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10. Shame on me?

Reply to 951-Riverside (Reply #8)

Tue Sep 9, 2014, 12:27 AM

Sep 2014

for what? To wonder why a person deliberately stays with an abuser. That is absurd.

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Don't ask why Janay Palmer married him. Ask why anyone would blame a victim. [View all] Triana Sep 2014 OP

thank you for this bettyellen Sep 2014 #1

I want to hug her. Here's this beautiful girl apologizing for 'her role' roguevalley Sep 2014 #21

100% Dorian Gray Sep 2014 #35

Not being an NFL fan- I missed this story. Sooo fucked up on so many levels and brought to you by bettyellen Sep 2014 #38

First off, what does her relative physical appearance have to do with anything. DrewFlorida Sep 2014 #39

"First of all" she looks just like my neice. Secondly, she is beautiful. roguevalley Sep 2014 #41

Your comment that she is beautiful is incredibly sexist, are you suggesting if she was... DrewFlorida Sep 2014 #43

The man is empowered by the owners and the fans of pro sports. I refuse to support them. NYC_SKP Sep 2014 #2

Keith Olbermann made a great point exboyfil Sep 2014 #3

Dear Gawd, sheshe2 Sep 2014 #4

People often like to judge what they clearly do not understand. And when a woman is involved... Triana Sep 2014 #5

I thought that as well. Skidmore Sep 2014 #28

No one is blaming her ann--- Sep 2014 #6

Re: "It's not "blame" to wonder why a woman who has been so horribly hurt would marry such a man" 951-Riverside Sep 2014 #8

Shame on me? ann--- Sep 2014 #10

read up on the psychology of abuss, ann---. It is strange but real. roguevalley Sep 2014 #22

No it isn't blame Demobrat Sep 2014 #12

It is not blaming Quantess Sep 2014 #33

I never agree with Ann---, but she is correct here. HERVEPA Sep 2014 #51

You are wrong on this. KarenS Sep 2014 #52

Between episodes of abuse, abusers are EXTREMELY manipulative. moriah Sep 2014 #11

In the Jekyll/Hyde personality of an abuser, the monster is the only real one. Triana Sep 2014 #16

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No, that's exactly what you're doing. LeftyMom Sep 2014 #20

Your rambling ann--- Sep 2014 #26

you wish they were rambling. LeftOfWest Sep 2014 #31

HI LeftyMom. I want to interject my feelings on this because I AM a black woman who's survived Ecumenist Sep 2014 #32

I too was abused by my father as a kid justiceischeap Sep 2014 #34

Hi Justice, I agree with your assessment of the the fact that not everyone is as Ecumenist Sep 2014 #40

No, it's not blaming TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2014 #37

It helps if daughters have a good male role model justiceischeap Sep 2014 #42

I agree. TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2014 #44

Yep, TexasMommaWithA Hat, I cannot get my head around this. I didn't have much of a choice when I Ecumenist Sep 2014 #48

Glad to meetcha back! TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2014 #53

I had a problem with my self worth for a little while when I was a young teen but a STRONG mom, Ecumenist Sep 2014 #54

I am so, so, terribly sorry you've been put thru all that. AverageJoe90 Sep 2014 #55

How do you know this? Your quote below; cwydro Sep 2014 #45

Because that's how abusers work, and note my use of the word almost. LeftyMom Sep 2014 #47

OK, I agree with how abusers work. cwydro Sep 2014 #50

What's with your screen name? LeftOfWest Sep 2014 #30

Seriously? cwydro Sep 2014 #46

Whatever they think their reasons are BainsBane Sep 2014 #7

Yes. KitSileya Sep 2014 #9

The answer to that question is simple ann--- Sep 2014 #13

Questioning why she doesn't leave makes it more difficult for the victim to leave. KitSileya Sep 2014 #14

How? ann--- Sep 2014 #15

Our shelter here is building pet space because the abusers kill the roguevalley Sep 2014 #23

It is victim blaming BainsBane Sep 2014 #17

I'm not blaming her - far from it MaggieD Sep 2014 #19

It was so creepy how he prompted her to apologize for her "role in the incident" SunSeeker Sep 2014 #25

Blaming the victim is disgusting get the red out Sep 2014 #27

Why someone chooses to stay with someone else.. sendero Sep 2014 #29

This message was self-deleted by its author Threedifferentones Sep 2014 #36

Ida know Capt. Obvious Sep 2014 #49