Don't ask why Janay Palmer married him. Ask why anyone would blame a victim.

[Ecumenist]

32. HI LeftyMom. I want to interject my feelings on this because I AM a black woman who's survived

physical, emotional, verbal AND sexual abuse as a child. I literally told myself that as a child, I didn't have a choice but when I was grown up, I would and I would NEVER allow ANYONE to put their hands on my, come hail or high water. Now, I will tell you that THE FIRST THING I asked if WHY SHE MARRIED HIM.... I was so determined NOT to allow another iota of abuse into my life that I was engage 7 TIMES and LEFT T3 OF THOSE SOB's at the altar.

I don't get it because I am both a survivor AND BLACK woman I could NOT wrap my head around someone who stays with someone like this. I am NOT blaming her...but I just don't get it. I LEFT men who showed anything approaching the abusive ways of my cowardly, lying, TAH-WISTED father who thought NOTHING if beating his own AND ONLY daughter. I DO KNOW EXACTLY what I am talking about and have the HEALED FRACTURES TO PROVE IT. I think someone needs to intervene and get that poor girl some protection and remove her from this mess because from what I saw, eventually, HE WILL KILL HER. I was RAPED at 5 for a FULL YEAR by a GROWN man...then had the luck to be called a whore and told that I would be a prostitute and drug addict from 7 YEARS OLD! I was BEATEN my "father" whenever he was angry at my mother, ( too much of a coward to threaten her) from 7 until I was almost 21 years old when I was a MONTH out of emergency surgery and he broke into my house and carried me BY THE NECK down my front walk on a Sunday while my neighbors WATCHED and not ONE of those bastards so much as called for the correct time. I finally fought back, punched him in the jaw ans broke my nails off in his skin because he was trying to kill me and noone was trying to help in any way. Suddenly, he couldn't get away from me fast enough and actually left a shoe in the driveway. I called the police but because they hadn't seen it, they would arrest me if they arrested him. I was 110 lbs 5'5.75" in height. He was 6'6" and almost 300 lbs. REALLY? At the time, they said, their hands were tied and they wanted to take him in.

I believe it's a legitimate question as to why she married him AFTER he beat her in an assault that looked like attempted murder to me. I made that decision that I would NEVER allow ANYONE, (MAN, WOMAN OR BEAST) to lay a finger on me and I've kept that promise to myself.

I had NO problem WALKING AWAY from 7 fiances, 3 of them at the altar and 2 were wealthy, one a BILLIONAIRE but no amount of money was worth giving away my safety and well being to someone who was too weak to talk like a decent human being and solving everything with a fist, whether verbal or physical. I believe it's a legitimate question people have because MOST people cannot imagine staying with, let alone marrying someone who would come so close to killing them and then, not only lying about it but getting their victim to take part of the blame. I. DON'T. GET. IT!! I just don't understand how she would stay with that cowardly lying son of a bitch. I have had so many injuries, (green stick fractures, no displaced fractures, etc) and looking back at it, it's amazing that I survived with some semblance of sanity. It's not blaming her at all to wonder why she would marry this guy after what he did to her. It makes me think that she either grew up in place where she saw this abuse AND/OR he'd been beating the 'ish out of her for some time before and had literally beaten her into submission. DAMN SHAME!