Don't ask why Janay Palmer married him. Ask why anyone would blame a victim.

[KitSileya]

14. Questioning why she doesn't leave makes it more difficult for the victim to leave.

It creates an atmosphere that tells the victim that because she didn't see through him to leave him immediately, she is to blame for what happens to her, That is enabling abuse.

The reasons why victims don't leave have been amply documented in several threads here on DU, both through research and personal anecdotes of survivors and of families and friends of survivors and of those who did not survive. Leaving an abuser is the most dangerous part of an abusive relationship. In the UK, more than two women a week are killed by their abusers. The risk of death is very, very present. Yet the abuse apologists at DU would rather ask her why she doesn't leave in order to cast doubt about how bad it really is for her - after all, she doesn't leave him. That is their mindset. And doing so makes it more difficult for her to make that decision, and because they make it more difficult, morally, they are abuse apologists.