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pnwmom

(110,232 posts) Mon Sep 8, 2014, 08:03 PM Sep 2014

For those of you criticizing (victim-blaming) Janay Palmer for marrying Ray Rice: [View all]

were you aware that she already had a baby with him? That she must have felt she was already bound to him through that child?

I hope she gets some help now in taking the child and leaving -- but the courts in most states are still likely to award him shared custody, even with proof of domestic violence.

http://www.myk104.com/dede/ray-rice-uppercuts-his-way-to-the-media/

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For those of you criticizing (victim-blaming) Janay Palmer for marrying Ray Rice: [View all] pnwmom Sep 2014 OP

Life is messy. nt ZombieHorde Sep 2014 #1

It's awful shenmue Sep 2014 #2

it would have looked jamzrockz Sep 2014 #3

Yeah, I would absolutely put up with another year's worth of beatings. Sheldon Cooper Sep 2014 #4

Some of these posts are crazy making for me. sufrommich Sep 2014 #5

Your Sheldon gifs are perfect for that response arcane1 Sep 2014 #10

Ofc my comment jamzrockz Sep 2014 #12

You're assuming he never hit her before. The next time she could be dead. n/t pnwmom Sep 2014 #23

I'd bet he has hit her before. cwydro Sep 2014 #73

Me, too. If this was the first time, he would have been shocked and remorseful. pnwmom Sep 2014 #74

If he yelled at her or maybe slapped her, maybe, just maybe he'd get a second chance. rhett o rick Sep 2014 #46

punches and knocks her out Lefta Dissenter Sep 2014 #53

plus all I have in my bucket...a lot! DocMac Sep 2014 #56

wow. Really? fishwax Sep 2014 #6

Because women should always worry about how things 'look' leftstreet Sep 2014 #7

Then why jamzrockz Sep 2014 #9

You don't know what she thought leftstreet Sep 2014 #13

The NFL and Rice were obviously pressuring her to have that press conference and to go through pnwmom Sep 2014 #20

That's ok jamzrockz Sep 2014 #25

There is not a low chance for an abuser to stop abusing, sheshe2 Sep 2014 #41

^^that^^ (n/t) Lefta Dissenter Sep 2014 #54

Did you even watch the video? daschess1987 Sep 2014 #69

Do you have any clue what it is like to be a single woman TBF Sep 2014 #76

There are a number of books chervilant Sep 2014 #42

Maybe she feels safer now that the eyes of the world are on him? gollygee Sep 2014 #47

That's what I was thinking too. n/t nomorenomore08 Sep 2014 #62

Listen to this Harvard grd talk about her relationship.. likesmountains 52 Sep 2014 #55

wtf? elehhhhna Sep 2014 #16

Why is everyone acting as if I am speaking Chinese? jamzrockz Sep 2014 #18

Quite frankly, yes. TDale313 Sep 2014 #27

So what? leftstreet Sep 2014 #28

no, you are apparently speaking as one who does not understand the first thing about niyad Sep 2014 #30

Exactly! daschess1987 Sep 2014 #70

it sounds like there really was nobody there for you and your family. please know how very sorry niyad Sep 2014 #82

Thank you, niyad! daschess1987 Sep 2014 #84

Here's an article that might explain it better than some of us have been doing. pnwmom Sep 2014 #33

Actually I fear for her.... sheshe2 Sep 2014 #44

Agree TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2014 #78

Has it occurred to you that the loss pf the contract might Ilsa Sep 2014 #45

You're acting like that's all happening in a vacuum gollygee Sep 2014 #48

"Am I the only one that sees problem with a woman/man marrying a man/woman when he/she has a nomorenomore08 Sep 2014 #63

I hope you are the only one Dorian Gray Sep 2014 #75

Who cares what idiots think? She went through the marriage that was already planned -- pnwmom Sep 2014 #19

Apparently they even moved the wedding date up. DURHAM D Sep 2014 #37

Their behavior was reprehensible. I hope there's some legal basis for her suing them. nt pnwmom Sep 2014 #39

Baby or not, I don't understand why a woman would marry a man who Arkansas Granny Sep 2014 #8

Victims of domestic violence often blame themselves, as she was ENCOURAGED to do pnwmom Sep 2014 #11

Thank you. nt sufrommich Sep 2014 #14

There are many reasons why women stay with abusers. Ilsa Sep 2014 #49

Yes, I think she should have left him, but it is her decision. My cousin was a Psychologist, napi21 Sep 2014 #15

the steroids don't help either elehhhhna Sep 2014 #17

^^^^^ my first question mopinko Sep 2014 #40

Maybe, but if he punched someone on the football spooky3 Sep 2014 #32

Players in the NFL don't have to punch others on the field. dballance Sep 2014 #50

My point is that certain types of hits are an spooky3 Sep 2014 #52

they are conditioned to be very physically agressive, it can become a habit. bettyellen Sep 2014 #61

I played seven years of football DocMac Sep 2014 #57

Which football hoodlum is this? The elevator guy? cui bono Sep 2014 #21

Yeah, the elevator punch guy. n/t pnwmom Sep 2014 #22

Yeah, just looked it up and saw that. cui bono Sep 2014 #24

Of course it's a terrible reason to get married. pnwmom Sep 2014 #26

I fear for her safety and that of their child underthematrix Sep 2014 #29

I do too dflprincess Sep 2014 #34

Me, too ann--- Sep 2014 #65

K&R! Omaha Steve Sep 2014 #31

;) AuntPatsy Sep 2014 #36

Keith Olbermann lets us know who is actually to blame dflprincess Sep 2014 #35

Wow, that was great! Thanks! nt Logical Sep 2014 #60

I wondered about that but what you said makes sense. Cleita Sep 2014 #38

people put up with stuff until it goes beyond what that person thinks he/she deserves. then they msongs Sep 2014 #43

+++ Cleita Sep 2014 #51

If you haven't been there VA_Jill Sep 2014 #58

She married him shortly after this incident, which leads me to believe mackerel Sep 2014 #59

I'm sure they put a ton of pressure on her. Their behavior was outrageous. n/t pnwmom Sep 2014 #66

What good does ann--- Sep 2014 #64

It was a poor -- but understandable -- decision. Many victims of domestic violence pnwmom Sep 2014 #67

Thanks pnwmom. lovemydog Sep 2014 #68

I still wouldn't marry him! Quantess Sep 2014 #71

That's because you are an emotionally healthy person. But women who stay in relationships pnwmom Sep 2014 #72

After That Video. . . ProfessorGAC Sep 2014 #77

I'll share a story here that I shared in another thread justiceischeap Sep 2014 #79

Thank you for your understanding post. Hopefully it opened some eyes. pnwmom Sep 2014 #80

I don't know how long they've been together justiceischeap Sep 2014 #81

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