed	Aug 2014	#67
Welcome to DU	marym625	Aug 2014	#68
Message auto-removed	Name removed	Aug 2014	#69
Well done	Jack Rabbit	Aug 2014	#70
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#72
Just witnessed an act of hypocritical bigotry.	skippy66	Aug 2014	#73
Good grief!	lunatica	Aug 2014	#74
Nice	marym625	Aug 2014	#76
You're entitled to your opinion	marym625	Aug 2014	#75
I can understand ...	skippy66	Aug 2014	#77
I truly appreciate	marym625	Aug 2014	#80
I'm with Skippy.	Bette Noir	Aug 2014	#93
There could be	marym625	Aug 2014	#94
What clicked it for me, TBH, was the fact that.....	AverageJoe90	Sep 2014	#129
Yeah, that's why I	marym625	Sep 2014	#130
sure could be a "hundred reasons"	heaven05	Sep 2014	#162
exactly	marym625	Sep 2014	#164
As one who used to work in a store much like the one mary describes here...	ScreamingMeemie	Sep 2014	#172
and I have known the guy long	marym625	Sep 2014	#173
your 'critical' thinking skills ..............	heaven05	Sep 2014	#158
Bullshit	gollygee	Aug 2014	#101
AHHH ...	1StrongBlackMan	Sep 2014	#136
lot of 'mental gymnastics' pop up	heaven05	Sep 2014	#160
Spoken as someone who has NEVER been treated like a pariah SIMPLY because they	Ecumenist	Aug 2014	#102
Unless you can do better than that,	IrishAyes	Aug 2014	#104
It was explained in the story of the OP	treestar	Sep 2014	#125
lame BS!!!!!	heaven05	Sep 2014	#157
Stupid dumbass storeowner.	AverageJoe90	Aug 2014	#78
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#79
You did good!	JustAnotherGen	Aug 2014	#82
Awesome!	marym625	Aug 2014	#83
K&R for Speaking Up. eom	rosesaylavee	Aug 2014	#85
Thank you n/t	marym625	Aug 2014	#87
Bravo for you.	IrishAyes	Aug 2014	#96
Probably	marym625	Aug 2014	#97
Kicked and recommended!	Enthusiast	Aug 2014	#98
I tend to get really angry when I witness something like this.	raven mad	Aug 2014	#99
This message was self-deleted by its author	marym625	Aug 2014	#108
Good for you	marym625	Aug 2014	#111
OT, but	mimi85	Aug 2014	#103
I don't know what	marym625	Aug 2014	#112
I'm sorry Miss Mary	mimi85	Aug 2014	#113
No need for apology	marym625	Aug 2014	#114
Good on you.	99Forever	Aug 2014	#106
so true	marym625	Aug 2014	#109
Message auto-removed	Name removed	Aug 2014	#107
Good for you for speaking up.	yardwork	Aug 2014	#115
Thank you n/t	marym625	Aug 2014	#116
You're absolutely correct and	proReality	Aug 2014	#118
Thank you	marym625	Aug 2014	#120
Thank you for speaking out; you made a difference. nt	babylonsister	Aug 2014	#122
Thank you Nice to hear n/t	marym625	Aug 2014	#123
Makes me sick. Thanks for sharing.	3rdwaydem	Sep 2014	#124
Thank you n/t	marym625	Sep 2014	#128
you were a paying customer	Niceguy1	Sep 2014	#131
The OP stated that she received matches without purchase on other occasions	Gormy Cuss	Sep 2014	#159
the OP	heaven05	Sep 2014	#161
If they deny it	marym625	Sep 2014	#165
I think of all the times in my life when I have had to rely on the "kindness of strangers"	jimlup	Sep 2014	#137
What a sad reality	marym625	Sep 2014	#138
Deny and deflect. That's what people who cannot come to terms with racism do.	Liberal_Stalwart71	Sep 2014	#139
yep.	marym625	Sep 2014	#143
+1	gollygee	Sep 2014	#169
It would be nice if it didn't do so much harm	marym625	Sep 2014	#171
It's not a tiny incident	heaven05	Sep 2014	#147
so true	marym625	Sep 2014	#154

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