Dynamics of Domestic Abuse

[IdaBriggs]

12. She walked into the relationship with her own baggage.

The *first time* it happened, it was *not* because he had established "the pattern of abuse."

It was because she was primed for the whole thing with her very big, very ugly baggage.

Plus, the drugs were fun - self-medicating depression, and avoiding dealing with previous trauma and issues was easier than spending years in therapy.

I get it.

But the truth is this -- she made a series of choices to stay with him. Part of it was because she did truly love him, and at some level, he loved her. It was NOT a healthy love, and part of me wants to vomit a little when I call it "love", but truthfully, they did care for each other.

And I think, as they dealt with their demons in the only way they knew how at the time, there was excitement and passion and "us against the world, because no one else understands" drama.

His demons killed him. He almost killed her.

She picked him.

I get it.

Sigh.