Dynamics of Domestic Abuse

[IdaBriggs]

30. You are right - I didn't read it. I apologize for that.

Honestly, the whole topic is very distressing, and I am doing my best to remember my own hard earned balance on the topic. The quote you gave --

"If a woman has done everything in her power to reduce her risk, then a man who has the proclivity for abuse or need for power will just move on to another woman or target,"

was painful because she did NOT reduce her risk, and seemed to seek out the type of man who *would* abuse her. This also happened to one of my other sisters - the "non-abusive" guy was someone she just wasn't attracted to, while the abusive asshole just totally was *it* for her.

The worst part of this discussion?

We both have war stories involving either ourselves or the people we love.

Give me some time. I'll come back to it when I am not in full "I remember when" mode.

I am feeling mad at her all over again because DAMMIT I MISS HER!!!

And I wish like hell I did NOT have these memories of her, because even if she wasn't perfect and picked a crappy asshole as the sperm donor for her children, I still loved her.

Know what I mean?

Peace between us.