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Dont call me Shirley

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49. Thank you for posting this.

Mon Sep 8, 2014, 10:30 PM

Sep 2014

Abusers are capable of making you feel completely empty of self, unable to function.

If you're in an abusive relationship seek help. There are many good shelters and therapists out there willing to help. Make a plan, then get out.

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some women will put up with anything for money [View all] boston bean Sep 2014 OP

That comment wasn't on DU was it? nt DURHAM D Sep 2014 #1

Here. Skidmore Sep 2014 #9

This message was self-deleted by its author A-Schwarzenegger Sep 2014 #28

Jury let it stand in 4-3 vote HERVEPA Sep 2014 #36

Unbelievable theHandpuppet Sep 2014 #50

But we did get it right on this one: beam me up scottie Sep 2014 #59

I feel the same way Skidmore. eom sheshe2 Sep 2014 #41

Comment sounds tasteless - sadly there's a nugget of truth in it. alp227 Sep 2014 #47

Suggesting that being worried about being homeless and destitute .... moriah Sep 2014 #53

The poster really suggested that? If so I apologize for my misinterpretation and am disgusted. alp227 Sep 2014 #55

The comment that some women will do anything for money and prestige.... moriah Sep 2014 #56

This still happens today and is simply not an artifact of the 1950s. Skidmore Sep 2014 #62

thank you. bettyellen Sep 2014 #73

Just where did you read/hear "Hey, she gets paid well for those beatings." ? Gidney N Cloyd Sep 2014 #2

read the OP. Reading comprehension is essential. boston bean Sep 2014 #3

So is presentation and context. If the whole post is a quote from another site then... Gidney N Cloyd Sep 2014 #6

to you it may. If you would like to address my sentence structure and grammar boston bean Sep 2014 #7

I could only find that phrase on one site. Nye Bevan Sep 2014 #4

yeah, it was somewhere else with this singular statement.. boston bean Sep 2014 #5

Well, using the correct phrase didn't have the tiny number of results he wanted. (nt) jeff47 Sep 2014 #31

That one challenged me to prove that anyone on DU denied white privilege U4ikLefty Sep 2014 #57

After your comment, the direct link to the comment was presented. truedelphi Sep 2014 #87

I watched the video and I was stunned to read that she married him after that. Autumn Sep 2014 #8

you are stunned? why were you stunned? boston bean Sep 2014 #10

I guess just that they weren't married when he did that to her. Autumn Sep 2014 #12

There are many reasons women stay with abusers. MANY boston bean Sep 2014 #14

It's just a comment. I assume you posted this to get comments on your OP Autumn Sep 2014 #17

Am I doing something else beside making comments? boston bean Sep 2014 #18

jury results Kali Sep 2014 #58

I bet I know who wrote that Alert. n/t Tuesday Afternoon Sep 2014 #60

I've seen you post this comment several times. pintobean Sep 2014 #65

Snookums! Tuesday Afternoon Sep 2014 #67

:-) pintobean Sep 2014 #68

now-now, Snookums, It will be okay Tuesday Afternoon Sep 2014 #70

I'm dancing with polly. pintobean Sep 2014 #71

good Tuesday Afternoon Sep 2014 #72

That kind of alert is not uncommon. boston bean Sep 2014 #64

For the doubters: bullwinkle428 Sep 2014 #11

Thank you. Bullwinkle for the assist. Gidney N Cloyd Sep 2014 #13

Was that alerted on? zappaman Sep 2014 #15

I just alerted to test - TBF Sep 2014 #19

Odd. a newbie troll posted not far below that LadyHawkAZ Sep 2014 #35

Seems to have made it throughout the day. F4lconF16 Sep 2014 #21

It has been multiply alerted on. HERVEPA Sep 2014 #37

That is a nicely succinct and informative list/site petronius Sep 2014 #16

This OP is excellent given that skinner has DURHAM D Sep 2014 #20

Do I get one of these? boston bean Sep 2014 #23

Touche,Bean. sufrommich Sep 2014 #26

Well... only if the sexists and misogynists actually get edumakated. DURHAM D Sep 2014 #32

Thank you, boston bean. Skidmore Sep 2014 #22

Domestic violence is silent problem in many households. Thinkingabout Sep 2014 #24

It's not just physical abuse. There are many people who enjoy dishing out mental abuse. BlueJazz Sep 2014 #25

and.... that has hell all to do with a man cold cocking his fiancee boston bean Sep 2014 #27

To me, it's another form of abuse. All types of abuse/power seem to be about degrading the ... BlueJazz Sep 2014 #42

This one wasn't silent, the whole world saw the abuse. They were both charged with assault. mackerel Sep 2014 #29

Makes sense tooeyeten Sep 2014 #30

The right wing family "values" crowd has really pushed the treestar Sep 2014 #33

It truly is complicated. tavernier Sep 2014 #34

Exhibit 1 in how the jury system fails Gormy Cuss Sep 2014 #38

Too often, it fails WOMEN. theHandpuppet Sep 2014 #51

It says that they still go to admin for review - TBF Sep 2014 #63

And then..... Gormy Cuss Sep 2014 #66

The fact that the beatings are happening isn't nearly as disturbing as the defense of them. Spitfire of ATJ Sep 2014 #39

Really? Paladin Sep 2014 #69

Sure... Spitfire of ATJ Sep 2014 #82

a very depressed k and r that this sort of thing NEEDS to be reposted again and again, even niyad Sep 2014 #40

I'm glad you're taking this up BainsBane Sep 2014 #43

Some people will put up for anything for money IkeRepublican Sep 2014 #44

Thank you. Starry Messenger Sep 2014 #45

according to MRA stats, this was reciprocal violence where the woman was the aggressor geek tragedy Sep 2014 #46

Another reason, Hoppy Sep 2014 #48

Thank you for posting this. Dont call me Shirley Sep 2014 #49

Thank you once again, boston bean. liberalmuse Sep 2014 #52

Good OP. greatlaurel Sep 2014 #54

Thank you boston bean. lovemydog Sep 2014 #61

form juror 4 :"We'll see how strong their love is if she leaves him when he's not bringing in ...... bettyellen Sep 2014 #74

what jury was that in reference too? boston bean Sep 2014 #75

I alerted on the OP calling her stupid. Guess DU approves of that. bettyellen Sep 2014 #76

Thanks for posting. pintobean Sep 2014 #81

Truth. IdaBriggs Sep 2014 #83

You're proud of that? pintobean Sep 2014 #85

Being stubborn in general? Yes. IdaBriggs Sep 2014 #86

Thank you for letting me know who it was. IdaBriggs Sep 2014 #84

But to be fair some women will do the same things for love too LynneSin Sep 2014 #77

My point was it isn't about "the money". boston bean Sep 2014 #78

Neanderthals still walk the earth. redstatebluegirl Sep 2014 #79

Good points in the op, and I'd add... Mike Nelson Sep 2014 #80